I don't know what to do I been with my boyfriend joe for 2 years now off and on we get so far into the relationship then end up breakin up, crying hysterically, then end up back together again n now its happing againand a part of me wants to end it and a part of me doesn't joe's an I r very different joes real outspoken, opionated, judgemental in a sense, and intelligent i on the other hand am shy and laid back n he always corrects my grammer n he says he wont stop because he doesnt want our future kids talkin like idiots n that get me realll me n he said he says he cant stop its how he was raise n he enjoys doing it.. when we talk on the phone or in person he talks about stuff i dont care about and now i feel like im just trying to break free from him n open up n be myself cuz i feeel like 4 the last two yrs i been someone else n just blended in with his personality but now just writing all this makes me want to cry n i just cant see myself leaving.
2006-12-06 13:21:47 · 17 answers · asked by Big Dawg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have u ever heard the expression "better the devil you know"?
You are afraid that if you break up with your bf, you will be all alone. We all have that fear - that's why it's so hard to break up. But you MUST get over that fear and tell your bf to get lost, because this relationship is toxic for you.
You said it yourself - you are turning yourself inside out for this guy, you can't be yourself any more. He is bringing you down because he is making you feel dumb, which you are not. The longer you stay, the more he will bring you down, and the less confident you will feel - so it is only going to get harder and harder to leave.
Dump him, girl!
2006-12-06 13:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From What I Have Learned Is...
Everyone Breaks Up For A Reason...You Break Up Once. Its Going To Happen.
He Isnt Worth The Time Or Heartbreaks.
Dont Be Scared To Leave Or Be Alone.
Remember First Step Is The Hardest.
But Are You Strong Enough?
I Say Lose Him.. "To The Left....."
2006-12-06 21:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by ArkAngel3469 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you've written. Can't you see how messed up it is? You're not even close to happy. You're miserable. It's hard to break up when you've been together so long, but look at it this way: When you're ready, you will. Sometimes it takes a while to be strong that way. But you deserve to be HAPPY, and with a guy who treats you like a queen, not a doormat. Keep happiness as a goal, and one of these days (real soon, I hope - you're wasting time where you are) you'll get out of this nightmare, and be free to find someone who loves you for YOURSELF.
2006-12-06 21:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm mm....tough but I get it. It really does depend. Is he the reason you guys broke up in the first place? If it was in that situation, the you should really move on, he's not he right person for u because he only makes you feel hurt and trust me, this is not a good road to go on. First of all, this usually leads to depression and devoting your whole life to him in and putting him in front of everything. You say that it won't but it really will. Like I said, I've been through that eon before.
2006-12-06 21:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with a guy wanting you to become a better person? Reread your question entry...you actaully can use some help with grammar. You may be intellegent but the way you present yourself thru speech and writing may not.
Its better that he is saying he wants a future w. you then using you. Compromise with him alittle. You will be bettering yourself and your relationship
2006-12-06 21:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your starting to feel like you can't be yourself around him, and never have been able to, then it might be time to start thinking about whether or not this relationship is going to last. A long term relationship is all about being yourself around each other, and being able to trust that you are. If he can't accept you as you, then its time to talk to him about it. If none of those things work, you need to find someone who will love you for you.
2006-12-06 21:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Tray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a piece of paper ..make a list of pros and cons. Good and bad things about him. You weigh them out. Figure out what you want to put up with and if you can see yourself doing that for the rest of your life. What if your children make a mistake in grammar..will he make them feel bad or will he help them? Think about it..it is your future and possible your children's future. Good luck
2006-12-06 21:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE! The guy is self-centered, manipulative and downright nasty. And it won't get any better. If you marry him you'll be a slave for life . . . or for however long the marriage lasts! . . . to everything you hate about him now and that will slowly overwhelm any "love" you feel for him.
2006-12-06 21:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by worldinspector 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the only one who can judge this one . it sounds like a non starter for marriage . but it could be the other way around you would never have a dull moment in your life. Remember ,.opposites attract.You be the judge.
2006-12-06 21:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time to move on. My saying is my girlfriend/ significant other should never make you cry, be controlling or even judgemental.
2006-12-06 21:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by danielschmidt94521 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋