Why should I forgive...I have a coworker who constantly criticizes or shits on me all the time...when I do forgive he just shits on me again..what do I do?
2006-12-06 13:01:49 · 31 answers · asked by razorsedge 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If your co-worker continues to sh*t on you, he will face the consequences of his/her actions, worry not. Holding anger and withholding forgiveness is a poison which spreads throughout *your* being (not theirs). You forgive for *yourself* not for the other person.
2006-12-06 13:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well why do you feel you owe him forgiveness, some people are just unworthy of forgiveness, so just don't let him **** on you by standing up to him and if you can't do that either get the boss to correct the problem or go to PR and if that doesn't help, call security next time he shits on you
2006-12-06 21:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by man of ape 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, forgiving somebody and liking somebody are two different things. However, if you have ever pissed somebody off, you would want them to forgive you. Put yourself in their shoes, forgive them, and ask them to stop doing what they are doing that aggravates you. If they stop, then maybe you can start liking them again.
PS---If he really took a **** on you, you need to tell the cops, because that is just gross.....
2006-12-06 21:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God tells us to forgive people 77xs this is an example please don't count people's offenses to you read Matt.18:15-17 and also read further in Matt. 18 about the man who owed his master 10,000talents, and begged for grace then choked a man and had him inprisoned because he owed him 100 denarii, when the king found out he did not give the same grace he had his servant inprisoned for not showing the same grace Jesus said this is how my Father will treat you if you do not forgive your brother from your heart. How many times have you sinned against God even in the little things sin is sin Jesus paid for our sins have a little mercy and grace and don't abuse it we have all fallen short of the glory of God besides she's sleeping at night not thinking about you how are you feeling
2006-12-06 21:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask as a Christian, then we are taught to forgive "seventy times seven" in order that your sins may also be forgiven you. --Matthew 18:22.
As a co-worker however, it sounds like grounds for harrassment in your work environment, one that your Supervisor and/or the HRD should be aware of. And, hopefully, it is not the result of something that you may have initiated or provoked either. Or else you stand to suffer the consequences.
Peace be with you.
2006-12-06 21:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Arf Bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insulting you is his problem, not yours. You can just listen and go on your way. You don't have to forgive him if you refuse to accept his insults in the first place.
Forgiveness is for a violent act commited against you, not petty insults. Without forgiveness, the bitterness will continue to fester. If you forgive, then it all just drops away...
2006-12-06 21:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by Shinkirou Hasukage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can't answer for him/her shitting on you.... but criticisim is part of life, and if you plan on living in the big boy world you are going to need thicker skin. if it is not helping you get better, then you should address that. he/she might think they are being funny, or think you are a push over. think of reasons you have been overly critical of other people. to answer your question, you forgive to make yourself sleep better at night. not the other way around. carrying hatred is bad for you mentally physiically and spiritually. you forgive so YOU can get on with YOUR life. but it is your decision wheather to tell him /her you forgive them. you can fix this problem by confronting them, but wear your thick skin, and a groin protector, because what they tell you just might hurt, oh... and bring a roll of toilet paper.
-steve
2006-12-06 21:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by sbookeydoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Why forgive? For God's sake. He is glorified, as He forgave you.
2. For your sake, freeing yourself from bitterness that eats away at your innards, and will harm your other relationships.
3. For the offender's sake, so he or she can be free to improve.
But what should you do? They keep coming back and acting nasty to you? Forgiving does not mean you cannot set limits. After confronting the person with the roblem, and having been unsuccessful in getting them to change their ways, you can say something like: "I won't listen to you, keep away from my office (f you have an office) - It doesn't do either of us any good for me to listen to your destructive criticism. I don't need it. In other words you don't need to be continually "nice". Polite and respectful, yes. But also firm.
2006-12-06 21:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to forgive him, if you don't you can't expect God to forgive you of your daily sins. But you should talk to the coworker and ask him why he is doing this to you. And also pray about it. But mainly you need to talk to the person
2006-12-06 21:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Guru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to hang with the jerk, that is not what forgiveness is. You do not have to be a door mat. Try to avoid the ******, and if he infringes on you, go to management, you do not have to put up with that crap,life is too short. Jesus was not a wuss, he does not expect you to be one to please God, either. God Bless You
Ps: a reason to forgive (in general), would be not to go around eaten up with a a grudge, it is more for YOU than for the offender, just my interpretation, but it makes sense.
2006-12-06 21:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋