My boyfriend and I are complete oposites!! Im 23 he is 21 we have been together a year next month but we do argue alot! I like to go dancing and he doesnt even like going to any public place, so it makes things a little difficult!! do you think we have a future or am I waisting my time?
2006-12-06 17:05:06 · 16 answers · asked by koral2301 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its true to some extent, like their has to be some things you share interest in to be able to last, and not just the interest of each other either
2006-12-06 17:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by kydd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost a year? wow! that's something! meaning the feelings is strong enough that you still both hang on to each other, actually, you wouldn't believe but most couple when married, that is the time that they discover a lot of things they dislike in each other. But maybe love is all the reason that one accepts the negative and positive side of the partner, for some reason, arguments make the relationship exciting, as long as you don't hurt physically. You maybe arguing a lot, but I'm sure there are things also that you both agree with. So, I think you both need to adjust things, talk about it, and respect each other.
2006-12-07 01:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by odel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes opposites attract but in yours situation you view it differently having diffent age is not opposites, opposites only become good for example if one person is dominant or has a strong personality and the other person is shy, they can be together they can complete one another, the other one is active the other one is mellowed down and shy, they can help in controlling one another, for your case its different, he is an introvert you are an extrovert, i dont think you can work out, my grandfather and grandmother have the same problem, my grandma hates the fact that my granpa is too shy and does not want to go too much in public, they argue all the time, the relationship lasted ,but its not a romantic one
2006-12-07 01:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the people that say that opposites attract to some extent. say you're upbeat and giddy and silly and the guy is more shy and sarcasitc/funny and you're more outgoing and he's more passive but when you two are together you get along well. That's good cause you two balance each other out and make each other happy.With my ex(whom I am seeing if we'll have a chance to get back togther) we both like fantasy and science fiction type of stuff. the personalities I described are him and me. we did real well together. I am usually aggressive but with him when it came to romantic/sexual stuff I was calm and just showed affection,like snuggling on the sofa and holding hands, so he balanced me out, so I wasn't all over him and scared him away. ya know? So you'd have to have at least one thing that you two like to do and get along for it to work out. I stayed in a relationship with my best friend (romantic relationship,was my b/f) but we fought a lot, infact we were too much alike in negitive stuff and I continued to hang out with him after I broke up with him to date my ex that I was just talking about. Still seeing Josh(the guy I am too much alike) really confused and messed things up with George(my ex that I still have feelings for). So basically if things don't seem like theres a future, like if you jus are attracted to each other but don't have much in common, it probably won't last a whole lot longer and eventually you two will break up and it might end badly. I think you need to re-evaluate how badly you want to be with your b/f and why and how strongly you think you might have a future with him. List good and bad points on him and your relationship with him and try to think of reasons why you two are together now and what you two might have in common. stuff like that.
I hope I helped. if you can please read my last question and answer it to help me out.
thanks
Tricia, 24
2006-12-07 01:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by dabluschmosprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time will tell if there is a future between the two of you. as for the opposites attract, there is a study going on that a persons "chemistry" is drawn to that which it lacks, therefore creating the attraction to a person who has what your "chemistry" doesnt have. i thought it was interesting when i read it. could explain a lot if it is true.
2006-12-07 01:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, with the guidance of your mind. Opposites do attract, Im in that same positon myself. Im 20, hes 19. I like dancing, he doesnt. So on so forth. But all I can say is, love is the answer. Good luck to you ^_^
2006-12-07 01:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Broken ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its true that opposites attract to a certain extent, but you still have to have some things in common in order to enjoy being together and doing things together...right?
2006-12-07 01:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by scrappyG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfriend are total opposites...He loves to party and drink and stuff like that and I like to be at home and I don't drink..Yah it is hard at times, but if in a relationship you guys never had an activity you like to do seperatly you'd suffercate...Yah him and I fight sometimes, but we work through it...It takes us being open and honest with each other...I think ya'll can work out just gonna take effort on both part...but good luck!
2006-12-07 01:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only in the movies since it helps the storyline. Its important to have your own interests but on most levels having more things in common brings you closer together
2006-12-07 01:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on problems early in a relationship means a no deal
2006-12-07 01:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋