Why So Much Hate?

Question

Why do I have so much hate in me? I always want to hurt people of certain groups, I also always want to destroy ****. I'm always pissed too!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I am NOT a medical, psychiatric, or spiritual counselor in any way. The advice I offer is purely the common sense and common decency that an observer who has known other people with similar difficulties can offer on the most informal level.

There could be certain medical problems, with your nervous system, glandular functioning, or biochemical and/or hormonal imbalances. These imbalances or pathologies can seriously affect your emotional well being. You may want to consider discussing this with your Medical doctor, (and perhaps a psychiatrist, neurologist, and endocrinologist) about getting tested for these problems.

There may also be factors in your upbringing where you didn't learn personal self-control under stress, and how to show respect for others while holding fast to your own dignity and self respect. Were your parents, or those charged with your guidance, able to provide you with worthy examples of dignified and upright behavior while you were growing up? If they were, why didn't you follow their good example, and if they weren't, then you have to find people elsewhere who can show you what you need to know..

The questions of your upbringing are very important as well. Perhaps there are types of therapy available which can bring you to terms with, or can help you surmount the difficulties of your childhood. Explore them!

There IS a lot to hate about people in the world!! Many people aren't worth the time of day on a broken watch. They still are going to be encountered, and there are FAR TOO MANY idiots in the world to deal with the way you have been dealing with them.

YOU can't let their limitations, hatefulness, or rank stupidity drive you down to their level! Don't forget: Any wild animal can fight, can snarl, can be fierce and vicious, and can bloody or even kill its enemies! It takes a PERSON who is FULLY HUMAN to control himself, consider the consequences of his actions, and discover the wonderful, as well as ugly aspects of life!! I hope that you are up to it.

You should try to protect yourself, discover your humanity and your value as much as possible. You (and only you) can do this by reforming yourself. If you don't, nobody else will!

I don't know how old you are, but it sounds like you still have some chance to repair some, maybe even most, of the damage that you seem to have suffered.

There may also be a spirtual hunger in you that has not and is not being satisfied. As long as you are in the toils of hate, emotional turmoil, and bitterness which you describe above, you cannot get the peace, strength, and satisfaction with life which you crave. After being treated for any medical disorders causing the hatred and bitterness alluded to in your question, you might consider treating yourself to some spiritual guidance from the clergyman of your choice.

I have been preaching too much already so I will close now and wish you...

All the best!

Answer 3

You need to get some professional help for this. Some medication might be helpful for this and you need to get that from a doctor. A psychiatrist or psychologist would be able to diagnose exactly what the problem is. You will need some counseling for this also.

Without knowing any details about you and your life, there is no way for me to know exactly what is causing your problems. There are a lot of reasons why people feel hatred for others.

You are not a bad person because you feel this way. Our mind and our emotions are complicated things and many things can cause problems with their proper functioning.

If you ever feel that you are in danger of hurting anyone, you need to go immediately to a hospital emergency room and explain the situation.

Answer 4

Hate and aggression of the type you have is typically an expression by those that are frustrated. Often, they are frustrated because they have no "voice" in their life, and are in situation after situation that they cannot control.

You should seek therapy.

I used to be like you. I used to get pissed off all the time. Then I figured out that it wasn't others that were the problem. I was the problem. I had to learn WHY I felt helpless. Then I recognized that I am not helpless at all, and I have the power. The ultimate power that I have is the power to react as I want to in a situation. When I let someone else piss me off, I give up that power.

You have a problem...seek help.

Answer 5

Do you really want to get rid of your hate?

If so, I think you should look for the GOOD in people. People who hate tend to only see what they want to see- and that's the evil that others do. It's so easy to turn it the other way. Start off by considering the FEELINGS of others, considering their emotions. Consider the people who are GOOD. And also reflect on when you are happy and how good it feels.

Please dont' waste your life feeling this hate. Think, you only have 73 years to live. Only 73!! All these people on this earth are sharing your short life with you. They are not your enemies There are people out there who don't know you who love you simply becuse you are a feeling human being. I guess you can call these people Christians...or humanists. But walk into a church of people you hate and they will LOVE you.

Please realize that, while there are idiots out there, there are good people. People do not hate you.

After this time is up you can NEVER go back, never experience anything again- no rain, no snow, no hugs, no kisses, no Christmas- everything will end. It's a good idea to start the change now and live your life happy because it is the only one you will ever have.

Answer 6

You have some obvious anger problems. The good news is you are able to recognize that violent impulses are not acceptable. I think if you're serious about getting help you should look into counseling and anger management courses. I was in the hospital with depression and one of the courses we took was on anger and why we feel anger. I was surprised to learn that it usually comes from being depressed or anxious. A lot of people don't know how to cope with these feelings in any other way. There is help for you...you just have to want it.

Answer 7

Hey Redneck75,

Do you suppose that it was the way that you were raised?

My stepdad was 6'4 and about 240 when I took a swing at him (I was 12). When the lights came back on he helped me up and said, "Don't start something that you can't finish, boy". THAT made an IMPRESSION. He was also BIG on HONESTY and ETHICS so that stuck too.

If one looks hard enough you can ALWAYS find a reason to be PISSED at someone; color, race, religion or even how they cut their hair or talk.

Now here is a thought. I am a combat veteran from Nam and did NOT KILL any babies. I also stopped counting at 24 kills up close and personal of gooks that were attempting to KILL ME. I came back with all my parts, most of my sanity and a wicked / sick sense of humor.

Now, should I HATE ALL Vietnamese people for the rest of my life because of something that happened years ago?

Now this will F$%()&g FREAK you OUT!

I had to deal with some cancer radiation and showed up. This Vietnamese Doctor came out and she was about 35 or a little older. She did her deal and then stopped and LOOKED AT ME! I thought that it was weird and she asked, "You look like someone that I know, have I never met you".

I just said, I don't think so".

She responded, "Did you serve in Nam and were you ever in ____"?

I just said, "Yes to both, and why do you ask"?

She answered, "My mother told me that the cong took over the villiage and were executing the men when there were shots. She thought that it was a platoon of SVA but when it was quiet 8 men came out of the jungle and told us to get what we needed because we were LEAVING. My mother told me one of them carried me for two days straight with no sleep until we were safe. When I cried he held my nose and mouth until I passed out and I here today because of that man. Are you that man"?

I looked at her for a few seconds and said, "Nope it wasn't me, but if you want to pretend, that is COOL. Just save my arm so that my watch doesn't fall off".

She leaned forward, took my hand, kissed my cheek as she said, "LIAR and it is DONE. I know that it was YOU".

I never saw her again and that was fine with me; too many memories.

So here is a thought. If a BLACK man saved your daughter would you still be ANGRY? A Muslim gave you gas when you were out, a Hispanic gave you a leg up at work?

The list goes on and on and my feeling is that "The N WORD" is based upon ACTIONS and NOT skin color or religion. I have known white people that DEFINED "The N WORD" by their ACTIONS.

If you are ALWAYS PISSED I would guess that your life SUCKS; so CHANGE IT.

Focus upon your job, get additional education to advance and STOP judging out of the chute; you might be pleasantly surprised by what you learn.

Dude, JUST CHILL! Think for YOURSELF, get a nice ride, enjoy your job and ENJOY LIFE! You might just like how YOU FEEL.

Just another thought; YOUR PARENTS are NOT ALWAYS RIGHT because the world changes QUICKLY.

Good luck,
Jacques

Answer 8

Simple, you feel tall to make others feel small.
You had your power taken away when you were little.
You have no idea what power is now and so it comes out...sideways.
You could also benefit from some medication that would allow you to just relax and learn some new strategies for anger.
You can try new things to do this, by seeing a dr. or a psychologies.
Or
you can wait until you are in the penitentiary.

Answer 9

Hi Buddy... I used to feel just like you do... Believe it or not, a lot of it is in what you eat, no kidding... Try to stop eating so much white flower and products derived from white flower, and try to manage your sugar consumption... They truly change your perception of things going on around you... I was completely ignorant of exactly how much I used to consume, and when I cut them out it made a drastic differance in my attitude and general outlook.... Try it for a couple of days, and I promise you will be totally surprised how much of each you consume on a daily basis... Please write me for more information if you are sreious, I was where you are at, and have experianced a real change in my attatude since I changed my eating habits... Good Luck

Answer 10

Wel hey i can understand you completely.I have basically the same issue.Im a famle but still.you probly have a moood disorder.Or anger porblems.Its nothing bad but you might want t get on medicine for it to help you control it better.You would feel alot better i bet you that.If you have any questiong email me at hickschick05

Answer 11

IT must be something from you r past that bothers you or the way you were raised,try to put all that anger behind you,and move on Or maybe became a member at your local gym it helps when you take all that anger try it.