There wasn't anything concrete, but he asked her what they're doing this weekend and all she said was she had to work...WE'RE GETTING MARRIED FRIDAY!!! When I asked her about it she said we're allowed to have friends right? I'm trying to trust my baby, but at the same time I'm trying not to be a fool. She'll be home from work in the morning, what should I do or say? Should I call off the wedding? By the way we've been dating for 6 weeks, I know it's too soon to be getting married, but focus on the question at hand. HELP!!
2006-12-06 16:15:11 · 22 answers · asked by Willie P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
fist of all congrats!
secondly don't over react to something you're not sure about, ask her about this person on who he is and maybe you could meet with him or talk to him, he might not even be single, but you'll know if she keeps trying to hide it or refuse to let you talk to or meet with him that something's going on
but always remember to put your self in her shoes and listen to her reasons she might make sens :)
and also don't judge the sitution only by reading or listening to the things HE rights or says, he might think something that she's not, so listen to your baby first before anyone else, and try to trust her.
some sighns that might tell you she's up to something is if she get's nervouse, or very angry if you say something bad about him, if she doesn't let you meet him (i mean u guys are about to become husband and wife there shouldn't be any secret friends), and also if she keeps deleting all the masseges and emails from him.
i wish you all the luck, hope you guys have a happy marriage
2006-12-06 16:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by M T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu have no concrete evidence right there brother, don't call off a wedding with someone who you are in love with cause a guy asked her what they are doing this weekend, I know a great deal of girls that ive been with that hang out with guy friends all the time yet came to me in the late night. Just tell your woman that over your dead body will you marry an unfaithful woman and that she needs to come clean, and if you dont believe she will tell you the truth, if you are close to any of her girl friends maybe they will give you the skinny cause they wouldnt want that to happen to them if they were in your situation. Hopefully it's nothing ignorance can be bliss for some, yet I rather know whats really going on. But 6 weeks damn I dont even know if I like a new dog after 6 weeks and you are talking about a human. Slow your roll partner.
2006-12-06 16:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by Officer Jack Mehoff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be snooping on your girl' s phone. That's a complete NO-NO!
Married or not married, you don't go through your partner's things. Everybody has friends even you. Hopefully she's not having sex with her friends, but you should have already knew that six weeks ago. Six weeks is very soon to get married and especially when the lack of trust is already in full bloom on your part. My advise to you, is to not postpone the wedding. Sit down and talk to your fiance about this matter.(By violating her privacy and trust, she may be more upset with you snooping on her phone than she is about the wedding being postpone. When you have some time to yourself, think about how you would feel if she did that to you and accused you of cheating and you're not.
2006-12-06 16:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by Vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To begin with, I M having a lot of trouble with the fact you have only been dating six weeks. I believe you really need to step back and take a good look at your situation.
My suggestion to you that this point is to put a hold on the wedding until you find out where this girl's heart really is.
You said that yourself it's too soon to be getting married and you are absolutely correct. The truth is hard to face, but you really do need find out what she is all about before you make this kind of commitment. Should it turn out that she is innocent and there really is nothing going on and you are comfortable with how it is presented to you, then, and only then, can you make a reasonable rational decision.
Good luck!
2006-12-06 16:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Don't get married yet until you sort this out. If she's hiding your upcoming marriage from her "friend," there's probably something going on there and she doesn't want him to find out about her unsingle and committed status which would scare him off.
Dude, this is a BAD IDEA. Even you can feel it because otherwise why would you have asked? We're just confirming what you already know.
2006-12-06 16:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Adelaida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. This is a difficult question...I have to ask...were you snooping through her phone? If so my bet is she'll be more focused on her so-called invasion of privacy that she'll ignore your question and make you feel like YOU did something wrong.
I don't know your girl so I want to be totally objective here....talk to her. Bring it up. Let her know that well yes you can have friends not mentioning a wedding is kind of a big deal. Feel out her answers...go with your gut.
2006-12-06 16:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother you do need help:
Help pill #1- take with water:What's the rush? You just met the girl so how do you really know her let alone trust her?
Help pill #2-take with alcohol: He could just be a friend....or not!
You're probably sleepy now from the pills and alcohol. Go on sleep it off, all of it. It's just a nightmare waiting to happen.
2006-12-06 16:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by wildblackflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went threw an identical situation with my quickly to be ex husband he lied to me for years about his women human beings acquaintances and that i became to ignorant of trust he may attempt this to me. yet im telling you presently do not trust him if he ought to textual content yet another women human beings asking about her pal and desirous to fulfill her then he has thoughts of dishonest and if he has those thoughts then he's only no longer dedicated to you. trust me I really have experience moved on and without searching got here upon the most fantastic guy ever. no longer all adult males act like this there quite are some adult males accessible that opt to be with you and in common words you're taking damage day from the courting scene. Have slightly relaxing and also you may discover that once you least anticipate it you'll discover someone who merits you. yet trust me in case you're taking that guy decrease back odds are next time you wont locate a textual content message you'll discover that he has really cheated with yet another women human beings and it really is going to damage you worse.
2016-11-24 20:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust her than you shouldn't marry her, but if you still feel like you can trust her then just talk to her about it and good luck with the marriage.
2006-12-06 16:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by vonbankrachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly this does relate to the time you have been together. you haven't had the time to develop trust yet. Yes, postpone the wedding.
2006-12-06 16:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by who said that? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋