Is it wrong to be alone or a hermit?

Question

Am I wrong for choosing to try to serve God on my own? I don't feel comfortable around alot of people. I feel like I have an ultra sensitive radar that detects every single evil thing about a person. I don't like it. I don't want to be judgemental. But no matter how hard I try: I can't turn the radar off! I don't try to be this way! Nor do I want to be like this! But it can drive you nuts! Cause you begin looking at everything others do!, instead on focusing on Jesus. I guess I'm a sensitive person. Easily offended and easily ready to defend others! I hate it when people make fun of the less fortunate, the poor, and those with disabilities! I makes me so so so angry! I know all Christians don't do that. But I had my share of bad experiences with these kind of people in the church I used to attend. I'm currently laid off drawing unemployment and have time to think! Which doesn't help either! Why is it so hard for me to not be so paranoid?

Answer 1

Yes And No, If it is easier for you to connect with god on your own, then you are OK.


But god said "Do not forsake the Assembly"

Answer 2

I fell like I lived 66 years to have the priviledge to be alone from people to be with Jesus and the Word and our heavenly Father, and enjoy every minute of it.

I love to study the bible, I will leave the judgement of any up to Jesus Acts 17:31; Rom.14:9-12; Philip.2:5,9-12; 2Cor.5:10; Heb.9:27 It is appointed unto man once to die and after this the judgement.

Drop the idea of paranoid, Gen.8:21 the imagination of man's heart is evil from his youth.
Just because you can sense the imaturity and intent of the behavior in others as a fact and also see that it is there. Look at all that is there before people attempt to learn the fruits of the spirit. To apply it.
Gal.5:19-23 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, 20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, 21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

Imagine Jesus. He knew the thoughts and the intents of the hearts of the Pharisees as well as the apostles as well as Judas Iscraiot.
Jesus was the first to get the word from God, John 10:34-36 Jesus called them gods to whom the word of God came, the more you know of the power in it as Heb.4:12; the more you see just how few fit into it as 2Tim.3:1-7 for these last days.
It does not mean that you are judging. Do not judge for others, just you. You just know what kind of person Jesus had to be to become savior of the world and that is a friend so hard to find.
Rom.5:8-11 While all are enemies.
Do not worry about it, Jesus has it covered. Thank God that Jesus could do what he did, there are so few that can take up their cross and flollow him and he tells us all about it Matt.10:34-38; Shake the dust off you feet is to turn that situation over to a higher power and move on.
Also God gives the proper food at the proper time, if you have a whole picture, those that do not someday will. You have to let it be. One not a part of the disciples, had one complaining, Jesus said, let it be, whoever is for us, how can he be against us. Sometimes you can not help a situation or some one, they are to busy going against their self. Let it be. It is God's business. Philip.2:5,9-12 has to apply.

Answer 3

I have the same exaggerated sensitivity, and I know how you feel. It's agonizing being around most people because you can feel their energy. Most is negative. You find yourself hiding alone in your house and bedroom most of the time. Working a 9 to 5 around these people and their tiny, limited little "grab, gimme, get" mentality almost kills you like razors scarring steadily across your skin. And then they want to call YOU strange. :(

You feel surprised at how dark and selfish most people's energy is, too, and that hurts you because you don't exist that way, and cannot understand such a limited mindset. Then you feel small, weak and outnumbered, because only you and a very tiny handful of other people share this sensitivity.

Well, you are not alone in this. Google "starseed" or "lightworker". I found some helpful materials at some of the sites listed that helped me to cope with this condition and explained some of the problem. It's still never going to be easy, though. I'm not sure if I believe all that I read at these sites, but they made much more clear than had been before.

You might also try looking through Dr. Michael Newton's book "Journey of Souls" for a REAL explanation of what is happening to you and why. There is also a Chinese book that helps you as a kind person toughen up in this strange and selfish world. I wish I could share the name of it with you, but the dark-souled people reading this will quickly seize hold of the book and make it too popular. They don't need its secrets: you do.

I will wish, hope and pray that the book is given to you as it was given to me. It really helped me strengthen myself as a sensitive person in this world. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I think you OK. We are social creatures to some extent. I keep more to myself, I not go to Church. I interact with people at the stores and help when I can. I have a few friends close, I can go drink a few Beers and not have someone telling me it a sin. I know what the Bible says and what Jesus did. As far as America is concerned most people know about Jesus and He said if they not accept the Good News go on down the road, so, I not need to tell anyone about Jesus unless THEY ask me. I not have to worry what others do, Jesus warned me of that, so, I would not worry. I wish I could tell you something special to help you. But, you like being alone, I not see anything wrong.

Answer 5

It's fine to back off and be alone for awhile, but--if you're trying to serve God that does include being involved with your fellow man. Don't look at the people making fun of the less fortunate-look at the less fortunate and strive to help them. Stand on their side and do what you can to make life better for them. You can't serve God by sitting alone in your room thinking about it--the power of prayer is great but--you need to get out "amongst 'em" and do something! Don't get angry and defensive--but be there for someone who's in the same boat you are. There's alot to be said for moral support!

Answer 6

Satan is working on your thoughts. He wants people to stay away from others that can build each other up. The Bible says where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am in the midst. It is good to spend time with God alone, but don't stay away from other Christians. Yes there are people who pretend, and there are real Christians. We all make mistakes in life. Don't condemn anyone for their sins. Only God can truly judge. There is a lady in our church just like you. She looks for all the neg. in a person. Don't focus on the Neg. Always look for the positive in a person. Don't get burned either. Find a church where people are caring, and want to serve the Lord.

Answer 7

Morals are geared towards people INTERACTING with other people. To be virtuous usually involves benefitting society.

However, in the end, spirituality is a personal journey. Helping society has great pragmatic value, but when you're talking about you and God, that is what it is- YOU and GOD.

Psychologically, it really might be good for you to give yourself a break from people. It's easier to step back, contemplate the nature of humans, come to an understanding about their "evil," and forgive them when you're not actively surrounded by them.

Being alone with God will not only allow you to grow closer to God, in the process you will learn how to love your fellow Men.

Answer 8

you already have the answer. first all christian are not the same some are just pretenders while others are sincere. i think the first step is to inquire about a bible based church that is focused on God and not gossip. secondly you yourself must realize that you're not helping the matter. you must overcome doubt fear and misunderstanding the bible says two cannot walk together except they agree. so you will not feel comfortable until you yourself learn to agree.BONUS JESUS SAYS were two or three are gather in my name i' am there also. this scipture proves you need to be active w/ others

Answer 9

It's not wrong unless you plan to stay that way forever. I understand what you are trying to say though. The only thing I can tell ya is the only way to grow is through experiences. Whether they hurt or not, we learn & grow from every day things including interactions. I hope you find your way among people because there is someone out there that needs your help. Get lost in the work of the Lord & you will find yourself!

Answer 10

The live of a hermit is reserved for only a few. And those people are members of a Religious Order and have lived in community and learned how to deal with the "solitary combat of the desert". The rest of us need to interact with others. There is a real reason for this. The people who annoy us and in whom we see all of the shortcoming of the human race will help us to grow in Christ. It is easy to be a Christian in your room. It is not so easy in the company of others. They are there to help us grow. And the other Christians are there to be our support in times of trial. If you did not like the fellowship in the church that you were in find one that fits you better. Like anything in life the more you do it the better you will be. Like ridding a bike, practice talking to people and before you know it, you will be just pedding along like a pro.

Answer 11

You need to assemble to find God's approval (Hebrews 10:24,25) but perhaps you just haven't found the right place to do it yet. The identifying mark of true christianity is found at John 13:35 ... so go looking. There are many other verses that talk about how God is the only one to judge so maybe you need to remind yourself of that and of the importance of having a proper view of yourself. Remember that we are ALL imperfect.