I asked my friend to be the maid of honor in my wedding. I'm getting married April 6, 2007. My friend lives in California and I live in Michigan. We always said to each other that if one or the other gets married we would be at each others wedding. I've known my friend for 14 years. We went to college together we've been there for each other for happy and sad times, that is why I asked her. When I did ask she seemed less than enthusiastic, I thought she was having a bad day maybe, but she agreed. That was about 8 months ago. She has not mentioned anything about the wedding since then. I've sent her emails of pictures of bridesmaid dresses asking her opinion she never responds. When I do talk to her on the phone she nevers asks anything. I not the type of person to be a bridezilla, I'm not bombarding her with wedding details. I'm really not asking anything, only for her to show up and be in the wedding. I don't know what to do, should I ask her not to be in the wedding?
2006-12-06 12:59:09 · 8 answers · asked by hailesellase 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
ur friend is probably depressed over the idea that she there is a person that is going to come between u and her. DONT LET HER THINK THIS! invite her to lunch at a restaurant and bring up the idea of the wedding. watch her reaction. tell her that she will always your "one-and only BFF" tell her tht u want to share ths special moment with her. let her know tht she is very important to u. ths will make a difference.
2006-12-06 13:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by Little*Miss*Perfet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe attending your wedding from California to Michigan will be a financial hardship for her? Airline tickets, hotels, time off work, and away from home add to that the cost of the dress and then a wedding gift. Maids of Honor are also responsible for bachelorette parties and maybe even bridal showers. That is quite a burden to try to handle long distance. If she has lived in California for awhile she would have a new circle of friends that are important to her and are more relevant to her life at the moment. It is very to hard to maintain "close" relationships long distance. Maybe it is time to have a frank talk with her. If she is not excited about the honor perhaps the honor should be bestowed upon someone who will be more able and ready to do it.
2006-12-06 13:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by PRS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her over to Michigan for the holidays. Sit her down and talk to her. Ask her if something is bothering her. Maybe she's jealous that you're getting married first. Maybe she feels that you guys won't be best friends anymore after you get married. Maybe she's just changed! Whatever it is, you've got to find out before April. It's not a good thing to wait until the last minute only to find out that you don't have a maid of honor. That would be horrible!
Oh, and congratulations by the way! =D
2006-12-06 13:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously emotionally not the same person as she was in college. I would kindly ask her if there is something she is concerned about. It could be that she just can't fianancially afford it. People are proud and unwilling to tell what the real reaosn is the first time. It could be jealousy. It could be she is a different person than she was back then.
2006-12-06 13:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by lawmarbefree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bear in mind that as quickly as human beings have toddlers and get married, their single pals do tend to drop off the radar slightly. Their priorities and schedules are very distinctive. Your chum won't have even realised how plenty she has decrease you out, or she could have figured which you had sufficient on your plate on the 2d with the imminent wedding ceremony and new toddler to be troubled approximately her. you will no longer understand this except you consult from her. you relatively could consult from her, ideally in person, and basically ask her outright if she nevertheless desires to be your MOH. If she says specific, then you definately tell her that she desires to %. up her activity - and quickly. tell her that ever on account which you moved returned to city, you have felt like she is purposely keeping off you and which you sense as in case you have drifted aside over the previous few months. tell her which you may choose to re-ignite your friendship, yet which you will no longer do it on my own and she or he desires to make some compromise, too. by putting the determination of being MOH returned on her you're forcing her to re-evaluate what she needs from her friendship from you. regrettably, you moreover mght danger the possibility that she turns around and says that she does not choose to be MOH, a bridesmaid or perhaps to attend your wedding ceremony. in this form of concern, it quite is relatively the possibility which you will take.
2016-10-17 22:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by ranford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her an email and explain that if she doesn't get her dress by a certain date that she will not be in the wedding party. tell her that she is still invited and you would love her there. if she is ignoring you and being cold, i think she is trying to tell you she isn't into the wedding. maybe she is a little jealous...
go on planning and enjoying your pre-wedding stuff.
2006-12-07 05:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may b it is bcoz of d distance but most likely she has outgrow dat idea . as a long time friend u hv every right 2 ask her if she wud want 2 b at ur wedding day n if she sort feel uncomfortable answering then u can safely delete her fm ur list .
2006-12-06 13:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you two have just grown apart. She needs to be thrilled for you, or she should not be in your wedding. I think you
need to just be honest with her and ask her how she feels, and
tell her how you interpret her apparent lack of interest. You just
need communication. Good Luck!
2006-12-06 13:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋