i have a major crush.... I need help?

Question

I am 21 years old guy who came to the U.S. to study. I worked as a tutor for a year. I tutored a girl who was very nice to me and used to care a lot about me. As I came here, I faced lots of problems in this entirely new place. But somehow she became my great emotional support and I was able to handle everything. She used to like me a lot and I could feel her love for me was intense. I used to like her too but being in a new place, new culture I was very confused, scared and conservative too. On top of that, my parents would never accept her because I have a culture of arranged marriage. This made me very confused and I couldn't say her anything. After a year, she passed her class. As she departed from me, I could feel her broken heart. After a week she went, I couldn't hold anymore and wrote her an email that I loved her. I know saying that in email is a dumb thing but it was my badluck that day, couldn't hold on that thay day more.

She replied me saying that she had no feeling for me and never replied again. Even to this day, I don't feel a bit that she played with me.
i always feel that I was the one who couldn't understand her. She was very polite and a sort of conservative type girl. It has been six months and I have no contact with her. Before departing, she introduced me with her friend, not bodyfriend as he is married. I am in contact with him though. I feel that he is in contact with her but says that he is not in contact with her. He know couple of things about me that only she knew. He also says that she never talked to him about me. I guess she still tracks of me through this middle guy.
I am 4.0 GPA student and till now I had never fallen in love with anybody, not even a crush. But right now, I have came to a stage that I can no longer study, I cry while I take my exam even though I know the lesson very well.

I have come to an stage where I may be out of status and have to return back. If I return back, I know I would not be a normal person again. My parents gave all the money that they had saved for a decade.
I love her very much but I don't know why she doesn't even talk to me. Cancelled her phone, email and I have no contact with her. She told me that I was inexperienced. I don't know what she meant, but I know she loved me very much, so much that she had even imagined what her child's name would be. Over this six months there hasn't been any single time that I have forgotten her. I try to get past it but I can't, no matter how hard I try. Day by day I am fading out and loosing my enthusiasm for life. Please give me some suggestions.

I know that I have to take the decisions by myself. But when she was close to me I was new, couldn't even understand anything. I don't care if my parents would accept her or not, but I do. I came to know that she dropped her semester.

Answer 1

I sincerely hope that you don't have to return back(home), before you want to. Your parents put a lot of time and effort into educating you,to prepare you for life. With a 4.0 GPA, I don't think that they will be disappointed. There is nothing wrong with
being inexperienced, or conservative. Maybe your girl was afraid
that she was getting too close to you and might not have wanted to get more serious with you than things had already become.
When you are close to a person they usually feel what you are feeling , and that's probably why she ran away ., "fear". Some people can't handle deep emotion and they run when things get too real, I believe you are right about her keeping up on what you are doing through her friend too. If she was not concerned about
you she would'nt be trying to find out what you are doing now that you two are no longer in touch. Sounds to me like she is hiding her true feelings ,turning off her phone,and Email, for only two reasons, 1. She 's just as in love with you as you are with her,and
2. She's afraid of what might happen if she admits it .
(Try finding out where she goes and just go there in person and see if she will talk with you and be with you , instead of trying to send emails ,and make phone calls . "Face to face ",encounters have more impact than (cells and E's). I have a feeling you'll be more successful than you have been in the past. I wish you all the best ,Love.

Answer 2

Well, I too am in a situation similar to yours. This is an advice from a friend of mine that I hope would also help you. First and foremost, "Never center your life to a single person, for when that person disappears living that life of yours is worst that death." Second, if you truly love her, do what you have to do, don't just tell her that you love her, make her feel it not just hear it. And if its still not worth it, go on with your life, why would you love someone who can never even return a fraction of your love. There are things that man can never change yet we can change to change them. Get over it, she may not be the one who should deserve the great love that you have. You have a great life that you shouldn't turn your back from. The parent's that supported you until now. And a great love to give, not just to a single person, instead spread it and divide it. Don't loose all of these things just because of this dilemma. Your a man yet you act as a gay, face rhythm of life. MOVE ON! and BEAT IT! - From Michael Jackson ^_^

Answer 3

You didn't strike while the iron is hot. It's a bit late. The love she had for you could have died out already or you could have un-intentionally hurt her feelings so bad that she give up on you. In anyway, it's time for u move on & dun go chasing after no more cos' i am sure you are not her knight anymore.

In life, we need to be decisive. Opportunity doesn't knock & stay there in your front pouch forever. Face it, u nvr grab at that time & it disappear into thin air.

You are a man, live, decide & face it like a man. Dun "sisi".

Think about the all the efforts your parents have put in to groom u & to shape u, and you come back a half dead man with your soul drifting "u dun even know where". Where is your filial piety?

Just forget her & keep that beautiful memory of her in the past & again i say - u better move on with life.

Answer 4

Look sweety. Get over her. Life has so much more. If she wants you... She will return. There are so many other good girls out there. If you will just stop living for her (someone who doesn't care) u will see that. Good Luck!

Answer 5

good luck