My son was diagonosed with a communication disorder when he was 3 and I need some advice.?

Question

I have a 8 yr old son that has been diagonised w/a communication disorder. Hes in 3rd grade and has anxiety issues, and a hard time staying on task. He has a hard time focusing. He gives up very easliy if he doesnt understand something. I have to help him with is homework everynight, which isnt a problem, but he basically just looks at me for the answers and gives up. He is
a very emotional child. He is afraid of riding his bike so he hasnt
learned to ride it. He also gets fustrated easliy(he has a very hard time tying his shoes) He freaks out if you laugh at something he does, not at him though, but he doesnt understand and still doesnt
after explaining to him that no one is laughing at him. I love my
son VERY much and it hurts me to see him this way. All I want to
do is fix this for him and I dont know what to do. We have tried sports and its awful for him.Doctors and teachers have both
suggested that and I understand but its just not working. Any ideas would be appreciated

Answer 1

I disagree with sports or piano lessons. If he frustrates easy you don't wont to add to frustration by more things to learn. My daughter goes through something similar. If she tries something new she cry, says she is worthless and gives up. What does work is compliments ,compliments, compliments. I constantly tell her she is pretty and smart. I told her teachers of her low self esteem and they agreed to at least give her two compliments a day:What a great Job, How pretty you look today...When it comes from someone else they really believe it. Find something he is already good at and brag on him. He will try new things on his on when he builds up his courage. When he starts his anxiety issues make sure you stay calm and talk softly and calmly to him. He needs to feel the sense that you are in control and you know what you are doing(because he feels that everything is out of his control and just to much to deal with.) It will help-it might take some time. Hang in there~~I wish you well.

Answer 2

I would take something that he already likes and expand on it,for instance if he likes music,try piano lessons,or if it's art,then enroll him in a children's art class where he will have to interact with other kids.Be gentle,but firm about him participating,and let him go at his own speed.Try to show him that it's OK to be silly,too.Set up situations where he might be laughed at,and practice with him about how to react ,or NOT react.Explain that when he reacts badly,others might not want to be around him.It will be hard ,but with patience and firmness,I think you can help him to face his fears and live a fairly normal life.I know,because I was the same way as a child,and I still have some issues,but there was not as much knowledge about the disorder then.I only wish there had been.Good luck with your son.

Answer 3

If your doctors and teachers only suggested sports, you need different doctors and teachers. I'm not a doctor, but it's pretty obvous there is more going on than a "communication disorder".

Get a better doctor and/or diagnostician.

Answer 4

My son has simular problems. He has been diagnosed with ADHD and bipolar. He has been on med.s for a year and he is doing alot better. I would see a different doctor, if I was you. Maybe try a psychologist. I would stay on it until you found someone who can help.