Would you be angry that he hadn't come to you first, or would you try to help him any way you could?
(if you dont have a son assume you have a son)
2006-12-06 16:07:52 · 12 answers · asked by JASNJ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This happened to a friend of mine, it was both physical and sexual abuse, she was very upset at her son... she eventually came to terms with it a day or two later
2006-12-06 16:12:15 · update #1
Its not my son, its my friends son... she came to terms with it after i talked to her. she married her spouce about 15 years ago, and didnt want to believe hed do this. (the child is 15)
He is NOT my son
2006-12-06 16:16:22 · update #2
I would first be horrified and then be so angry that my spouse would feel lucky that the police arrested him before I could get out my shotgun and deal with him in a truly justified way. I would support my son through it all and tell him how angry and sorry I was on his behalf and that I never knew what was happening and that I will never understand how I didn't.
Your son is your priority. He is so scarred from this and he needs people to believe him no questions asked and love him unconditionally. He probably felt sorry for you because obviously you loved your spouse, but don't shift your anger towards your spouse onto your son because it is easier than dealling with your grief.
2006-12-06 16:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My goodness this person has to be put behind bars for he hasproven to be a dangeroussspecies and ensure the kids are far away from such a human being for it will ruin their personalities in future if they continue to see the person around for he/she is a wrong influence on them and believe me no parent would want to raise a rapist for a child so be fast if not so you will be raising those kind of criminals to destroy lives of others in the future
2006-12-06 22:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by pretoria_fish 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the relative ages. If my son was 15 or older and my wife was younger than 32, I would think that I shouldn't have married such a young woman. Make room for the new generation.
2006-12-06 16:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Assuming you're referring to whether I would be angry at my son or not, of course I wouldn't be. I would assume he had very good reasons for not coming to me, like fear, shame, etc. I would be the one apologizing to him, for whatever I did to make him think he couldn't confide in me completely, or for thinking that I'd ever choose anyone elses side over his own.
Then I'd call my lawyer and file for divorce.
2006-12-06 16:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jaded 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You mean physical or sexual? I hope its not the second one.
Since I haven't been in this situation, I would do my best to help that boy, to get counseling, help, and all the support he can get. He really needs everyone's help. As for that father I hope he's in jail for eternity.
2006-12-06 16:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by DREENA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that I could forgive my spouse. You see my child is always going to be mine. But I believe that spouses or even boyfriends or girlfriends can come and go. If your spouse thinks that he or she has the right to lay his or her hands on your son then they don't really respect you.
2006-12-06 16:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd get a divorce. I don't believe in child abuse of any kind. I don't understand the second part of your question.
2006-12-06 16:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a divorce asap
2006-12-06 16:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could any mother be mad at their child, how awfull! I think I would have been crying, embrase him & ask for his forgivness that I never figured it out & helped him
2006-12-06 16:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be angry at my son at all, he's the victim. However, I would rip my husband a new asshole, after I divorced him of course.
2006-12-06 16:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by VoDkA 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋