lol she is so mean! She's not even 18 months yet and my face is all covered up with scratches by HER! She does it when we take away something she isn't allowed to play with and then cries after. I understand that but she also does it to just play with me. She thinks its a game. Grr! How can I stop her and teach her that it is wrong? She is too young to understand anything we say to her. I've tried going "noooooo", then she stops and knows she has been naughty but seconds later she does it anyway!
She gets away with everything because of she is so cute!
2006-12-06 17:48:15 · 14 answers · asked by You Make Me Lol 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Forgot to say she also bites lol
2006-12-06 17:50:20 · update #1
Thanks for the help.. i've tried walking away but she usually gets up on my bed while i'm trying to sleep and it's hard to push her away while i'm in that position. She's pretty strong for a baby. Smart **** too, because she seems to be able to attack me every time I set up a new plan to stop her. She also likes to poke my eyes. Ahhh!
2006-12-06 17:57:42 · update #2
Whenever she does it, stop doing whatever you are doing, and count her to 3, (slow for other things, and really fast for hitting, biting, and such). Tell her, "oh, oh, you broke a rule." Put her on your lap, (they usually don't sit well on their own).She will probably scream, cry, and maybe try to hit, escape etc. Just hold her as gently as you can, without letting her go. If she kicks, you can put your leg over her shins to keep her from hitting you. If she tries to hit you, you just hold her hands under yours. Never push against her chest.
If she is out of sorts, tell her that you will let her down after you are finished talking with her. Then, when she is calm, ask her, "What rule did you break?" (Of course she won't know at this point, but she will learn from practice). Then say, "We don't hit." Ask her, "Can you say we don't hit?" Keep asking her to say it until she does.She may fight saying for awhile, especially the first time. But she will say it eventually,(My son wouldn't say it the first few times for about 20 minutes).
Then, when she says something that sounds like it is a good try for her age, (like " no hit", or "don't hit"). Ask her, "Do you know why we don' hit?" Again she probably won't know the answer. Then tell her, "because we believe in.....(whatever you believe in)... playing safe, and being polite." Or, "we believe in manners", or whatever you are working on.
Then, ask her, "Can you say we believe in playing safe?". Same as before, wait till she's calm, and keep repeating the belief, and asking her if she can say that.
When she does, tell her that her time out is over, but if she breaks the rule again, you will count to three, and when you say three, she will sit in time out again. Make sure she acknowledges you. Keep repeating this process, and you will be amazed at the results
It really works. I tried 123 magic, and all kinds of other time out method, and they never worked well for long. This one sticks, and you can modify the sitting time for older kids, and they respond better too. Good luck.
2006-12-06 18:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by faith2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 18 month old is really still a baby. She is reacting in the only way she knows how, and to her, it's funny. She likes the funny faces and sounds you make when she scratches you. If it's possible, the next timeit happens, tell her, "no, that hurt me". Then when she does it again, get up and walk away (you don't have to leave the room or anything, just get away from her so she can't keep doing it). Try not to react to much to it- the more you say "ouch" or twist your face up in pain, the funnier she'll think it is. She'll learn with time. I know it's hard, but try to be patient. She's not trying to be mean. Good luck!
Oh my goodness! I can't believe anyone would suggest spanking an 18 month old- please don't try that. She's too young to understand. It will just frighten her.
2006-12-07 01:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by Elaine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son does the same thing. He doesn't do it when he's mad, because we've already taught him that tantrums don't work in our house. He does it when he's really happy and we're holding him. At that age they have no impulse control, they are just really happy and want to play they don't realize it hurts us. I just take my son's hands and hold them in my hand, I say "nooo". then I let them go, if he does it again, I do the same thing. He still thinks it's a game, but after a couple of times, he stops. If he doesn't we put him down and look really sad and say, "why did you do that?". It lets him know it's not fun for us and he usually will stop.
Unfortunately, becuase she has no impulse control, she may continue to do it. If you really want her to stop, try the put her down and look sad and say "why did you do that." thing. After a while, if she wants to play she won't want to make you "sad" again so after a while, she may stop. It's not a guarenteed method, but it was an idea given to me by another parent who it worked for.
2006-12-07 09:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by kittynala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you take something away from her or when you guys are playing, make sure your face is nowhere near where she can grab at it and scratch it. Other than that, have you tried spanking her? I know kids can be quite adorable but it doesn't mean they're allowed to get away with everything!
2006-12-07 01:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
She doesn't really understand words yet, but she does understand the tone of your voice. Tell in a firm voice - No, that hurts me. - and turn away and ignore her for a few minutes. When she kisses you tell her oh that's lovely I loke that that is nice and kiss her back. She will soon learn.
2006-12-07 02:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by London Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know it sounds horrible but it worked for me. My daughter bit me when she was young and i bit her back, not bad, but enough to make her realise it hurts and it's not nice, she hasnt doen it since. I know some parents wouldnt agree with taht but it worked. As for the scratching keep her nails short put gloves on her!!
good luck
2006-12-07 08:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by jinglebells 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first, stay out of arm reach.
then you say that she is to you to understand, but she responds to the word no.
don't shout at her, but be firm. and tell that her behaviour is unacceptable, believe me she will understand.
also get her nails cut.
2006-12-07 01:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
break her fingers. No really try to keep her nails trimed atleast so the scratches won't be so bad atleast.
2006-12-07 01:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
cut her nails. grab her hands before she scratches and kiss her palms. she'll like that. and it stopped mine from scratching.
2006-12-07 01:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you by any chance baby sitting an animal? Like a dog or a cat?
2006-12-07 01:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by deb_star_82 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋