hey, I am sixteen and my mom died, HELP?

Question

she was pregnet with tweens and we found her on the floor. I will never forget that moment any ideas on how i can can cope. she left me with my brother he is two and i am raising him how do i deal? help please...

Answer 1

I am soooo sorry to hear that! My heart goes out to you, and I hurt for you. I can't imagine the pain you must be feeling! I will definately be praying for you & your family. Do you have a dad around? I really don't even know what to say, but I know that God will help you overcome this! Just trust Him. Things will get better, you'll see! I know it's hard for you too see it know, but someday you will smile again.I promise you!!!!! Good luck to you, girl! I wish I could be there to give you a hug. God bless.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. First I have to ask, are you
living with your father or relatives? I sure do hope so, cause they
can give both of you comfort. And if you need someone to talk
to in person as well then you know they are there as well to listen.
Never think that your alone. As you see from us (yahoo answer)
we are here to hear you out and try to comfort you as much as we can. There is many ways to cope, one you can listen to her
favorite music, buy a journal and write down everything you remember about her and the good times you both spent together.
Even though she is buried, you can still spend time with her
at the cemetery for a hour or a few hours, take your journal with
you to write down all the things you want to tell her. Don't forget
she will always be with both you and your brother. I just lost my
dad 3-22-06 and we will never forget him, we too love and miss
him. God Bless You and You Brother.

Answer 3

My heart goes out to you and your brother. I cannot imagine the burden you have to deal with.

Is your father available to help you? Aunts, uncles? Your mother's parents? If not, do you have a pastor at your church? Or your family doctor, or trusted teacher, counselor or principal at school?

You can also look in your telephone book for government agencies. Your city or county should have a family services agency that can help you make plans. You can also look for Catholic Charities and Red Cross for support, with a caring adult to help you, identify social service agencies, and help you with money affairs.

With good help, you will be able to deal with your the loss of mother, and to make some plans for the next few days, weeks and longer. Be strong, but accept that you may be overwhelmed at times. If it is too much, ask to talk with licensed social worker who can help you cope. You will need an adult to share your thoughts, concerns and worries.

Take each day one at a time - don't try to worry about the long term for a while. You and your brother are in my prayers.

Answer 4

Sorry to hear about your Mom. I lost my dad when I was 13 and as bad as it was, I'm not sure it could compare with losing your mom. I loved my Mom very much and we spent many years together and I still miss her every day.
You need to keep busy, spend time with your friends and family. I know you may not think so now, but it will get easier as time goes by.
I think you're a courageous young girl to be taking on the responsibility of raising your brother and you should be commended for that. Just remember you are never alone and ask for help when you need it from family and friends.
god bless

Answer 5

My mom died when I was sixteen too! It's something that you will never get over but in time it will be Little easier. I was the only child at home at the time my siblings were grown. Life is going to be hard for awhile but you will do fine. Your little brother needs you and you need him too. If your not sure about something stop and think "What would mom do?". If you ever need someone to talk to cry to please give me a call. I know you will do great and your mom will be smiling down on you! Take care & smile Cheryl 623-205-2208

Answer 6

I am so sorry about your mom. I lost my husband and my daughter (14) lost her dad last year so I can relate. The first thing you want to do is seek SPIRITUAL help. Pray, pray and pray some more. God wants to be that shoulder so let him. Second, give yourself some time. The pain will never leave but it will get easier. Please do not stop moving. I say that because you should remember that SHE has passed (not died) not you. Try to remember her life and celebrate it every chance you get. Think about her and let the tears fall but put a smile on and say "Thank you God for that memory but most for the time you allowed us to have together on Earth". KEEP TALKING ABOUT IT. Get involved in a support group or surround yourself with family and friends. I really hope these suggestions work for you, they worked wonders for us.

Answer 7

Coping with death is vital to your mental health. It is only natural to experience grief when a loved one dies. The best thing you can do is allow yourself to grieve. There are many ways to cope effectively with your pain:

1. Seek out caring people. Find relatives and friends who can understand your feelings of loss. Join support groups with others who are experiencing similar losses.

2. Express your feelings. Tell others how you are feeling; it will help you to work through the grieving process.

3. Take care of your health. Maintain regular contact with your family physician and be sure to eat well and get plenty of rest. Be aware of the danger of developing a dependence on medication or alcohol to deal with your grief.

4. Accept that life is for the living. It takes effort to begin to live again in the present and not dwell on the past.

5. Postpone major life changes. Try to hold off on making any major changes, such as moving, remarrying, changing jobs or having another child. You should give yourself time to adjust to your loss.

6. Be patient. It can take months or even years to absorb a major loss and accept your changed life.

7. Seek outside help when necessary. If your grief seems like it is too much to bear, seek professional assistance to help work through your grief. It’s a sign of strength, not weakness, to seek help.

Remember, with support, patience and effort, you will survive grief. Some day the pain will lessen, leaving you with cherished memories of your mom.

If you still need help with your problems or need to talk to someone call 1-800-273-8255. This phone number is a National Crisis Center hotline and someone will be able to help you out.

Take care and God bless.

Answer 8

Hi Rach!

How are you dealing with it now? Did you seek professional help?These things are free you just have to find time to do it. Where is your Dad? You have to tell people about the situation you're in right now

I do not live in the US so I cannot get you and take care of you and your brother! Look for support groups in your area.Where do you get the money to support your brother? There are so many questions that I cannot answer. MAil me I'll see what I can do.

Answer 9

You don't mention any other family. Where's your Dad, or your grandparents? I am so sorry that your Mom died, I read your letter, my heart goes out to you and your brother, I just want to hug you. You sound so lost. You need to go to grief counselling, and perhaps you can get advice from a trusted teacher or counsellor at school as to who you should go to see for help. If you'd like to talk, you can email me through yahoo, and I will write back with my address for you. My prayers are with you.

Answer 10

I am so sorry to hear about your mother! And I am so sorry that you have been left with such a big responsibility! Get some help from a church, or relatives, or someone. That's way too much for you to try to handle on your own. Don't be afraid to ask for help. We all need some extra help sometimes. I wish you strength, wisdom, peace..............and patience. Hang in there. :)