My son is an excellent father! He pays child support every week, takes his visitation twice a week, and really tries to be the best father he can be while he is with her.The problem is that the baby's mom feels he doesn't do anything right. He lives at home (he's 19, baby is 1 1/2, mom is 18 & pregnant again by another man) so now she don't like one thing or other when she is at our house. What do I do? I lost my temper really bad once & have a restraining order against me, but I love my granddaughter & son dearly & can't stand seeing him treated like s**t all the time by her and her family. What can I do?
2006-12-06 15:45:20 · 8 answers · asked by stormy_one67 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i dont know how you could tell her but she needs to get her head out of her asss and grow up. maybe close her legs a bit too.
sounds like shes just a big baby that doesnt know what she wants and then cries when she doesnt get her way.
he's 19. he's a man. he needs to be the one dealing with this. not you. its his turn to be the parent.
2006-12-06 15:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by .. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but it sounds like you need to back off. You talk about you and your feelings, and that you lost your temper and have a restraining order against you, but you don't mention any problems your son has other than you can't stand seeing him treated like s......... You need to stay out of your son and ex's business and just enjoy that granddaughter of yours before you end up losing that right too. Push it too far and you may end up driving your son away too. I can tell you love your son and granddaughter very much. Don't jeopardize your relationship with them by lashing out at that child's mother. Children love their mother dearly, and you will only hurt her if you attack her mother in any way. She will be a much happier child if her Mama and Grandma can somehow manage to at least be civil with each other. Take the initiative and make the effort to treat the mother nicely and with some respect as the child's mother, and you may be surprised how much better the situation may get. I wish you the very best. I hope you can all learn to get along, because you have many years of association ahead of you. :)
2006-12-07 00:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with both of the girls. I'm a grandmother and it is up to
your son to stand up for what he believe is right. If he is paying child support then he needs to take her to Court to get share
child custody. Besides she is with someone else and is pregnant.
Once he has gone to court and has done everything legally, you
don't have to worry about not seeing your grand-daughter. She
will be able to spend more time with both of you, with court order.
Just let him be the Man and A Father to his Child and take care
of business. Just be by his side, tell him what to do, show him
the way, where to go, what to say, thing like that. But let him
do the rest. He needs to do the Adult thing. Good Luck To All
of You.
2006-12-07 00:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i congradulate ur son for taking care of his responsibilities, not many fathers out there like him. Since he is doing everything that he is suppose to be doing and payments are up to date then maybe he should go to cout and see what they can do for him. she is pregnant with another mans child, then what the hell is she doing in your home? if they r not together then what ur son needs to do is worry about his daughter and take it up with the courts only way she will stop her bull ****. tell him to stand his ground, just like a women doeesnt deserve being treated like **** neither does a man.
2006-12-07 00:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does she have to come to your home? Is he not allowed to see his baby without supervision? And if there is a restraining order against you...(I assume it is with the mother?) she should not be coming near you at all. Tell her it is your home and when he has the baby she is not welcome. She sounds like a spoiled brat and obviously cannot keep her legs together. Are you sure the baby is his? Have you had a paternity test? If not, I suggest he has one because it doesn't sound like this gal is faithful.
2006-12-06 23:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by ladygwen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What can you do...continue to encourage your son to be a good parent. Regardless of what his ex thinks as long as he is doing what he is suppose to do he will have a relationship with his child and when his baby gets older she will recognize for herself what a great father she has.
2006-12-07 00:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should be the one to deal with this, he got himself into this mess along with his family he will know the right thing to do
2006-12-07 13:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its his n her daughter so he needs to take charge of this situation. he needs to put his foot down n tell her that she cant control everything, he dont got to put up with it
2006-12-06 23:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋