ok i need serious help with my boyfriend he says i dont pay attention to him and dont show affection ( i wont kiss him in school guess its a part of that) i really dont know what to do i dont want to lose him but i dont know how to change and show affection any suggestions?.. plzz help
2006-12-06 14:03:53 · 10 answers · asked by lavendernlily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not that im shy about this well maybe i am cuz i am shy around people i dont kno very well .. but i do walk with him i just dont hold his hand n when he does i kind of let go n i just dont want to be around him all the time in school i want to talk to my friend to but it seems like he wants me to be with him the whole time everytime we see each other
2006-12-06 14:27:08 · update #1
If he loves you he should accept that you do not like showing affection at school. Instead of being really physical, why don't you just hug him more? Hold hands? That's still PG-13
2006-12-06 14:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by untilyoucamealong04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can personally remember saying this exact same thing to my old girlfriend. She, however, would be talking with her friends and ignore me if I was next to her. If she came up next to me while I was talking with a friend, I would tactfully end the conversation.
Also, if we were walking down the hallway, holding hands, and one of her friends came up, she would stop and hug her friend, while possibly holding onto my hand. Now, if one of my friends came up, I just nod or something. Do you see a fundamental difference between guys and girls here? Her friends expected a hug; my friends did not.
If you do do this, then tell him to get over it. You don't need to change the way you act around your friends. Yet if you do not do this and this doesn't relate to you, then good job?
(on a side note, I highly doubt he'll get over this. So, whenever you see him outside of school, make sure to pay more attention to him...whatever that may mean)
To me, this is an expectations vs. reality issue. There is something he expects from you that he is not getting (on a deeper level). Try to find out what exactly that is.
2006-12-06 22:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Final11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you show affection by giving him hugs telling him he you hope he has a good day calling him just to check up on him and tell him you missed him. You dont have to kiss him school if your in hs you probably aren't aloud to anyway. but givving him a hug before you go to class. Invite him over for a movie and make him something to eat. Talk to him about this. you will get the best answer from him.Asking him what you can do ,to make him feel more appreciated is the best way to solve this
2006-12-06 22:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a problem showing public affection, then you shouldn't be forced to do so. You need to tell your boyfriend that you care about him but don't feel comfortable showing public affection. maybe when you have time alon you should show him how much you car by being affectionate with him there that way he can see that you do care but you just can't do it publically.
2006-12-06 22:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by moks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok guy's like lotts of attention,which that's normal he wants his friends and other people to see,are you shy about kissing him in front of people?most all men like to snuggle,kiss all the time.you will learn with age.all guy's talk about there relation ship,and maybe he's getting a little jelouse cause those things are not happen to him,i bet that's the problem
2006-12-06 22:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by bridget j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it more. i can understand not wanting to kiss at school. maybe he thinks it's an embarrassment issue. holding hands and hugging is also good too. just make sure he feels loved, but u'r not out of u'r comfort zone.
2006-12-06 22:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by SHANNON. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say really nice things to him, write a poem or long note, kiss him if u want, just randomly go up to him and hug him when he isn't expecting it, he will love that!!!!!
2006-12-06 22:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by da man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why won't you kiss him in school?
I know in my school we arn't allowed/susppose to show affection.
Try making him feel more wanted and appreciated.
You can do little things to show your affection, depends who you are, and what you like.
2006-12-06 22:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by Krissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say you're too shy. I don't think he is going to break up with you. He just wants you to act like a hoochie mama!
2006-12-06 22:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Chris P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a horrible girlfriend. let him go.
2006-12-06 22:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋