Sometimes at different parts of my life, I remember something bad that someone did to me, and I feel like confronting them or doing something about it. Does that mean I’m not over it or I’m holding a grudge? If so, what would you do in my place?
I guess it also depends on if it was a big deal or not. But sometimes it just bugs me to a point where I’m losing sleep! Is this normal? If not, can anyone help?
Keeping busy doesn’t really work as I’ve found out, because it comees back later after I’m not. Any suggestions?
2006-12-06 12:43:00 · 7 answers · asked by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
something really bad happened 2 me when i was growing up i have never got over it i can,t forget it i lose a lot of sleep u may want 2 talk 2 someone u can trust about what happened 2 u it need 2 get out so that it don,t kill u inside if u don,t tell anyone how will they know what is going on with u sometimes it help 2 get it out that way u don,t hold it in that is why it keeps coming back u have not faced it yet and until u do it will keep hurting u but make sure u r ready 2 face whatever it is because if not it may end up hurting u only u can tell when u r ready 4 that i hope that u will find what i said 2 help u
2006-12-06 13:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by misery the demon within 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My therapist says I am holding grudges, and that I haven't dealt with it or moved past it, and I do the same thing you do. The only way I can actually get over it for a while is to discuss it with my therapist. You should try to find one that you feel comfortable talking with, and while they might not be able to help you get over it, they can help you learn new ways to deal with your anger. A good place to start looking is contacting your local DHHR office, or, if it's available in your area, call your local United Way. They offer a program where you can get couceling from a certified therapist as many times a week as available to them and you. They are also based on your income, so if that's an issue, they can help there to. Good luck to you.
2006-12-06 20:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by stacijo531 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a form of anxiety, and is perfectly normal. What determines how healthy you are, overall, is how you respond to these feelings. If you act out in a vengeful way, this can signal a problem. Even if the person really did something bad to you, this is not the best way to deal with the situation. The best thing to do is to get help for YOUR feelings. And do not feel one ounce of shame in doing so. You have a right to feel angry and at times even like you want to get revenge, but you can and need to move on from this. Obviously, there are therapists and medications that are helpful for anxiety treatment. It is up to you to seek out the help that is available. You can get help completely anonymously and the treatments do work! Trust me, I suffer from extreme anxiety but it is being treated effectively.
Best of luck to you...
2006-12-06 20:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by PremiereTalentUSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think to a certain degree, we all feel that way. We all look back on our lives and wonder what if??? We all wish we could be vindicated for some past unjustice. Wondering about it I thik is OK. Obcessing about it is another matter.
If you feel that these thoughts consume you and you plan to act on them ... you may consider discussing this with a professional.
If you do not feel compelled to act on your thoughts or to hurt yourself or others, maybe you just need to find something to make you happy. Keeping busy and finding enjoyment in something are different.
I wish you the best.
2006-12-06 20:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by Army family. 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take some Valerian root herb . two capsules before bed time.it will relax you. when you have those thoughts give them to God and let them go.forgive them.truly in your heart.exercise two hours before bed time.don't drink caffeine drinks before bedtime.I have the same problem. and all this helps me.I went to group therapy once and that helped. Hope you have a very Merry Christmas
2006-12-06 21:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've felt this way before.Memories are triggered by smell and sound. That is why you find yourself rembering things here and there. Yes you haven'tcome to terms things yet
2006-12-06 20:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
same here. i write about it and cry if needed to get it off my head.
2006-12-06 21:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋