Im a teacher and this new asian teacher asked me out. I didnt want to go out with him and told him im engaged but that seemed to excite him even more. We went out to dinner and he brought me back to his place and he started to unbutton my shirt. I told him i couldnt because im taken, and then he took the ring off my finger. I've been sleeping with this guy for the past month and im really starting to regret it. Everytime I try to break it off with him he makes a move on me. I work with this guy and when we're with all other coworkers he'll touch my *** when nobody's looking or if we're in a group conversation he'll whisper in my ear "I want to f*ck the **** out of you right now" and then he'll smile and act TOTALLY normal. He'll also say stuff how my fiance is a lucky guy and if he was married to me he would "f*ck me all day long". He won't tell anybody about our affair i'm SURE of that... I just dont know how to quit him. advice?
2006-12-06 14:39:40 · 17 answers · asked by kitana_fabiola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
report him to your boss
2006-12-06 14:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, he's got you right where he want's you. he is controlling you, and I bet you feel like you have now way out of this situation. and I'm sure that I don't need to tell you that it shouldn't have happened in the first place. I know that you already know that. but if you love your fiance and want to marry him, you have to put a stop to this affair, and the sooner the better. I know that you work with him, and that kind of complicates things a bit, but you've got to do what you know is right. tell him the truth. tell him that you now realize that this affair should have never taken place, and that you're ending it as of right now. tell him that you don't want to go out anymore, go to his place anymore, or him to yours, and that you don't want any more dirty talk in your ear, and no more inappropriate touching.
and if he still tries to make moves on you, just tell him it's not going to work anymore, and that his behavior is way out of line, and you're not giving in to him ever again. and really stand your ground, because he will probably try again. and give him absoultely none of your attention. that's the best way to let him know that you're serious, and that you mean what you're saying. he will get the idea as long as you don't cut him any slack at all. this guy is not good for you. he knew you were engaged to be married, and that caused him to want to persue you even more. that's the true sign of a real sleaze, and there's no telling how many other women he's done the very same thing to. now, you take care of yourself, and don't worry about this jerk. you do what you have to do in order to get your life back in order.
I sincerely wish you the best, and I hope that you can put this all in the past and just look at it as a lesson well learned.
2006-12-06 15:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think you have done wrong exspeacially when you have a fiance,but i would really say that your fiance was lucky because if he was you wouldnt be out there messing around on him now would you and the next thing is how does your fiance fill about what you or doing,well let me take a guess you havnt even told him right,well my advice would be to just quit messing with this guy and start think about your fiance and what you two have together before you loose it all girl,hell girl wake up and smell the roses your not a little kid anymore so quit playing with other peoples fellings and emotions before you really hurt someone real bad ok,you know if you really wanted to make love with someone it should have been your fiance and not the other guy so quit now before you loose your fiance and even after that i hope you can only bare to live with your self for what you have done,because hell common sense tells me this and im a guy if youve done it now before your even married what would make me think that you wouldnt do it again after your married,i dont know but take my advise and quit this relation ship at once for this guys just wants you for sex and nothing more hell later on down the road when youve lost your fiance and everything youll see that this guy didnt want you all he wanted was the booty you were given him,so get the hell out of that relation ship and put all your trust and faith and love in your fiance ok and do ot before he finds out because i know if it was me **** would be over for good because you just dont play games like that and really what would reallyt make you think that this guy would not say anything hell the people around you arent stupid theve probly noticed a difference between you to but the sad thing is you havnt well you are the only one who can make this right not me nor noone else so good luck and i only hope you do what is right for yourself and your fiance
2006-12-06 14:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by DAVE S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in d first instance u weren't strong enough dat y u r in such a mess now . everytime he makes a move u give in then u must hv some feel 4 him ? right ? if not y don't u tell him off . b firm abt it n move on b4 ur guy finds out .
2006-12-06 14:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think with your head this is no real man if so he would respect you when you told him you were taken.In my thoughts he is a loser and a control ferak I would run FAST.What were you thinking be fair to yourself your boyfriend and your position as a teacher did you go to college and do all that work to end up being fired .I also think as a parent GEEEEEEEZ this is a school
2006-12-06 14:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by luckiestarrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have already made up your mind about what or who you want, you should let the one your "engaged too" move one because it will never work out and everyone will have regrets, do it before it gets worse.
2006-12-06 14:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Russ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u must break up with your man and give him the ring back... there is no way that you truly love him and be doing what you are doing. and after that i don't really know what to tell you.. it is wrong what you are doing...what if your fiance was doing it to you?? Turn the tables around and see how you like it.
2006-12-06 14:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by Alisha S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to be firm on the NO. If he keeps going on after that, then you report him to the police or your work boss.
2006-12-06 14:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by jussgee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel sorry for yourself YOU got yourslef in the situation. all you had to do when he asked you out was a firm "NO" and if he didnt stop then you could file him for harrasment.
2006-12-06 14:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by brighteyes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm a down to earth girl and if i was you i would be up front to him and say it is over and walk away and be stubbern as **** and think nasty thoughts when he is around and he might get the drift
2006-12-06 14:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by reeree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your finace and tell him that you cant get him to stop and you really want him to. tell him you will report him to the cops or the school board. hope this helps
2006-12-06 14:42:46 · answer #11 · answered by believeinwishes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋