i have a gf that i love and that i have been with 4 bout 6 months but she lies all the time, even from the first minute i met her. but a couple weeks after she lies she tells the truth. should i just get rid of her or should i try to help her if i can help, i culd use some advise on helping her. and yes i love her and i will do nething 4 her.
2006-12-06 13:19:58 · 9 answers · asked by subz4life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Heres my advice: You cannot help her. She sounds like a compulsive liar, and it doesnt matter that she "fesses up" in a week or so...how can you be so sure she is being totally honest then?? And that there arent things she is still hiding? It's only been 6 months, so I would say get rid of her.Lying is NOT acceptable in a relationship that is supposed to be something serious and long term. She has to help herself. You dont need to stress about trying to help her. You love this person, but you have no idea what she is really about, you cant possibly know her intimately if she is such a liar.... Think of the future if you stayed, what if you married her and she continued to lie?
2006-12-06 13:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by rufnready 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how you find love in 4-6 months with someone who constantly lies to you. Reconsider. Maybe you should move on to a girl that is not as hot but is truthful and cares about you.
2006-12-06 13:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by spag 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well that is a big issue. Not just something you can change. But common, who really wants to be with a liar. Constantly thinking to yourself "is she lying to me or telling me the truth?". Just be glad you found this out early on. I was married to a pathlogicle lier.....it just got worse and worse.....cut your ties with her and move on.
This probally isn't what you want to hear....but it's the truth. Why would you want to be a liar? You should want to be with someone you trust 100%. Trust is a very important thing in a relationship and doesn't sound like you can have ANY.
2006-12-06 13:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control other people's words or actions, plus a relationship that remains because of threats or coercion is as good as dead to begin with. Get rid of that girl, but make your reasons for doing so truthful and clear, and then get the hell out of there. That way, if she does get the guts to off herself, then at very least God won't blame you for what she did to herself.
2016-05-23 02:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by Regina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first you have to sit down and talk with her. just be very easy and simple and ask why does she feel the need to lie or what does she hope to get out of it. once you know the answers to this i think it will help you in a major way and you could give her some advice. but if she keeps lieing, kick her to the curb because one day shes gonna lie about her faithfullness to you and thats something you ccant have, it could be worse. check it out.
2006-12-06 13:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by albert m44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always that you have to try to help first, but anyways, u think that her lies were hurting u or ur relations, if not u have to reconsider that, coz maybe she's doing that becoz she loves u.
2006-12-06 13:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Deebs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to understand her deeply than what you know of her at the moment... She might need some closure between you and her and respect is the solution for that matter.
2006-12-06 13:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by wacky_racer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she dosent have to lie for you to love her tell her that you went out with her just to have her not her lies
she will understand
2006-12-06 13:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jordo! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to help her but you cant really change a person you know to not lying...i would give it some time and if she hasnt stopped tell her your sick of it and break up with her...sorry :(
2006-12-06 13:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by ugly truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋