i have a huge problem with guys. most of the time, the only people who like me are either creeps, disgusting freaks, jerks to my freinds, they smell bad, or i just dont like them the same way they like me. so as you can see, i probably wouldn't of had many boyfriends. i only had one. pretty sad..but oh well. alot of guys "like that" quote un quote, have asked me out but i just got away from it by etiher not answering them and waited for them to take the hint or i lied and said i already had a boyfriend (yea right). so what should i say without being mean and everyone thinking i am a jerk because i have never said no wtihout making an excuse.
2006-12-06 15:13:17 · 15 answers · asked by I'm alive 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be direct and say, "I'm flattered, but I'm not interested in dating right now." This is honest, and you don't have to make excuses. It's the truth, right? After all, you're not interested in dating THEM.
2006-12-06 15:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should feel very blessed that you are in such high demand. You are obviously a very attractive person or a great deal of fun to be with.
Although I'm a little older now, I had a similar experience when I was younger. Unless the guy fitted my amazing high standards I would not go out with him. When i did find the guy who fit, I often found he was either a jerk or had no real personality.
I found that some of the jerks, creeps were actually nice people when you gave them a chance. Guys generally act stupid around girls to make themselves accepted in their own groups - so you don't actually get to see the real them - which is sad. Ultimately, we're all looking for someone we can enjoy time with.
Just a suggestion, try a date or two with someone you wouldn't normally go out with, it won't kill you - I mean avoiding Axe Murderers is a good thing! The worst that can happen is that you learn something new about someone and maybe you end up with a friend.
As for saying no to a date, a polite "I'm flattered really, but no thank you." Very simple, very polite, very clear, no missed messages and you won't feel like you're a jerk. It often takes a great deal of courage for a guy to ask a girl out, so keep that in mind.
Good luck!
2006-12-06 23:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by Joanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah...sounds exactly like me. this is what I found to be the best solutions: 1. tell him you're really not looking for the complications of a relationship right now. 2. if he's in a class with you, tell him you really don't want to make the class enviornment uncomfortable. 3. just say 'no' and don't give an explanation.if he seems hurt about it, give an apologetic smile. OR, if none of these work, go with my latest (probably stupid) excuse: I said I had a long-distance relationship with a man who lived up in Idaho and attended the state college there--though, I never said what type of relationship it was, so i technically wasn't lying. So far this seems to be working...good luck! ^.^
2006-12-06 23:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by Vae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem! if they are creepy enough to make u want to say no, then say it up front, im not interested, your not my type, im not feeling a connection here....(sometimes guys will take that as an opprtunity to impress you more, just tell them thats not working for you, or to give up cuz your not changing ur mind) if its a nice guy just not ur type be nice about it cuz it problie took him a lot of guts to approach u, say something like "im soo flattered but really id prefer if we stay friends.." dont be shy to ever say no, and if u keep thinking up excuses they will keep coming back and ther guna be sooo hard to get rid of... and if a guy smells bad tell him he reaks!! ask him wht deo he uses.. if any! and if the guys are jerks to ur friends u have the right to be a jerk back to them cuz obviously ur friends are more important than any guy..
2006-12-06 23:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to be honest...it seems like ur running away from hurt..and if u r dont be afraid give them a chance..its not cause they smell bad or there jerks...u just dont want to get hurt in the end by guys soo...really be honest wit ur self!
2006-12-06 23:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by Something♥Exotic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can just find an excuse to avoid their date. But excuse will be use up sooner or later and they will be more angry if they find you cheating them or so.Therefore you might as well tell them frankly and truthfully that you got no feelings for them and ask them to give up.
2006-12-06 23:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by goh w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just tell him you are'nt prepare to be in a relationship right now cause being in relationship requires alot of sacrifices. And try to convince him with a sad face. He should understand.
2006-12-06 23:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by zecrino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, I am flattered that you have taken a interest in me but I am single and at this point in my life I am having fun just being single.
2006-12-06 23:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest n tell them dont lie or beat around the bush thats what is wrong with ppl these days, they try not to hurt ppls feelings n ya know it happens its called life. honesty sometimes is the best policy
2006-12-06 23:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them no... i think its meaner if that's a word to let them find out later that you had to lie to them in order to Dennie them.
2006-12-06 23:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by angelgodz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋