I had Goldie for 15 yrs & still miss her!! She was 16 when she died of splean & liver cancer (I never knew she had it) & her hind legs were paralized. I had to put her down. I didn't want her to suffer. I now have a 5 mo old pup choc lab that reminds me of Goldie. Do u think Goldie minds? I will love Goldie till the day I die probably longer but Smokey my new pup I love a different way & she does alot of the things Goldie used to the same way! Is it wrong for me to love the pup & still love Goldie? If I had to chose between either I would choose to have Goldie back! I know I can't so Smokey is the next best thing. I waited 4 mo then picked up Smokey from the street (literaly Next door neighbor abonded her.) DO u think Goldie is mad @ me 4 having the pup? I still cry myself 2 sleep some night over Goldie & Smokey always curls right up to my side to sleep just like Goldie did when she was alive. Why Do I feel like I'm dishonoring Goldie memory by loving Smokey?
2006-12-06 19:01:19 · 13 answers · asked by Missy 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I always figured that the dearly departed would want you to pass on your caring and love to a new pup in need since Goldie taught you how to be such a good care giver. I think your Goldie would be quite proud of you for continuing to live and love, providing a good, happy life to another dog. I don't think your Goldie would want you to pine away, not sharing all your kindness when there is such a huge need for it these days. And I'm sure you'll find that in time Smokey will become as important to you as Goldie did, never overshadowing what you had with Goldie but different, just as strong and good so you can continue to love Goldie and cherish her memory but also love Smokey and create new memories.
2006-12-06 19:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reading your post it brought tears to my eyes, because I felt the same way as you did and at times I still do, and probably always will, when my Cat of 20 years had to be put down, due to blood infection...The grief we feel is like losing a friend, I felt really quilty 6 months ago when I brought another kitten, it took me ages to feel comfortable, I felt quilt ect.
But I now know that the love I had for Timmy will never go away and the memories will always stay with us....Goldie would be so happy knowing that you now have another friend, that you will take great care of and love it like you did Goldie..
I truly believe it in my heart that she is happy for you and is glad that you have found away to cope with your grief, she would not like you crying over her, so please please don't feel as if you are dishonoring her.
Just by thinking about her and the memories you shared is all that is needed...
It's time for you to now focus on your new little one...
I wish you all the best and have a very merry christmas and give Smokey a big hug from me..
2006-12-06 19:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this question has almost made me cry because i lost many pets too :( but dont worry Goldie will be happy for you,i know its hard but adapting to ur new pet might help ease the grief its not bad to miss Goldie but too much might bring down ur health.pls sleep well dogs are like humans so they also watch over us..i know that Goldie will be happier if u care for Smokey ur not dishonoring Goldie at all she will be very happy and dont worry chances are u'll see Goldie and the dearly departed in 30-40 years ok? dont be sad life can be tough but u can be tougher
2006-12-06 20:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Goldie is happy for you! She only wants you to be happy..It is an honor to her, for you to see a bit of Goldie in your new puppy, as it helps to keep her loving memory alive..and reminds you of the good times..
2006-12-06 19:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Chetco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe in re-incarnation? maybe you still do have Goldie, only in a 5 mo. lab.... I think Goldie would be happy for you because she knew you needed to fill the void of loosing her.
2006-12-06 19:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by JO K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Goldie would love Smokey and I am sure she wants you to love Smokey as well.
2006-12-06 19:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not...she is probably happy for you that you got your self a companion....I am sure Goldie knows that you still care and love her.
2006-12-06 19:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Goldie will be pleased that you have a new companion.
Sleep Well!
2006-12-06 19:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by tomkat1528 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Goldie would be pleased that you have someone who willl give u unconditional love
2006-12-07 02:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by shubn_nandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she'll send powers to the pup that will make him the fastest husky in the world, breed him in 2 yrs and you can raise the fastest dog sled team with his mates puppies,
2006-12-06 19:11:16 · answer #10 · answered by rattagous70 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋