Say you have dating someone for 3yrs and he loves you the same way you do. But he never pops up the question of marriage. what are you surpose to do to make him feel that you are ready to get married.
2006-12-06 13:35:22 · 11 answers · asked by sleepinbeauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I read somewhere that girls feel ready to get married when they are with the right person, while guys feel ready to get married when it is the right time in their life. At least that's what I've been telling myself...I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 and a half years! I think it just depends on how old you are, and if he feels financially and emotionally stable enough to become a real man and have a wife and begin to think about starting his own family. You can drop a few hints, mention someone you know who is getting married, or make sure he sees you admiring engagement rings when you are at the mall together. Other than that, I'm afraid you just have to wait! You want him to propose to you because he wants to and is ready to, not because he feels pressured to. Good luck!! =)
2006-12-06 14:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by Julia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't always equal to marriage. Maybe he isn't ready to pop the question yet because:
a. He has goals he would like to accomplish first.
b. He isn't where he wants to be yet. He wants to be able to provide for his wife / family.
c. He isn't the marriage type.
d. He doesn't feel that the time is right.
e. All of the above and more....
There are so many reasons why he hasn't asked. There is really nothing you can do to make him. The best thing to do is to forget the ring/white dress right now. Think of all the things that you love about him. Think about doing something special for him. Think about improving upon yourself...so that you can be an even better partner to him. Guys don't like to be pushed or forced into something. Give him time!
2006-12-06 15:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? Time clock is ticking for us females. And if he is not ready, there is nothing that you can do. I would try and talk to him, and if he does not feel the same way about marriage then I would look for someone else. Because if you presure him, he will use that against you in every argument that you have and you could end up in a divorce. Just be honest with him and you will have an answer. Good Luck.
2006-12-06 14:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by fleshy queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has the topic of marriage even ever come up? You don't say how old you are, but if you're in your 20's and you've been together for 3 years, you should at least be talking about it.
If you have talked about it before and he hasn't asked you, then he simply isn't ready yet. He'll ask when he's ready.
2006-12-07 07:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him an ultimatum!!! If you guys have 3 yrs of dating, then you have nothing to lose by asking him where he sees you guys in the next 2 years. If he doesn't mention rings or kids, then you need to let him know where you expected to see yourselves in 2 years. If you really want to get married, don't let him talk you out of it by offering less (living together, a ring but no date.. etc). Don't beat around the bush. I did this for myself, and my boyfriend knows if he doesn't get it together in the next 6 mo's, he's out the door whether I love him or not. (dating for 5 mo's now)
2006-12-06 15:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by HeavenlyBoheme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't push him .when he's ready I'm sure he will.he might not want to marry,right now.or maybe not you.marriage is serious,it's just a piece of paper.just live together for a while and see if that works.when people get married they change some for the worse,,,and some for the better.what's the big hurry?if your ready and he's not go find someone that is ready.you can't hurry love or marriage.
2006-12-06 13:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by hl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess that guys also have to think things through...they may love a person but i think marriage means a bigger step for them as they have to give up their bachelor lifestyle to suit another person. maybe u can talk about where u think both of u are at this point of the relationship and where u can see yourself 3-5 yrs from now.
2006-12-06 15:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help all men pop the question by changing unfair marriage/divorce laws. It's not you. It's the law. The law is making it more and more difficult for men to feel secure about getting married. It's made men more commitment phobic and more suspicious about women's motives for getting married.
You can start making it easier on him by asking him to prepare a prenuptial agreement for your marriage. That's a good start in the right direction.
Don't blame men. Blame the ridiculous laws that encourage men to not get married in this country. It's about time women admitted their mistakes and repeal all of these ridiculous laws.
2006-12-07 01:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If he wanted to be married to you, he would ask you. Simple as
that. He just isn't ready yet. You can make it clear that you are
ready, but you can't make someone feel something they don't
feel, just because you want them to. Either give him more time,
or move on. Your choice.
2006-12-06 13:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Drop some hints? I dunno, I think guys are afraid of girls saying no to them or something. Maybe he's ready and he doesn't think you are...
2006-12-06 13:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by A.C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋