my brothers girlfriend is a complete nob!! since they started going out he has changed completely, she is sooo jealous she even accused him of fancying me!! How sick is that!! Me and my brother always got on but she has come between us, its weird when we chat she is really (falsely) nice with me, and through out our conversations she will try and push me into an argument calling my mum saying she wants to slap her fat chops, even resorting to calling my kids and saying my brother hates them, she is so sick and twisted i have kept my cool for soo long and tried my best to be nice, but i cant. i want to tell her exactly what i think of her but i cant for my brothers sakek, i am disgusted with her, she stops my brother from seeing his family, god she is twisted!!! i hate her i really do, and i cant pretend to like her anymore. Shes a proper weirdo and my brother can do so much better! me and my brother arent close anymore cos she has twisted him, what would you do?
2006-12-06 18:25:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She's a complete weirdo i should say. If you really hate her, why bother pretend that you like her? Like you said, she ruined everything and your relationship with your brother, I think its time to spill out those 'disgust' and 'hatred' for her.
Why not take the risk? You said that you and your brother aren't that close anymore, ryt? If that's the case, tell him everything! He may hate you more for that but at least he'll realize how his girlfriend F*cked up your once peaceful life.
She needs urgent psychological help... she's loosing her sanity at a rapid rate...
If it didn't work, try setting her up. This maybe difficult but it's up to you how you will do it - the easy or the hard way, legally or illegally. Do "something" that will make your brother and your mom realize how lunatic she is even if it involves a little lying.
If she's really a pain in the ***, I'd better hire a hitman if I were you... lol ^_^
I hope this helps!
2006-12-06 18:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by Chuwariwap 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think your brother will soon realise she is not what he thinks she is once you talk to him in private. I am more horrified to hear that she rang your mother and abused her on the phone and has even rung your children and falsely stated that their uncle, your beloved brother, hates them. That would have been the last straw right there and then. One of my friends no longer speaks to her brother as he married the witch he was seeing and my friend has never seen their child. Another friend is managed to stage an 'intervention' of sorts to help her brother as his wife is literally trying to have him committed so she can get his assets. Thankfully the family got there just in time. I feel that these women are jealous of close family units and do everything in their power to break it up. It never ends well. Good luck with your brother.
2006-12-06 18:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think saying anything to your brother will do any good, he will only stick by her and fall out with you in her defence.
I would play her at her own game, be false with her, be bitchy about her mother, sly comments if you know what I mean. Wind the ***** up but as not to make your brother suspect you are doing this. You need to make it look like she is being the ***** in front of your brother. Even if she argues with you, apologie and say that you did not mean to upset her, it must have out wrong, then smirk when your brothers not looking - act inocent. It will be fun, honest!
She will get anoyed, start to ***** in front of him. This is going to put a strain on there relationship and I bet she walks or gets dumped!
Dont let her get one over you.
2006-12-06 21:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by benn26k 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly how you feel!! My brother got engaged to a girl a little over a year ago and she is so freaking possessive. When him and her came to visit me at college she grabbed his arm when she saw me and I was like yuck I don't think of my brother that way. She constantly is touching him and rubbing him and it makes me sick! He is 25 so I can't tell him what to do so my solution was moving away from home so I don't have to put up with him. I just deal with it, my thing is both of them are going to have to deal with each other when they get married. I won't have to deal with him. I love my brother but he treats me like an idiot, and like I don't know anything. I am 21 and this girl is 20 and he considers her more mature than me. The only thing I can tell you to do is to talk to him and if he won't listen then let him deal with it. He sounds like he is blind but he will soon wake up hopefully. Just live your life and steer clear of them. May not be the best advice but that is what I have done.
2006-12-06 18:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just engage your brother in a casual conversation and ask him what he sees as this girl's best points. If you bad mouth her, he will naturally resist any further conversation. Instead keep it light and if he trusts your interest, he could begin to think, hmmmm....what do I really like about her. Could be he won't come up with much either. Then you can have an honest dialog. If she becomes really abusive to family members, confront her directly and let her know in very firm words that you will not stand for it.
2006-12-06 18:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Murphyboy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough question. I hope your brother will eventually see her for what she is. The only thing you can do is try to talk to your brother on a very neutral level. Don't talk about how much you hate his girlfriend, just talk about things like how is his job going, how your kids are getting along etc. When and if he decides to confide to you about his girlfriend, then you can tell him exactly what is going on. But to gain his trust back for now, you'll have to pretend she doesn't exist.
2006-12-06 18:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what's "darkness" (John 3:19-21) Who lives in "darkness" (Exodus 20:21) Who created "easy" Genesis one million:3) Who became into the "easy of the international" (John 8:12) Who sent the "easy into the international" (John 12:40 9-50) what's the "easy" (John 3:19-21) you're coping with 2 distinctive GODS, The Serpent and God the father. for this reason there are a number of contradictions, you falsely have been instructed that the God of the OT is the same God because of the fact the NT, they at the instant are not the same GOD, .
2016-10-17 22:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by woodworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry that you have to go true this hell......
I know how it's feels.
I went true the similar hell with my sis....
Unfortunately nothing will change ,,,,,Nothing,,,,,
You can try to talk to your bro.. For a moment you will feel that he is waking up, realizing the problem.... but no no no.... that's just a illusion ,,, Nothing that you try will help....
I am not a religious person... BUT only think you can do just pray that eventually your brother will realize that she is ruining his life,.,,
But even praying didn't help in my situation, so good luck with that...
The only mature thing to do,,,,, Just love your brother... And live him alone.. let him be happy (if that is his happiness, then let it be)
2006-12-06 19:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Stranger 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its your brother's life, why are you so involved? I mean, she sounds horrible the way you describe her, but if your brother is happy why should you care?
I can't stand the "my (family member) could do so much better" crowd. Do YOU want to choose his partner?
Maybe your brother has choosen her because he wants to be less in his family's pockets but he's too scared to just say so. Just get on with your life and let your brother get on with his. Avoid her if you hate her guts.
2006-12-09 12:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by sandwich 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I was faced with the same problem but you have to understand you made your life and he made his your brother will always be your brother, you don't have to accept who he is with but you do have to accept that he chose to be with that person and he will learn from his mistakes and you can easily say hey look just like you chose to be with her i choose not to go around you until she learns to respect the family.
Don't be so jealous of her she didn't necessarily replace you
2006-12-08 17:29:13 · answer #10 · answered by lilyangelita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋