Hey i just asked about my exgirlfreinds eatin disorder but..she JUST broke my heart.HELP?

Question

ok..i was the one that just asked for help about my exgfs eatin disorder..well i just talked to her and she just broke my heart.she said that she doesnt want nething else to do with me and that we both should just move on.she doesnt understand how bad she just hurt me. i mean i have a bad depression problem, and latley shes been the only thing holding me together but...what do i do now?i feel like my world is falling down on top of me and noone even cares. please help

Answer 1

Maybe it's the way you approached the topic...it's a sensitive and personal issue, and you're tone might have been a little off, accusatory or a little insensitive or your timing was wrong. Or maybe you asked her about it very nicely but she herself might not be ready to admit to herself that she's got an eating disorder or she just felt like being mean. Either way, you should get someone involved because you both sound like you need help - her for her eating disorder and you for your depression. If she's close to a family member, ask that person if they think your girl has some odd eating habits, that way you'll have someone with you to encourage her to get some help and help you as well.

She might have just been mad and that's why she reacted so harshly, because if she's gonna break up over a question, no matter how personal, there might have been other problems in the relationship and this was the straw that broke the camel's back for her. At any rate, try not to worry about it too much. Easier said than done, I know, but you have to focus on getting yourself better and out of this depression.

I know that things are probably overwhelming and you can't see how anything could help. But neither one of these problems is going to go away without getting help. They will only get worse.Try to see a therapist and contact these numbers. I hope things get better for you and your girl real soon. Hang in there. Good luck with everything.

Some numbers for when you need to talk to someone. Please pick a number and call them when you're feeling low. I also added some links on how to get help for yourself and for your girlfriend.
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Answer 2

If she has an eating disorder, it was her own illness talking. If you also suffer from depression, may be the two of you need some time a part to work on your individual problems. It sounds like neither of you can help each other right now, take a break, get your lives under control, then thick a bout getting back to gather, best of luck to the both of you.

Answer 3

Try to hold it together for a little while longer. If you are so down you probably need help like an antidepressant or something. See a DR or go to a clinic as soon as possible to get yourself back together. Maybe if she sees you getting better you will become more attractive. If that doesn't work, at least you will be setting the example for her to get some help for her eating disorder. You could help her by helping yourself.

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Answer 4

I know that you care for her a lot and that is why you inquired about it. You both have a problem. Her with her eating and you with your depression. You have to have your own life straight before you can straighten out someone else's. I was depressed and had to help myself. Now I am in a great relationship. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

She probably just dumped you because you know and she's mad because she couldn't control you from finding out. People with ed's are all about control and "seeming" one way and actually "being" another way. Just tetll her you're there if she needs a shoulder. Someone should also know, because its dangerous.

Answer 6

youll get a new girl that will really love you ...dont waste time on a girl that doesnt love you