ok so im 18 just in case u think this is some stupid kid thing but anyway....ive been with my girlfriend for 11 months now it will be 1 yr this sunday the 10th things have been good to a point and she is always talkin about marriage and wants to be engaged like right now but we are always fighting as of late and the more we do the more i think about if its rly love or im just used to what i have if that makes sense, but there is a girl i work with who i am starting to talk to and be friends with who i think is attractive and im almost certain she thinks the same in me...so do i play it safe and stay with what i know or if things get worse and the fights dont stop do i take a chance pursuing this girl.... i know it would crush my current girlfriend we jjust broke up for 2 days last week and when i saw her she was crying and rly worked up but i dunno that i feel as strongly as she does but i also dont wanna hurt her like that and risk losing something good..but is it meant to be? help...
2006-12-06 16:44:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every relationship will hit rocky times that's just life. You have to determine if the problems are too much to bear. You are doing the right thing by not cheating and playing it safe because cheating is very wrong and will only come and bite you in the **** later. If you do intend on pursuing anything with the other girl then I would break things off with your girlfriend because there is nothing worse than feeling guilt and hurting the other person. If you do want to stay with your girlfriend then work things out because like I said there will always be points in our relationships where things go bad but then they get better again. Only you can determine what you should do. you will know in your gut what you should do.
Good luck sweetie!!
2006-12-06 17:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are way too young to be getting married. Your girlfriend thinks she is ready but she could do with a little more reality from the world before she settles down too.
If you are starting to become attracted to someone else, and if you feel you are "used" to your life the way it is and are unsure, then no, you are not ready at all to be married.
I would break it off and give this girl a chance to get over you and move on with her life. It's only been 10 months. You should always move slowly in relationships. All girls want to get married so don't send off those signals and expect a woman to give you everything when you are only likely going to be walking out on her.
I caution my daughter about that all the time and tell her to focus on getting her life in order and schooling and college because if some guy ever screws her up she is going to need to stand on her own two feet. 18 is still way too young and neither of you are prepared for the responsibility and committment of marriage and a family. It robs you of your youth...enjoy it...there's plenty of years ahead for marriage.
2006-12-06 16:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get out of the relationship your in and start another, the one your with is trying to tie you down and I think that maybe your a little to young for this.. she sounds like possibly a control freak of sorts and you don't need that.. fighting over getting married is never a good sign... I speak from personal experience on this and think that you need to tell her that your not ready and if she doesn't leave that alone then leave her as fast as you can... your only 18 and you should be having fun right now and not letting another plan out every detail for the next 30 years or so... you should be the one doing that... can you say possessive...
2006-12-06 17:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man if you really don't feel as strongly as she does then there is no use postponing the breakup. If you think she took it hard now then the more you wait the worse it gets. You should definitely never settle for anything, if you like this other girl then take a shot at her.
2006-12-06 16:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by JimmytheKing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning it now, no it's "not meant to be". Nothing is unless you say it is. You are still pretty young. There could be many women in your life before the right one comes along. I say your current girlfriend will be fine. End it now, if you are ready to be looking at others - just be honest about it. Then persue the new one.
2006-12-06 16:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 04:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will experience many women in your lifetime if you don't make a mistake and get married before you're ready. Don't let someone guilt you into staying in a relationship.
2006-12-06 16:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Zac,
Look in the mirror ... your the only person who can answer that......fighting isn't a good thing....and it won't lead to a caring relationship. If your in love with your girl ... you should feel it..... if the feeling isn't there ...time to move on .. your only delaying the inevitable.
2006-12-06 16:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ultimately you know how you feel... if you love the girl youre with... stick it out.. make it work... if you dont love her like you thought you did.. be honest about that... the new girl.. shouldn't have any determining factor.. on what you do with the current girlfriend...
worry about the new girl.. IF you end your current relationship.
2006-12-06 16:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋