Im afraid of divorce of my parents.?

Question

My parents fight a lot. Well not a lot, but when they do, im afraid that they might get a divorce. I have told them that i dont like them fighting and they brush it off and tell me that they're not gonna get a divorce or anything. I know its natural for parents to fight but i just get to scared. I have a lot of friends with divorced parents and they are doing fine but i just dont know what to do. Please help

Answer 1

Ok....I am a mom and I am married. Yes, you are right, parents do argue. But when you live in the same house with someone, its bound to happen.

This is the key. Request a family meeting. Sit down and talk to your parents like an adult in a loving and calm manner. Express how you feel. They will listen as long as you are soft spoken and calm. Tell them that you have a lot of friends that have divorced parents. Tell them that your scared. You parents want you to be open and honest with them. Ask them if they will pray with you about their marriage. You will find comfort in this. I can promise you. If you will just tell them how you feel and what it is doing inside your heart.

Also, can I suggest a book that you can get them for Christmas. It is called "The five love languages" I have inserted a link at the bottom of the page. It is filled with awesome inspirations and it is a Christian based book. Ask them to promise you that they will read it together, or better yet, read it as a family. God is there for you also, he loves his children. He promises that if we seek him, we shall find him. Fear is not of God.. So with that being said, get in a quite place in your room, pray and ask God to comfort and watch over your parents.

Hugs and I will say a little prayer for you too! Dont forget the book! It teaches them what love is and how to show it.. It is AWESOME!

There is also a link below that will allow them to take a quiz. Make it part of their Christmas present. Get a card, write in the card that they have to take a test to get their present. When they log on, they take the quiz and after they take the quiz, they get to open their other gift, which is the book.. If you dont have the money to get the book, emaill me: [e-mail] and we will see what we can do to make that happen for you. I think you can get the book for like 12 bucks...

Hugs In Christ,

Answer 2

Well my parents used to fight too when I was teen...and I was scared just as you are...but just because they are fighting doesn't mean that they will get divorced. My advice would be...try not to put it in your head that they are going to split...cuz it is bad...for the next stage of your life....cuz you will feel about everything insecure...I've been through the same...and if I could change something...that would be..in that time I wouldn't worry too much....after all it is nothing to do with you...they do have issues....don't panic.

Good luck my yahoo friend,and take care of yourself...cuz no one will care if you don't take a good care of yourself.

Answer 3

I REMEMBER WHEN I WAS ABOUT 13 OR 14 AND MY PARENTS WOULD ARGUE AND IT WOULD SCARE ME CAUSE I DIDN'T WANT THEM TO GET DIVORCED....THEY WERE MARRIED 50 YEARS. SO YES, PARENTS ARGUE. JUST ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT AND YOU WILL ALWAYS BE A PART OF BOTH OF THEIR LIVES. BUT IF THEY DO FIGHT A LOT IT IS NOT A HEALTHY ENVIRONMENT TO RAISE CHILDREN IN. WE LEARN HOW TO BE IN RELATIONSHIPS BY EXAMPLE AND IF THE FIGHTING IS FREQUENT..ONCE A WEEK...THEN YOU WILL GROW UP THINKING THAT THIS IS HOW TO ACT IN A RELATIONSHIP. YOU BECOME USE TO IT, AND IT BECOMES COMFORTABLE SO WHEN YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU MIGHT FIND YOURSELF CREATING THINGS TO ARGUE ABOUT BECAUSE IT FEELS "NORMAL". SOMETIMES DIVORCE IS A GOOD THING...EVEN IF IT HURTS FOR A WHILE. LIFE IS JUST LIFE AND WE ADJUST TO THE THINGS THAT OCCUR IN OUR LIVES EVEN IF WE DON'T LIKE IT. WHAT YOU DO IS NOTHING. THAT IS BETWEEN YOUR PARENTS. HOWEVER IT IS NECESSARY THAT YOU SHARE YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT HOW IT MAKES YOU FEEL WHEN THEY FIGHT. TELL THEM IS SCARES YOU. IF THEY ARE ANY KIND OF PARENTS THEY WILL ATTEMPT TO ARGUE IN PRIVATE, ASK YOU TO GO OUTSIDE OR TO A FRIENDS SO THEY CAN FIGHT BETWEEN THEMSELVES WITHOUT INCLUDING YOU. GOOD LUCK AND ALWAY, ALWAYS TALK ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL.

Answer 4

Your fears are natural. Your parents are human and will fight no matter what, but you might sit them down and express to them how serious your fears are right now. They might suggest you see a family doctor to determine if you are suffering from a temporary anxiety disorder. Try not to worry about things you can't change dear. Please talk to an adult soon.

Answer 5

You know its not that bad, my parents split when i was 6 and my mother moved to germany and didnt even tell me when she married another man. But would you rather live with all the fighting or let your parents do whats in their hearts and do what they want to do. It will make them happier and you too in the end. But of course it sux at first.

Answer 6

hey danii
there is nothing you can do parents fight over things in there relationship..over money problem,thing that happen at work,personal problem,they just need to clear the air.i know how nerve racken it can be on you and your parent should realize this I'm very sorry they dont.so the only thing i suggest for you to do is to put a Walkman on turn it up go to your bedroom and chill out in til it over.

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Answer 8

don't worry everything will be alright it natural for them to fight if it worries you don't be scared and talk to them also a chat with your guidance counselor wont hurt

Answer 9

hey... dont worry until it happens!!! and if you dont wanna do that, then talk to them about it, or maybe you could see a guidence counciler or a teacher... that's also what friends are for!!! dont worry about anything!!! it'll turn out alright... remember: when one door closes, another one opens!!!
u r ♥ were ever u r!!!!

Answer 10

you poor thing. it must suck. have you talked to a teacher or councellor at school?? maybe they can refer you to a family councellor with or without your parents. but you relly need to talk to someone. you are too young to go through this alone, and you have alot of questions that need to be answered.