My sister in law and I were best friends until I got pregnant. Now she calls harrassing me and calling my husband x wife to call my house. My husband has told his sister and x wife to stop calling our home but my sister in law doesn't get the point. She has told family members that she feels like that I should of waited until she got pregnant. My mother in law is a sweetheart and wants us to make up this Christmas. But I'm so hurt. I'm worried about my baby's health. I'm now 5 months and afraid that my sister in law is going to do more to affect me and the baby. What should I do?
2006-12-06 12:53:27 · 18 answers · asked by Baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your sister in law has obvious jealousy issues going on. I dont blame you for being nervous or hurt. I would be worried she was purposely trying to get you to lose the baby at this point. Very cruel person she is. And not very nice to her brother or her unborn niece or nephew. I would remind her of that. I would tell your mother in law that you are sorry things are as they are...but this is not your doing and until you have safely delivered this baby...you will not subject yourself anywhere near that daughter of hers. Id be asking your mother in law to instill into her daughter that she is not only hurting you....but her own brother and her unborn niece or nephew and that it will not go forgotten easily any time soon. PROTECT YOU AND YOUR BABY HON
2006-12-06 12:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by jslorri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband and tell him you're worried about the baby's health and yours. Then set up a time to go see your mother in law when the wicked twosome won't be there. Don't be nasty but a little white lie about not feeling up to a lot of Christmas festivities and some truth about the health concerns should appease any questions. Then spend a quiet day at home or with your family. As for the phone calls, get an answering machine or call screening. Either way let your husband deal with the messages they leave. That isn't something you need to deal with.
Unfortunately it's sheer jealousy and families can be worse than friends. Hopefully they'll get over it soon and the only reason they're being so persistent is that they know it bothers you.
Good luck to you, your husband and the baby.
2006-12-06 13:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by mother 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though your sister-in-law is a very jealous and very immature individual. I would treat her with kindness and respect your mother-in-laws wishes. However, I would be very careful as far as telling her anything personal. Do not put your guard down around her, she has already displayed her ignorance and lack of respect for you. Just go to the family functions for the holidays and act as though she is not really bothering you. She is only doing the things she is doing because she is jealous and miserable and very immature. If she doesn't get a reaction she will stop. Her attitude is probably why she has not gotten pregnant yet, what an attitude to have and be someones mother. That is scary. Good luck to you and your new baby, God bless****
2006-12-06 12:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your mother in law, sorry, but we can't all be together on Christmas. Make a separate date with just you, your husband, and her. Also, DON'T leave that baby alone w/ your sister in law. If it gets too bad, make a police report, so there's something on record about her. I would also get call block on your phone so you can block her and his ex wife's numbers from being able to call. Good luck and God Bless
2006-12-06 14:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need someone who is hurtful in your life. Your HUSBAND needs to put his foot down and tell her it stops NOW. It is in no way her decision when you decide to get pregnant so who cares what her opinion is.
Your husband also needs to tell his mother that he will not put you in a bad situation. His sister must stop calling you immediately and have no contact with his ex-wife. If his sister says one unkind thing to you at Christmas, then leave. She is acting like an evil witch and you shouldn't put up with it. I hope the rest of his family supports you adn has the guts to put her in her place.
2006-12-06 13:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a nut case. Since when does anyone have to wiat their turn to have a baby? Thats a private choice a wife and husband make. She sounds so crazy I wouldnt ever leave your baby alone with her.
For now you need to make your health a priority. You need to let your husband deal with this and you just take care of things you need to for you and your baby.
I find it appalling a relative would ruin such a wonderful exciting time for you. Stay away from her. And dont even answer the phone if you dont want to.
2006-12-06 12:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore the cow. you do not need more stress right now.. do you have call display?? screen your calls and only answer the ones you want to. keep away from her, she is very negative, and it is none of her damn business when you got prego, this is your time not hers. call the phone company and find out how to block her #. it is usually a matter of when she is on the line with you, pressing a few numbers and when she calls she will get a message that says the # you are trying to reach is busy... good luck to you.
2006-12-06 13:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by happyday to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not fair of your sister in law to be acting this way. It's real childish of her. The best thing to do would be to just stay away from her if she going to cause stress because it can hurt you and your baby. One thing I was taught was that being nice throws people off. Just try and stay positive.
2006-12-06 13:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it doesnt stop i would call the police and make a report that you are being harrassed and that you want it to stop.also call the phone company and have your number changed. have it unlisted.the police will go to her house and they will warn her that she will go to jail or court to face charges if she doesnt stop.this is harrassment. tell your motherinlaw that you cant be friends with someone who is jealous of you because you are pregnant. your sisterinlaw has destroyed your trust in her.she will have to earn your trust again. pray for her but leave her alone till she comes to her senses.
2006-12-06 13:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by jbearbooboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid her as much as possible...she sounds like a nut! Maybe her attitude will improve after the baby is born...but I would NOT trust her alone with the baby or to babysit. She just sounds very unstable
2006-12-06 12:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋