the last few serouious relationships ive had hve ended but ive stayed pretty close to most of the guys, but my best friend always ends up dateing them and i get relly hurt when ever she dose that... like i went out w/ this guy for a year and she went out w/ him... what shoud i do???
2006-12-06 17:04:55 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She isn't your real friend. Your true friend would respect the fact that ya'll had a relationship and he is off grounds. No real friend would do that especially more than once. Maybe she really hates you. You know keep your friends close but your enemies closer
2006-12-06 17:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Papa V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seriously sit down with this girl and tell her how you feel, and get it out into the open. If you haven't said anything, up until now, she's not going to know what the problem was, that whole time.
Your 'best friend' really can't be considered a 'best' friend, if she does this to you, and doesn't take your feelings into consideration. She likes sloppy seconds, maybe? Or it could be that she thinks you have great taste in guys, and she wants the same thing, but doesn't have the brains to find a good guy, herself, without interfering in your past relationships!! That's actually pretty sad, to think that a friend of yours has to be the 'second' one in line for guys that you've gone out with!!
Just tell her, "Hey, you've overstayed your welcome in my shadow space, and you need to become an equal and do things on your own!"
She has to be pretty insecure to have to stick close enough to you and take on your 'ex-boyfriends'....I mean, does she not have any OTHER friends that she can hang with and find other relationships through??
2006-12-07 01:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I would question your friendship with your best friend. I think respect is the most important value between good friends. It sounds like she doesn't really understand you or how you feel about this. I think you should be honest with your best friend, and question why she would do such a thing if it hurts you to know she did that. Did she ask you first if it was ok. You need to convey your feelings to your best friend, otherwise she will continue to not appreciate how you feel, and she may again hurt you again in the future. Be direct because at this stage, and as your best friend, she is not respecting you.
2006-12-07 02:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by dixon888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is right for your best friend to date your exes so soon after you guys broke up! It almost sounds like she is jealous. If she wants to be like you, then whenever you lose something, she has to have it. But afterall, she is your best friend. I say talk to her, and tell her that you get hurt when she dates your exes all the time. If she is truly a good friend, she'll understand why you are upset, and she may admit why she has been doing that.
2006-12-07 01:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jade Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going through the same problem as you. my last relationship, i had told my best friend everything about .. well everything! and now a couple months afterward, she is dating him. she didnnt even tell me or ask me if i was okay with it. i am really mad at her, because friends do not date ex boyfriends. i am keeping my grounds and not lowering my morals just because she is upset that i am mad at her. i would suggest the same to you. wait for her to confront you, and if not, then she really doesnt care about what you think. i hope everything goes well.
2006-12-10 09:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by browneyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a friend... obviously she's jealous of what you had with them so maybe she thinks she can top you. Not worth being her friend. Friends don't do that. I had that and we started dating again, I had to get rid of her as a friend because she wouldn't stop calling and backing off. You deserve a better friend that won't do that to you.
2006-12-07 01:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by Steffanie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are hurt when your bestfriend goes out with your exes tell her how you feel and be honest. If she doesn't care enough about you to stop then she is not a friend to you.
2006-12-07 01:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I see how you are hurt. I can see if it was only one ex-bF but all. She is wrong. You need to talk to her and let her know how it makes you feel. Now I know that past BF i spast. I know that we shouldn't care that they hook up w/ those we know. But when it comes to your Best friend it think ex's should be off limits. Let her know Girl.... Let her know. and do it with love. If she is true she will understand....
Good Luck.
2006-12-07 01:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by want-my-advice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm. maybe you should ask her why she keeps doing that. And tell her that you feel uncomfortable when she dates your ex. She's supposed to be your friend right.. and theres a rule in dating that you dont go on dating you bestfriend's ex?.. i say.. confront her. and maybe you should treat her as a friend anymore coz she sure hell isnt treating you as one.
2006-12-07 01:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by coldflesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not your real friend you have to end this relationship! Believe me it's for the best! Real friend would never do that !
2006-12-07 01:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋