Everything was fine until i found out that she ever sleep with other guy behind my back.. what's worst is that she admit to me when we touch on 4th year. the pain was too sharp that i felt it piercing through me. after what i've done i get this... i've been good to her.. what should i do?? i cant leave her i never ever love someone this much..At the same time i can't live with her. what should i do?
2006-12-06 15:14:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah it hurts like hell but time heals all wounds....the sooner you dump her the sooner you WILL be over her.
Buddy, the trust factor is gold. You can forgive but you will never forget. This will haunt you forever if you stay with her......she's obviously not trustworthy and doesn't care as much about your relationship as you do.
In the long run, that doesn't work. Let her go and find someone worth spending your life with.
2006-12-06 15:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Verizonsuxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really LOVE her? How long ago did she have a relationship with the other man? Perhaps she just needed to be honest and tell you. Does she love you? Does she want to stay with you? Can you ever find it in your heart to forgive her? You leave out to much information. If she wants to be with YOU and only you, and she loves you, then forgive her, and stay with her and make a happy life together. If you can't forgive her, and not remind her of how she hurt you, then leave her for good, and don't look back. You have to be able to live with yourself too. If you really love her as much as you say, then forgive her mistake, if she's sorry, and she's good for you.If she's still looking at other guys, then run, don't walk away and just keep going. She's not worth it, and certainly doesn't deserve your devotion.
2006-12-06 23:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
four years is a long time to invest in a relationship, especially to find out that she cheated.
You must feel betrayed.
You have to make the decision, forgive and forget, or move on and forget her.
You have to completely forgive and forget if you choose to go that route. If you bring it up in a moment of passion (like fighting) she will know that you didn't forgive her.
But if you choose to move on without her, you have to remember, just because she did this to you it doesn't mean that the next one will do it also.
Don't hold someone else's mistakes against the new girl.
Good luck and I hope you find what makes you happy.
Not just saying that to get points, I feel empathy for you, know how it feels.
2006-12-06 23:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That choice is really in your hand. Do you love her enough to forgive her? Need to ask your self will she cheat on me again? I would do a seperation and try to think things out. Sometimes being away you can think better. What ever you decide really think about it long and hard. But no one deserves to be cheated on.
2006-12-06 23:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by Babie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't take that crap! once a cheater always a cheater. she'll do it again and the longer you let her keep doing this to you, the more it will hurt. 4 years is a long time, but if you forgive her and stay with her, what if when 8 years pops around she tells you she's slept with like 15 guys.
2006-12-06 23:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by KingLegolasG 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds as if you've answered your own question. At least she came clean to you, she could have carried that secret with her for several more years. Forgive it if it's not still happening, drop her like a hot potato if it's still going on.
2006-12-06 23:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by somewherein72 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Curl up in a fetal position and go through it.
Drop her. She is not good for you.
But rise up. Don't stay down.
Don't blame yourself (with the exception of your lack of spelling skills).
But do rise up. Rise up. Rise up.
Hold your head up.
It will quit hurting.
Treat yourself better than she has treated you.
Otherwise.
You are as bad as she is.
2006-12-06 23:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by batwanda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a brake, go see some real women, you know!? There is no love out there it's just business. You can have a lot of love for a couple of hundreds.
2006-12-06 23:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
once a cheater always a cheater. Are you willing to stay with someone that makes you feel that bad? its not worth it, its better to leave her and find someone that appreciates you. its a hard road but it will get better with time.
2006-12-06 23:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should really spend some time to try to forget her. time heals all wounds. on the other hand, try to bury yourself in work and stuff to keep yourself occupied. then one day, you'll suddenly sense the hope of horizon again. cheers!
2006-12-07 01:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋