We have been together in a strong, deep and loving relationship for three years, but now we have split up because he kissed a girl. he says he wants me back?will he hurt me again? a lot of stuff has happened since we broke up, e.g hes slept with some1 else and kissed loads of girls.he says he loves me soo much and hel never hurt me again and that those girls meant ziltch. what would you do? i love him but i also want to protect myself.
2006-12-06 13:57:57 · 36 answers · asked by * *sUnShINe GiRl* * 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
once a cheater, always a cheater
2006-12-06 13:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he's out kissing other girls he's a fool and he's playing games. He doesn't love you, he could have but it doesn't sound like he does anymore. If he trully loved you then he wouldn't be out fooling around with other girls. Instead he'd be begging for forgiveness. Actually, if he really cared he wouldn't of cheated in the first place. He'll do it again sweetheart. I'm sorry to say that. If he just kissed one girl it wouldn't be such a huge deal but he not only kissed numerous girls but he slept with one as well. Move out. There will be someone better for you, I promise. My sister had a 4 year relationship and she was madly in love and it just didn't work. Things like that happen. It doesn't matter how long you're together, it could still happen.
2006-12-06 13:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by tia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what'd i'd do. ive heard the sayins "once a cheater, always a cheater", and "a problem can only get worse" but id probably i'd wait longer to see just how sincere and i'd let him know just how bad he hurt me.if he still does it i'd say find some1 else but if he doesnt kiss any more girls or sleep with them id say hes OK but if he does it again he aint worth ur time girl. keep in mind that sometimes a kiss rele doesnt mean anything other than a sign of friendship but if he sleeps with them thats another story. just follow ur heart and do the best u can, after all, thats all u can do, good luck i hope this helps! :D
2006-12-06 14:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're kidding yourself on love. How can you be in a "strong, deep and loving relationship" if he's trying to s*&^ anything with a pulse. Is your self esteem that low that you don;t thinkl you'll ever find anyone else? Why are you prepared to be treated like a doormat? Do yourself a favour, go and find someone who isn't lying to you every time they tell you they love you. Obviously he's a lying, creep who doesn't care about you or respect you at all. Oh, and YES of course he'll do it again. Don't be a sucker. Duuuuhhhh.
2006-12-06 14:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he loves you. but he will probalby cheat again and be less loyal the second time around. he's probably not lying to you... things just get confusing when you are broken off from someone whom you are so close to. there's a reason it didnt work, but that doesn't mean he doesn't love you anymore. i understand how you feel but it's probably best to move on at this point... one broken, always broken. that kind of thing.
it took me nearly 2 years to get over my last boyfriend so i know the feeling... that you are in love with him and no one else will suffice. 2 years later, im not satisfied with the boyfriend i have and i miss my ex, but he has gotten into drugs and whatnot, which is something i know will make things too difficult for us to be together. even though we love each other still, it just won't work. that's probably how this situation is.
even if those other girls DID mean nothing (they probably do), it's the morality that goes against everything... if he wanted you back, he would respect you enough not to put this on your shoulders (aka stop messing around!!).
2006-12-06 14:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by between_the_sheets74 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater
hes done it once and he will do it again
'love' its just a word,
kissing other girls is not a way of showing love
Find someone else! Stop thinking it will all be ok if you get back together, do you really wanna take the chance and risk he might do it again? Youll never be able to trust him again.. just get rid of him!
2006-12-06 14:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, did he tell u he cheated or did u find out. Honestly if he would really love and did not plan to cheat then he would have kept it quiet and never done it again. but BUT!!!...it seems he likes to the attention. I am most likely sure he will do it again. seriously it just sucks to get hurt...move on sweety i know its hard but do it. Leave him . you have to learn to be on your own. a relationship is to find out if this person could spend the rest of ur life with you. is this the person you want to be with? ask yourself that? you also have to learn how to be on your own. No BF! just learn to love yourself set yourself some standards and believe me every guy will be dying to be with a woman that is CONFIDENT! I think you are young still so im gonna say you have plenty of time to find th right person. goodluck and be happy with yourself!
2006-12-06 14:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by Prncss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him?
Don't fall for traps, like when he says you're the only girl, and if he buys you things to try and win you're affection.
If his feelings are true, then they will show, IE; He'll stop sleeping around and kissing other girls, because that's commitment showing you he really does want to be with you.
If he keeps sleeping/kissing other people, while telling you he wants to be with you, chances are he isn't being sincere and it will end shortly again.
2006-12-06 14:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Krissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All men cheat or they would if they could. Unfortunately, studies have found that men don't cheat because they might get caught, while women don't cheat because they love their partners. Your hapiness is very precious. The decision is yours. Love him and protect yourself. Some believe that cheaters can be rehabilitated. That depends on the person and you are the only one who knows. What does your instincts say? If your gut feeling says he will cheat then he probably will. Good luck and listen to yourself.
2006-12-06 14:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by firestarter 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yup yup im sorry to say this but everyone else is right... if he kissed a girl when you two were going out imagine what he has done with other girls... but never told you... im sorry to say this but once a cheater always a cheater... take my advise who ever you just leave him ok he thinks he's a pimp and he can get all the girls he wants... ok just dont worry
2006-12-06 14:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Tu Nena 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater. why would you love someone that cheats on you.
just maybe you do not love him, But love the idea of loving him.
blow the cheater off and find some nice guy that loves you for who you are.
2006-12-06 14:01:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋