new gf. got pregnant, i got scared, then we started fighting. baby came 4 mo ago. Ive been a great dad, we have worked everything out without the court so far. Ive given he over 1000.00 dollars even before child support ordered, bring clothes and diapers all the time. I know that she thinks that im being a good dad bc she lets me take my daughter by myself. Ive said sorry long ago and have been treating her great. im really sorry about the past, and have told her that i love her and want to be a family and take care of them both forever. she says that she doesnt know what to say. ive noticed that she is wearing a bracelet that i bought her long ago, and she called my grandpa- grandpa on thanksgiving which she came over for but did not stay for dinner.
im so sorry about the past, and have extreme guilt for a broken family. i love her so much and want it to work sooo bad, do you think she is condidering my offer. I will be a great husband to her, and a great dad to our daughter.
2006-12-06 13:12:43 · 11 answers · asked by storminnormin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow, u sound like a great person. u know everyone makes mistakes and she is probably thinking that way right now. i really think she is considering it, i bet she loves you to. I think she is probably trying to consider what is best for her right now and more important what is best for her baby right now. Maybe a father? i hope so. U sound like the kind of person that can take care of a child, i just hope u relize all the responsibliltys involved with being a husband, it's a commitment that u have to be willing to make and stay with. The worst thing that could happen would probably marry and then divorce later which would be horrible for ur child. A lot of people don't take this seriously and then end up scaring their child for life. I think she is probably trying to picture what it would be like to marry u and stay married. and she is probably trying to picture what it would look like just to be friends. I 'm sure she will choose u! good luck!
2006-12-06 13:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by bluechicken818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep doing what you are doing. actions do speak louder than words. remember not to get frustrated. you left her alone during a very scary time in her life. it is so great you are stepping up to the plate but she was obviously very angry and very hurt and a few months doesn't erase that. remember, if she finds you with someone else or being disrespectful it goes back to square one. let her know that you love her and plan on proving it to her that you will be there for ever and can offer her and your daughter unconditional love.
you may try buying a diamond ring and proposing to her on Christmas or New Years Eve as well (if you are serious about wanting to be a family.) what better time to start over then a brand new year.
good luck. stay patient. she will be testing you as well to see if you do mean what you say!
take care, SD
2006-12-06 13:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by SD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient and don't try to push her. Let her have time to decide what is right for her. If she is wearing your bracelet and sharing the holiday with you that should say something. She may just be taking it slow to be sure she is not making a mistake. Tell her to follow her heart. It always knows best!
2006-12-06 13:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By her saying that she doesn't know what to think, it sounds like she is unsure. Sounds like she is still very hesitant and unsure because of the past. I'm sure she doesn't want to put herself or your baby in the position to be hurt again and bounced around. Give her time, and maybe start SHOWING her how it could be if you guys tried ot be a family, like asking for the three of you to share your visitation times instead of taking the baby yourself?
2006-12-06 13:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by Ali 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask her to MARRY you? That, more than anything, will show your commitment to your family. It may have been a rough start but it seems like you've worked things out. Believe me, having a child is hard on even a good marriage. You two aren't alone.
2006-12-06 13:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are the questions you need to ask her. If you both want to be together, you can work things out. Counseling would be beneficial to both of you, to get things "back on track."
Best wishes and happy holidays.
2006-12-06 13:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by Rhonda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your words into action, buy her an engagement ring, and propose formally, actions speak louder than words, now off to the jewelry store.
2006-12-06 13:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 04:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to tell her. Its no sense in having your daughter grow up in a broken home. Its not fair to her.
2006-12-06 13:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by paigeamj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is not wanting commitment right now. And perhaps she wants to have her cake and eat it too.
2006-12-06 13:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by barrettins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋