advice :-(?

Question

Im So confused...in the past year i lost all my friends, and now i just have aquitences n no real friends all i have is my bf of 2 years but a part of me wants to break it off but a part of me just can't leave..hes always correctin my speech, and we have nothing in common...me im a party girl i like my fun n going out n doing things he really never wants to go out hes content with sitting in all day everyday....he has no job n really isnt makin an effort to get one but complains about how he is depressed cuz he doesnt have one...thing is i know he loves me to death n would do anything for me ..but i just get so frustrated with him n we fight n ill just end up crying u cant win with him.i feel like i cater to his every emotion . i kinda just want to spread my wings n find someone who wants to go out n do things but then i feel like these last 2 year were wasted n i do love him im so confused... i cant decided weather im more happy or sad with him...

Answer 1

do what you need to do, what you want to do. seems like youve already made your choices and just want someone to tell you your right.

you are, good luck and enjoy your life

Answer 2

I sorta know a lot about what you're going through. Within the past year, I've dropped out of college, moved out of my parents house, dropped all of my friends except a few, and I only have ONE best friend, and we're not as tight as we could be...I have a boyfriend that I've been with for almost a year...I've lived with him but moved out, and now I live with my grandmother while I'm saving up to get my own...

I understand that you don't want to feel like the past two years is a waste of time, but sometimes, that's all life is. If u really think about it, every single person wastes YEARS of their lives...we have fun today, living for the "moment", and a year from now we look back and say, "I was such a kid back then..." It's a waste of time, but it helped form us to who we are today.

I think that you need to sit down and think things through. Make a list of the good things about him and your relationship and then the bad things...if the good outweighs the bad, then put up with it, but if the bad outweighs the good, then let it go and move on, considering the relationship a stepping stone in your life.

If things don't work out for you, at least you can say that you've gained something from it. Over the past two years, you've been able to discover what you really want...what you're really looking for in life and love. You may not have been able to realize this if you weren't spending your time with only ONE person...

Answer 3

i would say that you aren't happy with him because you are thinking about breaking it off. You would be doubting yourself and this relationship if something wasn't missing in your life. I would say that you need a fresh start. You have one life to live. and you dont want anyone holding you down. It sounds like he needs to get his life together and that maybe this breakup with make him willing to get out and do something with his life. I know you love him but not all love is meant to be. Sometimes the people you come to love aren't the best for you and ive been in a relationship with a man who I loved so much i felt like a part of me died when i broke it off but now i see that it was the best thing that we parted ways. And my life has gone in the best direction i could of hoped for. Do what you think will make you happy and better your life. Take a break be alone to figure out what you want.