I am 13, and I am sure I love this guy. He is smart, nice, hot in my opinion, and so much more. I think he hates me b/c my most trustworthy friend told me he did, and I thought he did before he said that. I've done everything I could think of, and I can't get over him. I've liked him since March of this year. I asked him out like in May, and we were dating for like 3 weeks, but then we (me, my mom, and sis) were gonna move too far away for us to keep going so I broke up w/ him. Guess what? We didn't move, we decided at last minute. Now he seems to hate me, and various peple have verified that. I need help, I have no idea what to do. I can't get over him... Oh yeah, I asked him out again this year and he said no, I was sooo sad, but that was like 2 months ago. I'm considered hot to most guys from what they've told me, I'm smart, and nice, trustworthy, reliable, a shoulder to cry on, I'm there for people... I'm not full of myself though, I'm goin' by friends opinions. WHAT DO I DO???!!!
2006-12-06 16:28:53 · 11 answers · asked by Luvley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie your so young. Believe me, when I was your age I thought that I couldn't get over this one guy and I was going to die if I didn't have him. As soon as I got older I started realizing that there are plenty of guy's that are going to come in and out of my life. You may think he's your world right now, but only time is going to heal your heart and the faster you realize that the better. Personally you're a little young to be dating, but if your mom's okay with it, just be safe. Another tip you can use down the road, if he sees that your not interested in him he just might want you back. It happens a lot. I hope you make the right choices.
2006-12-06 16:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by MILF101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just ask him if he hates you. Don't go by hear say no matter how good of a friend that you have b/c your friend could just be saying that so that yall wont get together and then could be going back and telling him false thing that you have sad about him. So ask him yourself, don't ask him in front of people because you don't know what he might say and you don't want to be embarrassed. One day when yall are alone or have a minute to yourself just ask him and see what he says. Then you will know what is really going on. If all else fails just try to get over it I know that its gonna be hard by u seeing him everyday and I know that its going to take time but just try. You are young and there are many other guys out there that will be happy to be with you if he don't want too. Good Luck and take your time.
2006-12-06 16:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 13 love is a very strange thing. Be careful not to confuse lust for love which i think you are doing. 13 is so young. Remember, you have so much life to live and so many new people to meet. Dont just move on, but try to understand that not all great things last a lifetime, most situations and experiences in life are just for the purpose of learning from them.
2006-12-06 16:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by Papa V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize you don't want people to tell you to get over it, but consider your other options.
a) cry about him and be miserable for the rest of your life
b) continually ask him to go out with you and probably be rejected as a weird stalker
You should continue being his friend, but I promise you, the harder you push yourself on him, the more pathetic you will look and the more he is going to want to run as fast as he can in the other direction. If you be yourself and be his friend, eventually it may work out. If not, you are 13...I promise you eventually you WILL get over it, even if it doesn't feel like it now. Save yourself some dignity and don't make yourself look desperate.
2006-12-06 16:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by mlle-fantine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tuff one. If i were you i would play hard to get. When he is around Surround yourself by other guys and laugh. I don't think you should give up but if that doesnt work try and move on. Go to the mall or something and scope out some other guys. Also have you gotten him alone and just talked it out?
2006-12-06 16:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the first thing i think you need to do is talk to the guy. not from the sources. find out from him once and for all. that way you can really decide what's goin on. your sources may be trustworthy but you never know. still should talk to him. and whenyou do, best to talk to him one on one. in person too. that way nothing or no one can influence what he says to you.if he doesnt "hate" you, then great. figure out what you wanna do. friends or dating again. if he does "hate" you then fine. let him be. you seem to be a really nice girl. and if he does think that, then too bad for him. he doesnt realize how good of a person you are to him. its a loss for him. there are many guys that are out there for you. you just gotta find him. if he does "hate" you, find someone else who truly appreciates you. cuz what's the point in continuing with a guy that "hates" you? you may love him, but love has to work both ways. you are still young so you have plenty of time to find that true love. i am 15 so i know how some of it goes. but i'm not saying that i know everything. i give you this advice based on my own experiences. i will not say that your love or feelings for him arent true. becuz love can be very real even at a young age such as yours. people told me i am too young to be truly in love but i know they are wrong. you just have to go with your heart. but also, think of what's best for you. will it really go anywhere loving someone that "hates'' you? but trust me, you will eventually find another guy that you have the same strong feelings for.so i am not telling you to get over him. find out whats goin on from him and him only, then decide what's best for you. k? hope this helps you a lil. :)
2006-12-06 16:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Trinity A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he probably thought that you made up the whole thing about moving just so he would supposedly feel bad for you or like you more. so he was probably hurt by that and maybe can't get over it... but maybe that's just me thinking that, that's just what it seems like to me. maybe you should just try waiting it out for a while... give you and him some time. theres a quote out there somewhere.. that i dont quite remember but it's something like this... if you love something, let if go away from you, if it comes back its yours forever and if not, it wasnt yours in the first place. haha sorry that's just how i remember it, maybe its not quite right. but i know how you're feeling... i hope things work out for you and good luck!
2006-12-06 16:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not let your friends speak for him. Do not take what other people say about him as the "truth", only he knows how he feels. You need to talk with him about it. There is a possibility he has heard the same about you, and that is why he reacted the way he did towards you 2 months ago. If you really "love" him, then you need to give him a chance to speak for himself.
2006-12-06 16:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by crash 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he thought u lied about moving just to break up with him.. or one of ur friends told him that u did bc they inturn liked him
2006-12-06 16:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
prove to him that u were going to leave the house but nothing happened even tell ur mother that to say yes and he hear her
2006-12-06 16:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋