I used to be in "love" with my now current boyfriend. To make story short, he has said some things in the past that have really hurt my feelings. Now, although he hasn't been saying these things to me...I still feel like those words are still there and gnawing away at me. I want to get better. But, I can't. He has sincerely seemed to have wanted to change, but I hear those words over and over in my head when I look at him or when I kiss him.
I still love him though. I'm so confused. Is a relationship like this mendable, or does it only get worse? I know only my heart can tell the answer to this.
P.S. You can read my other ?'s if you really must know some of the things he has said.
2006-12-06 18:58:33 · 10 answers · asked by zombiefrog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe a period of separation will do some good. Not to necesarily date others but so your head can get clear without him around and you can figure out for sure how you really feel about him. It also will either make him appreciate you or the opposite. Either way it will bring out the truth about how you feel.
2006-12-06 19:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps the issue you are dealing with is underneath the words he said to you. Maybe it's knowing that he is capable of being so hurtful. If it was a one time shot and he said he was sorry and it seemed sincere, I'd forgive and cautiously give it another chance. If he's done it several times, apology or not, he is not sorry and will continue to do this. If this is unnacceptable behavior for you to have a decent relationship (I haven't read your other ?s), then you should tell him and not allow it in your life, even if it means having to let go of the relationship if he doesn't stop. Deliberate hurtfulness is totally uncool in a relationship. It should be about enhancing each others, and our own, lives, not about using the other person to "pay the price" for the wrongs one has experienced by others in the past.
2006-12-07 03:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY HEY HEY im not gonna point fingers but if he said anything to hurt u as long as u r with him u r gonna feel like that al the time simply if u do mend it a piece of shreded matal is gonna hit u in the face,so just dont try to mend it or cover it up its allgonna come back at u
2006-12-07 03:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by gamea99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through the same thing..you just gotta keep telling yourself he was mad or he didnt mean them..thats all i know to do..even though he apologized they still hurt. I hope time will ease the pain.
2006-12-07 03:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by georgiabelle87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its mendable, if you can let it go, it was in the past and im sure hes appolagized or whatever about it, i say leave it in the past, or your relationship is doomed
2006-12-07 03:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by kydd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurm.. yeah... once uve been hurt by words.. its hard to forget em.. it all depends on how much u love him.. are u still in love with him as much as u used to be.. dont torture ur feelings over some harsh words.. just. forgive and forget...
2006-12-07 03:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by [MiA] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forgive and hope for the best.
2006-12-07 03:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump his sorry butt til he learns to respect you.
cut off all communication... you don't need his garbage in your life.
2006-12-07 03:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by KathyB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can surely be mended..i think...u shd..nt scoldingly or angrily..tell to him his mistakes...if he agrees..then it's k...which he will i think...this will also..get..ur mind bak...
2006-12-07 03:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mukul S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only gets worse..............
2006-12-07 03:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋