advice please?

Question

any advice on dealing with serious heartbreak? the man im in love with and have been together with for about a year and a half just dumped me and is now together with my ex-best friend.... i feel ruined.. they both claim to love each other.. i have never loved anybody this much and i dont know what to do. please help =(

Answer 1

Take courage. There's nothing you can do but to move on with your life. It hurts but don't let that experience stop you from finding the right guy. Maybe you were not meant for each other. All you can do is just accept the fact that he is gone forever. This does not mean your future is gone as well. Take at it as a challenge and change your mindset. There will always be the right guy that will come at the right time. Time does not heal a broken heart but it is what you do with the time. Now is the time to fill that emptiness. Go out and find new friends. Join a christian church. Try to learn new skills. Get involved in voluteer work in you area where you can help people. Make best use of your time instead of having pity party. In God's perfect time, He will make all things beautiful in your life. Smile, it's not the end of the world.

Answer 2

If your boyfriend dumped your for you best friend, thank him for doing so, since you know the real him earlier, it simply means he doesn't love you as much as you love him. Learn to accept the fact that he is not worth to be loved by you, that this circumstance happened because destiny has a better man waiting for you out there, you just don't now, he is just around the corner. Destiny is hard to find, but don't find it, all you know he is there in front of you. Don't force somebody who doesn't show interest in you anymore, as it will add more to your agony. But, if he comes back and realized that you are the one he likes then it is up for you if you could afford to give him a second chance. :) Goodluck!!!

Answer 3

Ouch!!! The "Double Whammy" you poor thing!!!
Buy yourself flowers immediately and tell yourself you can do much better on both counts.
I'm sure it hurts coming from your friend more than it does from him because we gal's are supposed to SUPPORT each other, not CRUSH each other!!
I really hope you will be alright, it's so hard being deceived, especially twice at the same time.... and from people you thought you could trust : (
Here's a couple hugs XXX hope you pull through ok.

Answer 4

Trust me, I've been there. It's unbearable at first. But the only thing you can do is to find something to keep you busy and try not to think about it. One day, you'll wake up and suddenly realize that you don't need him. It'll take some time, but you'll feel better eventually. And you'll learn something from every time you get your heart broken. Over time, you'll use those things you learned to figure out who the perfect guy is for you. Good luck, I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 5

well just show him that ur way over him... go out with other guys... stay happy! make it seem like u never even loved him in the first place... just make sure u dont get hurt in the process... and dont hurt others either... it may hurt ur ex, but he should have expected it anyways... by the way, that's a very good "ex-bestfriend"... some bestfriend she turn out 2 be!

Answer 6

Sorrry they did you so dirty like that. They are the ones that lost a good person. (Think of it like that)....it will take a long while before you get over the pain,,but after the pain will come the anger...and then you will realize that you dont need either one of them. Then you will ask yourself what you ever seen in him in the first place. Trust me on this.

Answer 7

Its not love its lust, find a bigger better dik and you'll be fine - preferably someone he knows - he's a *** head - u need to step up on ur love makingor else you could *** her up because he'll still wanna hit that. try rockin his world too call her and let her catchyou in the act, fk up their relationship and move on. **** him again girl and call her - let her see te two of you - and then dump him and her, teh heh hehh

Answer 8

Get over it. Obviously it going to hurt, and let it. The most important thing to do it act like you don't care and ALWAYS have a smile on your face when they're around. They are going to hurt the most in the end and you don't need someone who dated your friends.

Answer 9

Well get hold of yourself. Try going out and have fun. Forget about your past with him there no point of regretting and dissappointed for yourself. Move on. I bet you will get to know better ma nthen him. Good luck

Answer 10

basically, love can suck. I know it may seem horrible with out him and even worse because he is with your ex best friend but try your best to move on. If he's dumb enough to dump you then he doesn't deserve you.