Would women date a 31 year old virgin?

Question

I'm a 31 year old man who has never had sex. In fact, I've never been in a relationship or even on a date. There are several reasons for this state of affairs, but recently I've considered maybe trying to meet more women or go on a date. How should I approach this subject in this sex-crazed culture of ours? Don't mention it until things get serious? Lie? Would a virgin of my age scare off women? I've been told I'm actual good looking, and I am highly educated with a great career but I just never learned how to relate romantically to women

Answer 1

watch 40 year old virgin...

Answer 2

Personally I like my men experienced but that's just me. My suggestion would be to start researching sex as much as you can. You seem like a smart guy so this shouldn't be a problem for you. What I have found it that even if you haven't had a lot of experience as long as you do some research and get creative you can seem like a pro even though you're a novice. I imagine there are plenty of women out there who would throw themselves at you knowing you are a virgin. I think watching 40 Year Old Virgin might be a good idea truthfully. Not only is it a funny film it will teach you that sex shouldn't be the most important thing and that other men who have had sex will tell you to lie or to hire a hooker or do all sorts of stupid things when in reality when you meet the right girl she's going to love you regardless and you're going to have a blast learning together. Truth is your first time with anyone whether you've been with 50 people or zero is always new and a little awkward. It's after you get to know someone you can start experimenting together and really start to enjoy sex and well everything else together. You'll find the right person and then you'll know what I'm talking about. The key to everything is communication. Make sure she tells you what she wants and likes and you do the same. I hope that helps. Good luck out there and in the words of 40 Year Old Virgin don't put the pussy on a pedastal. You actually have a great advantage because you can put getting to know the women first before the sex which few men are capable of doing. ;)

Answer 3

I lost my virginity at 15 and as I got older wish I could have had it back. There is nothing wrong being a virgin...I find it admirable. That's what's wrong with so many relationships...once your married, you compare your spouse with earlier escapades. Sex is sex...main purpose is to have an orgasm. Making love with someone you love is a whole different experience. There is no need to tell anyone that you are a virgin until the time comes for you to lose it!!!!! Then it really shouldn't matter. I think it will make you a far better lover because she will be teaching you all the right moves. Since you've made it this far...save yourself for marriage. I have a female friend who was a virgin at 33...she got married about a year ago and everything worked out fine. There are still female virgins out there...just wait on her.

Answer 4

Wow, well if a woman finds that she likes you AND that you're a virgin, she wouldn't care. As long as if you're sweet and funny (everything women look for in men.). Don't tell her at the begining, say so tell me more about you (on the date.) what school did you go to. What sports did you play? Tell her only if your confortable with it, but if you're not, then don't until things get serious if you go father with her. Have you ever seen the 40 year old virgin? I don't recamend doing the "stunts" in that movie. You see a girl in the coffee shor OR night club (where ever.) make sure she doesn't have a ring! Talk to her and ask if she'd be intrested in getting dinner one night. Talk to her (if she accepts). Get to know her. If things don't seem to being going right, then ask if you'd like to be friends and get coffee this weekend. IF things do go well and you seem to like this girl, then let her, if she's not cool with it then let her **** off, she shouldn;t be juding people just because you have never had sex before. It doesn't matter, what matters is the love and passion you guys have for eachtoher or on first dates, the things you have in common. Now don't try nailing her the first night, and if you TRY then that means that girl is probably a slut and just trying to get you to sleep with her and then...you never see her again. Talk to someone at the office maybe (Women you already have htings in common with). Good luck!

Answer 5

I'm suddenly having a horrible time breathing. Please, don't for a moment think of yourself as "undateable". Even the word "date" doesn't apply to you, darling.

I'm teasing of course. Don't let the fact that you haven't "done it" mean anything. Real women won't care and you don't care about anything but, do you? I don't mind a bit. Tell you anything?

You are correct about the culture but wrong about the individual. I think you will find that most women, if given half a chance will find your circumstances no more unique than their own.

Don't lie. If you want the truth I suggest you give it. You will not scare anyone.

You seem articulate. I'm sure you can talk your way through this. Tell the truth when the proper time comes.

Answer 6

Yes, of course they would. Honestly, I think the average woman might find this strange and perhaps even hard to believe but then again, you seem not so average yourself and will probably be attracted to someone who is not so average, also.

If I were you, I'd save telling this to someone until you got a bit serious or until you guys became more intimate. Personally, I'm extremely turned off by men who bring up sex or even hint at it too early.

I hope you don't see your virginity as something weird. It's unusual, yes, but what's great about people like you is that you're not a dime a dozen. Dating is tough and there is a lot of rejection (especially on the side of men) involved but when you find someone that you click with, especially when you, (like you and myself), it's really truly amazing. Furthermore, when I'm involved with someone, I like to block out their sexual past and sometimes even prefer to think I'm the only girl that he's ever been with.

Good luck and try not to over analyze this part of yourself!

Answer 7

hey dude. i'm a 32 yr old virgin.. don't worry about it.. focus on getting to know women as friends-first. don't approach the topic of sex right away..

most women won't care too much about a guy's past (whether it is full of sex, or no sex). they are mostly interested in the present. what a guy is like, his attitude, his personality, his goals in life..

dating and having sex are two different things.. both don't always have to go together..

i've never been told that my virginity is a problem. most girls think it is sweet and special..

good luck!

Answer 8

I believe there are women who will date you. Not all women want their partner to have the macho image.
Don't lie about your virginity! Tell the truth. This would be a test for you to know what's her purpose of dating you-"Is it sex, or not?" Ask her again to have a date. Take it slowly do not be scared, show her the REAL you. And if she accepts the way you are she could become your girlfriend someday.

Answer 9

First of all....NO WAY!

But if this is real...hell yea women would date a 31 yr old virgin. Good looking, great career, and a virgin? You're what women have been looking for for years!

Just be yourself. You only get one first time. Make sure you're ready and comfortable with your partner. Relax and enjoy! You don't know what you're missing (*wink*). But PRACTICE SAFE SEX!

Answer 10

Truthfully, I wouldn't date a virgin that old. Not that the man has to be a super player, but the man needs to have at least some experience. I've already been through the stumbling, fumbling, numbing not knowing what you're doing phase and I'm not looking to go through it again.

Answer 11

Of course women would love to date you.Being a virgin at 31 in this and age is(I think) a very good thing.Good Luck.