Help me please!!!!!!!!?

Question

Why do us girls give the boys all our hearts and soul and then they just turn around and stomp all over us????????????
were we created for that or do boy like to play the game that girls cant?

Answer 1

Understanding Men

There are FASCINATING biological reasons for why men act the way they do. But the reasons that are the most important for you to understand right now aren't the "scientific" ones. There's a big difference between what can be called as the "masculine" energy and the "feminine" love or energy.

The Feminine energy grows with fullness, praise, connection and love, to allow a kind of "surrender" in all kinds of joyful experiences. With sex, women surrender to the experience with a man through love and connection, which can make the man and woman as one. But the masculine energy doesn't work this
way. At least not in the "darker" part of a man.

The masculine energy is VERY different. The masculine energy seeks to break through challenges all alone and arrive at its desire - "emptiness" and "freedom". Have you ever heard a man talk about how he wanted his "freedom". This "freedom" or emptiness is actually the masculine means of surrender and fulfillment. Just as the feminine means is connection and loving. Ever noticed that lots of men fall right to sleep or act like they're off somewhere else after sex? There are tons of pop-culture references to men doing this in TV, movies, books, etc. People know that men often behave this way. It's "conventional wisdom". But most people don't really know

WHY men act this way?

Have you ever thought about why so many men have a strong addiction to watching sports events. Well, each game is setup in a specific way that draws a man's emotions into the experience. At the center of each game is a person or a team that rises up to overcome. It's a kind of trial where a man will break through hardship, competition and challenge. And when a team or player scores a goal celebrates, something fascinating takes place.

The man "breaks through" the challenge into "freedom" and the final emptiness of victory. Then the men will celebrate as though their greatest desires have been fulfilled and cry out as they never have before.

How does this relate to dating, love and sex?
With sex, a man doesn't "surrender" to love and connection the way a woman does..unless he learns to. And yes, a man can and should learn how to surrender himself with his woman to love. But instead, men often seek the physical challenge of sex as a goal unto itself, where they can break through to a temporary "freedom" and emptiness.

Notice that in physical experiences with women, or in life for that matter, most men don't have the same strong drive to be deeply and unwaveringly CONNECTED to the people around them like most healthy women do. Often times, they're driven by something that has nothing to do with love, intimacy and connection. If they have a woman who gets it, she can lead and challenge him into finding freedom through love and connected experience, not through empty physical experience and isolation.

A man will NEVER see you exactly the way you want him to see you, or value you exactly the way you know you should be valued, if... you're doing things just to seek and win his love and APPROVAL.

They want to WANT a woman, to worship her, to please her, to ravish her, and to sweep her off her feet with their physical and emotional presence. And for the woman to be utterly and completely taken with them and what they do. I'm sure you've seen or heard this kind of male fairy tale many times.

So why don't men just act this way with women if this is what they want?

Because most women don't create the experience that will make a man FEEL this way. There's a drive in men that makes them want to be CHALLENGED... and to overcome that challenge. I know it sounds cliché, but it's true. Men want to be challenged by the idea of meeting, attracting, and pursuing a woman. And then they want to win the woman over and feel stronger as a man for having done it.

Men deal with this in one of two ways:

1. They find more "freedom" and emptiness by physically being with a woman in the short term
or
2. They find connection and love by physically AND emotionally being with the woman in a deeper and "longer-term" way

A woman helps him choose which it will be with her. The point is, men LOVE the chase. Some men might tell you that they don't. They do. Men love the chase and the challenge not in their "logical" minds, but down where it counts that is in their FEELINGS and EMOTIONS. It's part of their genetic make-up.

But if a woman loses control emotionally, seeks HIS APPROVAL or thinks she can trade sex to receive love before a man's experiencing an intense desire to WIN HER OVER and to be with her, then something bad happens !!!
The man loses that feeling of excitement and challenge with her. He recognizes that the woman has already given over physical and emotional CONTROL to him. Which destroys the strongest "lead-in" to creating lasting love with a man.

Answer 2

Probably because you chasing the Top Guy(s), the ones everyone else wants and always have, they know they can get more anytime so have no appreciation for women. Try finding a guy that spends more time working on his character than the rim's of his car.

Wow jacky that was cold.

Answer 3

you do it to your self you never give your heart to the good guy so you get what you all deserve i am happy to hear of your heart being stomped and maybe next time you will get the good guy and if not stomp stomp stomp

Answer 4

I can't agree more. I was in love with this guy for two years . And even though he knew it, he pretended that he didn't. He constantly flirted with me two years ago, stealing my heart. A year later, he tore my heart into pieces and threw it away by going out with someone whom I envied since a few years ago.

Answer 5

back up, you can't be serious. Girls invented the games, sadly I can't say that we as men will ever take it to the level of perfection that a women can

Answer 6

because guys are thinking different than girls ,they dont always think about going so far with girls and they like variety..once a guy told me that he only liked hunting girls but when he hunted them he lost his interest ....
we girls should be careful thats all we can do!

Answer 7

i think you should know that all princes start as frogs and all gentlymen as dogs some of us will grow and some frogs will still be frogs and some dogs will still be dogs

Answer 8

because they are dogs