My boyfriend was touching my daughter. And I do not mean touching touching. I need some help?

Question

Okay. When I came back from my cousin's house and walked into my room. Her diaper was off and she was gurgling. Only he was "touching" her were he was not suppose to and he claimed he was changing her diaper. Only he didn't have any diaper supplies ANYWHERE. I kicked him out immediantly. Can I banish him from my daughters life completely? Can't he be taken to court and jailed? This is extremely disgusting and I cannot believe he did this!

It's like everything is crashing down around me...

Btw my daughter is only a few days old.

Answer 1

Yes call the cops. If he isn't stopped he could do alot worse to another child. I hate to even imagine what could have happened if you had not interrupted him! After reading through the other answers, just out of curiosity, how old is this boyfriend since you are only thirteen has he already broken child molestation laws?

Answer 2

okay is your boyfriend 14 or 16? You said he was both in your posts. was your baby born a few weeks ago or a few days ago? You said she was a week old a week ago...Is this the boyfriend that slapped you so hard you hit the ground or a different one? The boyfriend who hit you in your previous posts was the father and that makes it more difficutl, if this is a new boyfriend who you say is 14 then he is not the father and obviously has no rights.most babies dont even know how to coo at a few days old. That usually doesnt happen until the baby is at least a month old, but I could be rong. Either way you should get it together, your 13 years old with a baby and letting a child molesting wife beater into your life is not smart at all. You also may have a difficult time pressing charges against him im sorry to say because he can lie and say he was changing the baby and you have no proof he was doing otherwise..so anyways you should fill out a police report against him just because it will look good in court if it came to that..also do not let a child molester anywhere near your child again..if you come back posting more stuff about this loser then you will deserve everythign you get, but your baby does deserve to be safe and you need to never let your daughter be alone with this guy ever again! Can you tell your parents! They will probably be better able to advise you then anyone here....Leave the attic and tell them what he did. You are a very young mother but if you have all the support and help of your family then in court you will look to be a much more fit parent then him. Try and get a restraining order against this pervert if you can because that will look good in court as well. YOU MUST NOT ALLOW THIS BOY BACK IN YOUR LIFE!!!! Hes already slapped your right! ITs one thing to let this guy hurt you, but never let him hurt your daughter and if you try everything you can to keep him away from her then you are doing well. Find out what laws prohibit him from having any custody of her and what you can do. You are doing well for being such a young mom and its rough when your other half so to speak needs to be ousted from your life, but please think about what is best for you and your child and do not let this guy within ten feet of your baby.

btw men are not adept at chaning babies diapers all the time, even I am not with my baby who is three months, sometimes ill take her to the living room where her diaper is and take off her diaper only to realize that all the diapers are in the bedroom and ill have to run there to get the supplies, but you trusted your instint which is wise, if you think something was up then something more then likely was and you did the right thing.

Answer 3

Okay, I am assuming this is the father of the child. With that, there are a few options, but first GET IT DOCUMENTED! Call the police and explain what happened, they will have to keep a record even if they cannot do anything about it. One, being as though you are not married to the Father you have full custody unless a court has already made an order of shared or joint custody, if not, then you have every right to keep him away. Force him to take you to court to see the child, then you will get another documentation about what happened and why you would not allow him to. If a court has ordered that custody be shared, then you can have the order amended for him to have supervised visitation ONLY. Also while you are waiting on the courts you can get a temporary restraining order that will keep him at bay, or locked in jail if he ignores it. Either way serves the purpose.
Also, I hope there is someone there with you, if not, have someone who you know you can trust stay with you, it is always good to have a witness at this time.

Answer 4

Yes you can banish him from your daughters life completely and in my opinion you need too!

I am so sorry this happened but I am so pleased that you found out now rather than later.

I feel that you should report the incident. This way, if there are other allegations against him in future there will be more weight to the charges.
In other words, it will make it a lot less likely that he can do this again and get away with it.

I don't know if you can put him behind bars, it depends on how much you want too and upon what lawyer you get.

Answer 5

OH my.. I am so sorry to hear that this is happening. You are right to have thrown him out. Here is what you need to do. Call your CPS (child protective services) in your state. Tell them what happened. They will do an investigation. Make sure that you write down everything that was said, done, and how it ended. This keeps your mind fresh. Let the CPS take care of him. They also will press any charges that need to be charged if it comes to that. Call the police and make out a report. Ask them what you can do to keep your BF away from your daughter till this can all be sorted out. I am sorry that this is happening to you and your daughter. Luckily, she is young enough that she wont remember. My prayers are with you... God Bless you.

Answer 6

Step 1: Dump him. NOW.

Step 2: Call the police and file a report. Even if you can't land a charge on him, the record may come in handy.

Step 3: If you fear he will return, get a lawyer and ask for a restraining order. Also, ask the police if there is anything you can do to keep him away from you and her.

Answer 7

Yes, you can "kick him out of your life" and you probably should. He has no business touching your daughter. Unless he is your daughter's father, he has no right to even see her. If he is her father, he does have rights and you may have to speak with a lawyer. Even so, you can call the police. He could be charged with sexual touching or sexual interference of a minor (at the least). Whatever you do, never leave her alone with him.
Boyfriends can be replaced, but your child needs you to protect her.

Answer 8

I am so sorry for you. You did the right thing by kicking him out. I would definitely call the police. In case anything else happens, they would have a prior record on him. You should report him for you and your daughter's safety, as well as the safety of other children. Take care, you are in my thoughts.

Answer 9

Call the police first and keep away from him. Get a restraining order if you can. It is your responsibility as a parent to protect your child and as a citizen to protect other children he may be in contact with. If nothing becomes of this at least you have put up red flags to warn others.

Answer 10

First and foremost, your daughter comes first! Secondly, you got rid of him. Thirdly, YES you should banish him from your daughter's life completely.
Report him to the authorities, he may not be charged/convicted of anything,but, it will be on record should it happen to some other child. Pedophiles pray on young innocent children, many of them are scarred for life, physically and emotionally. You did the right thing, protect your daughter at all costs.