My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. Tonight his mother died. I met him through her. She was one of my customers. We became close friends. I would have lunch with her once or twice a week for years. I met him about a year ago, she introduced us. I fell him almost immediately. He is so caring and kind. He never gave me a reason for the break-up. I assumed it was because of his grief over his mother's cancer. Tonight, I hurt for the lose of my friend, but my heart breaks for him. I called him, but he didnt call back and I understand he is mourning. Is there anything you think I can do for him and his family now except give him space?
2006-12-06 18:33:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may not have called back for many, many reasons. There are so many details with the funeral, and relatives coming from out of town he may not have even knew you had called. He also may be mourning and really just wanted to be alone.
Call again and see if he needs anything...even his shirt pressed out for the funeral. If he doesn't call you back, don't push it further.
But do attend the funeral, she was your friend too. And I am sure he would want you there. Hand him a note that says to call you if he wants to talk.
2006-12-06 18:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by maamu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your concern is appreciable. You should think of souls. Everyone has it. Yes is normal for anyone in this situation to be morning, only time will heal this wound.
I do not know what you want from you, or your life. Are you want him back, just ask him, tell him if you feel it as you made an mistake, but if you feel differently you do not have way.
Try to understand other people situation, see how they were and are, put in their situation and mind, what do you think is normal to do, be, or make, think if what you are. Is just an way of predators, but is very efficient thinking, and bring a lot into an relationship. Is normal to think like that, make you feel concerning. Let others know this feelings, especially him. He will appreciate your concern , everybody will. Tell him because you feel it your unpleasing for the situation in which his mother's put him, and those sincere condolences. He will appreciate this thoughts.
This way you will make easier your way to his hart if you change your mind and see you want him.
2006-12-06 18:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mircea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one.
Do you think he wants you around and is just hurting too much to call you?
ORRRR
Do you think he's hurt AND he doesn't ever want to see you again?
Guys just have a way of dealing with this type of thing. If you think he needs you, then go to the funeral and then slowly try and be there for him. But if you have your own motives of getting back to him, this will end very ugly this time around.
Be careful
2006-12-06 18:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by DW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let him know that you'll always lend a shoulder or an ear. Be there for him.
In the mean time, it's possible he wants the space. BUT his mother just died, and sometimes they really do want someone. Even when they don't show it or admit to it.
I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. :(
2006-12-06 18:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let the family know that you are available if they need to talk, maybe take a cassarole or something - sometimes people forget to cook when something like this happens. Anyway, its one less thing for them to worry about.
2006-12-06 18:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by techie_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know u will always be there if he needs someone to talk to because u care about him. Thats the best thing u can do :)
2006-12-06 18:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes call him one more time if he does not answer again leave a mess. saying you were just calling to see how you are doing tell him if he needs anything for him to call you.
but if he never calls leave him alone. if he meant to be then there is nothing extra you have to do to get him back.
good luck
2006-12-06 18:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always act strange during deaths of loved ones or weddings. stay away for awhile.
2006-12-06 18:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go and visit him... talk to him and make him feel strong.. and try to be his friend now.. coz at such a situation he needs a friend .. so tell him that u r there for him..
god bless u both
take care
2006-12-06 18:42:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are there to support him, and that he isn't alone. so many others, including you, are mourning the loss of this wonderful woman.
2006-12-06 18:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jade Skye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋