I'm so sad right now, I don't know what to do. My Nana has recently passed away, and I am having a very hard time dealing with it. I feel so lost and alone, and I have nobody to talk to. I love her so much, and I miss her. I'm angry because she left me behind, and I am sad because I can't see her anymore. Everybody tells me it will get better, but it's just getting worse. Every day without her is another day I don't want to be here. What can I do to make myself feel better? I can't stop thinking of her, and it just makes me cry.
2006-12-06 18:23:46 · 16 answers · asked by Artesmia 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Slave to JC-I CAN'T move on. That is the problem.
2006-12-06 18:30:09 · update #1
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. At a time like this, it does not help to hear how "time heals all wounds". You don't feel like sticking around to see if it does or not!
I lost my Mother not long ago, and I think of her often. I have even caught myself going to the phone to call her about something I have heard or seen. I just can't believe she is not there to share my life with me anymore.
The Bible talks about "...joy comes in the morning..."". It is not necessarily speaking of a literal morning. It is also referring to the "morning" when you have grieved as long as you needed to, and are ready to re-enter life. This means that while you are going through the toughest times of your grief, God is right there with you, waiting to give you that joy, as soon as you are ready to receive it. God is a gentleman, and He loves you very much. He knows you need to grieve. He knows you need time. So He waits patiently, sorrowing because you are sorrowing, until you are ready to hear from Him.
When you are ready, all you have to do to receive your "joy" is reach out to Him. Tell Him how you feel, and allow Him in to work on your heart. Before you know it, while you are still reaching out, you will receive your answer. And it will bless you as never before.
I pray you will find your own "sunrise" soon.
God bless you.
2006-12-06 18:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by therealme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sure you know that your nana did not mean to upset you or leave you. In fact, many believe that once a person passes away they can be closer to us than when they were living because they can see into our heart better.
I have one grandmother that I was very upset to see pass away - there was still so much that we could have done together. I asked her when she was sick to please come back and tell me what happens after she passed away - she said she wouldn't because she didn't want to scare me, but that she would send a letter. A couple days after she passed away I woke up kind of saying "Death is just another transition - it's no big deal. We are still very much the same, but in a different existence and we will all meet again." After that I felt very much at peace and very safe - and very sure that it was my grandmother's letter.
It is sad to see things end, but the new is always greater than the old - and you are very lucky to have had the relationship you did have with her. Please - remember that love (like matter) can not be destroyed and you will encounter her soul again. In the meantime, enjoy your life - I think my grandmother loves to see the things I do and my kids etc. She would be very upset to think that her death crippled me.
Peace!
PS - please don't limit yourself by saying you can't move on - you will in time.
2006-12-06 18:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that Jesus conquered death so your Nana is basically just sleeping for a while until Jesus calls to her at the resurrection. It is most important right now that you be ready to meet her when she awakens. This means you must get right with God and do his will so that you will survive Armegeddon. This is not the real life but the Bible tells us that there are so many great and wonderful things in store for us as God's people that we could not even comprehend them all if God were to tell us about them. Don't give up hope. May God bless you and keep you until you see your Nana again.
2006-12-06 18:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I understand what you are going through my grandmother passed away November 10, 1999 @ 9:00am I feel like it was yesterday. However she comes to me in my dreams when I am feeling really sad about the fact that I loved her and hated her all at the same time, I was disrespectful to her and did not understand her ways, and when she died I never got a chance to apologize to her. So If you had a great relationship with her hold on to that love and allow God to use it to heal you. Yes Sweetie weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning. How do you get that Joy? Wake up praising and thanking him for the life that she had while she was here on earth and the love you got to feel from her. Praise him through it, approach the situation praising him in spite of what you are going through the way Job did in the bible. I will be praying for you before I go to bed and my family and I will lift you up in prayer in the morning as well God Bless....
2006-12-06 18:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are grieving. This is a process you have to go through. Today's life is often too fast-paced to allow people to grieve properly. telling people to "move on" is dismissive and insensitive. What I could suggest is to contact CRUSE - crusebeareavement.co.uk, or breavement.co.uk. They both offer a forum, sources of counselling, etc Or you could take some local counselling or psychotherapy - a few sessions might do. Talk to who ever will listen, and at the same time, be good to yourself. When I lost my mother, I was 32, but it still took me 18 months to feel "robust" after it. Bottling up grief causes depression, so give yourself a break.
2006-12-06 19:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear I'm so sorry for this, but you should be strong and fight for life, go alone to some places with great nature view swim, play, write down what you feel on a peace of paper then burn it or keep it in a safe place, work and maker yourself busy all the time and remember its a very short life and if you don't go over your sadness nobody will make it for you because everyone has his own sadness and sorrows
2006-12-06 18:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember that your Nana is in a better place than Earth..you will see her again don't worry. Joy comes with Knowing that God is ALWAYS with you holding your hand, even right now
2006-12-06 18:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some times you need to grieve for a loved one. This too shall pass.
I Cr 13;8a
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Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas
2006-12-06 21:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only time will heal this wound.people can be very insensitive by telling you to move on.my wife passed away nearly 2 years ago.only now am i getting over her death.the sun will rise again and once you are trough the grieving process you will walk out a stronger person.have faith in yourself
2006-12-06 18:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by kobie65 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people who need you. Volunteer to help prepare meals at a homeless shelter. Work with Habitat at their resale store or on a construction site. As you get older you have an obligation to be like your Nana and help others as she helped you. We are counting on you to help us. Thank you for carrying on her spirit and her tradition in her memory.
2006-12-06 18:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by valcus43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋