If ur friend was always like"I don't like when people touch me" and you always assumed somwthing had made her that way, and today you found out she had been raped by ur friend what would you do?? Would you stay friends with ur other friend?? Would you ask her lots of questions??Would you spread it around and make sure her b/f knows??What if ur friend still molested her when you were not around??
2006-12-06 14:48:20 · 18 answers · asked by Nicoletta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would you make sure her b/f knew the other guy was still molesting her and make the other guy stop??
2006-12-06 14:52:11 · update #1
I wouldn't spread it around out of respect for the girl. It's a delicate situation, and the most important thing to do is to be supportive and unconditionally loving towards your friend who was raped. She confided in you for a reason. The best thing you can do is to listen when she wants to talk and not push her when she wants to be quiet.
It's up to you what you want to do about your friendship with her alleged rapist. You could confront him, you could sever the friendship, or you could take what you know to the cops or a trusted parent or teacher. Talk it over with your girl friend first. Of course, if he's still hurting her, you should definately report him. He's got issues and she needs to be protected.
Good luck.
2006-12-06 14:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fist, dont tell anyone else. The reason she probably didnt tell you in the first place was because she didnt want anyone to know. She might feel shame or something like that. I would maybe try to ask her whats bothering her and maybe she'll let out, but dont count on that. Best thing you can do for her is keep quiet and be supportive. If your friend is still doing that to her, no matter how much a friend he is, he's doing something that can get him to jail. She needs your help now.
2006-12-06 22:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Broken ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be very care full how you approach this... ask your Friend who was raped a pile of questions and ask the guy too cause I know alot of girls trhow around the rape thing just for attention and if that is the case than that is horrible as well
2006-12-06 22:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by angelgodz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to report it or try to talk to your friend about it. Rape is a serious thing and someone needs to know. Be supportive and let your friend know you are always there if she needs anything. Maybe she just needs someone she can trust to talk to about it. I knew someone that was raped and when she told me we figured out that it was best to tell someone and now she feels a lot safer.
2006-12-06 22:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by lustfulcalgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not report your friend who is doing the molesting to the authorities? Why would you want to tell her boyfriend? I think that's up to her to tell him. You should be a friend to the one being molested and report the friend who is doing the molesting to the authorities.
2006-12-06 22:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure it's true, and not a wild assumption of your own or of another person. Second,there's more than one kind of rape, and spanking for justified reasons, is not rape, Miss Wray (?).If it's true, then report the person who raped her. You could even volunteer to help in a sting operation to catch the guy.
2006-12-06 22:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off did u hear this from her? if not then it probly didnt happen!! but if she did tell u this jus ask her if he still does this to her n if she says yes ask her y isnt she reportin it n if she says she doesnt want to get him in to trouble jus go tell a trusted adult that would do something about it!! but hell no do not go spreadin this around!!! do not tell her bf if she wants him to kno she will tell him!! n if i was u i would stop bein friends wit the person who molested ur friend!! wat if he/she did it 2 u!! but seriously if u didnt hear it from her then she is probly like me she jus doesnt like people to touch her!!!
2006-12-06 22:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by BlondeCheerChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spreading gossip could cause more hurt and more damage to the victim. encourage your friend to get some counselling.dont tell others because this is embarassing enough. the victim feels shame even though it wasnt their fault.be there for them and dont hurt them.
2006-12-06 22:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her 1st and see how she feels about the subject. this will not be easy because it is a rough situation, and confrontation of this sort of thing sucks, but it mist be done. see what she says and tried to understand her request, if she is does not want to talk about it, i would talk to her parents and make sure they knew, because this can effect her home life as well.
2006-12-06 22:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by bruce77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be friends with anyone that committed rape because it's vile. And I'd encourage her to go to the cops.
2006-12-06 22:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by The Bride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋