what is the matter?

Question

i can not geta guy what is rong

Answer 1

You're trying too hard or perhaps you are too choosy.

The good fighters of old first put themselves beyond the possibility of defeat, and then waited for an opportunity of defeating the enemy. - Sun Tzu "The Art Of War"

If you are a girl, most guys (the heterosexual proportion DOES usually make up most guys) will want you. They are just programmed that way.

To increase your desirability the most important thing seems to be a degree of confidence. Girls of any body shape, skin colour, hair colour, breast size, leg length, etc can find guys who like that sort of thing. I guess the first thing there is to ask yourself: Do you like those guys who are into you? If not, are there changes you need to make in yourself.

Another parallel question is: Are you happy with you the way you are? If you are not happy with yourself you will find it harder to get the guys and you may well fall prey to guys who will manipulate your low self esteem - a recipe for disaster.

First make yourself. Make yourself into what it is you want to be. Ignore the guys. They will come to you of their own accord.

Are there issues in your environment - ?isolated community ?isolated among your age group or isolated from the age group of guys you are trying to hook up with ... ? You might need to go farther afield than you are used to.

I broke up with my girlfriend 4 months ago - still had the odd repercussion - like when she freaked out at me 2 months ago and broke the glass panels of my front door :-( hence trust issues.

I have been working on myself for some years now. I go to the gym. I read widely. I paint (self taught). I play music (am now in a band). I have been going to lessons to learn to dance salsa - all sort of stuff aimed at getting out there and meeting the girls and at the same time improving my body, my mind, my style (I lack style severely - or initially did at any rate - still working on it). I make myself open to possibilities and along they come! :-)

If you feel too shy to approach a guy, don't worry. Someone will work up the nerve to approach you. However, shyness might be something that you might want to work on. You'll find that the confident guys who have learned that there is a bit of a knack to make girls like you but who develop that - well some of them can be a bit dodgy. You'll have to learn how to spot this sort of thing. Or you could work on the shyness and approach the guys you want to approach.

Answer 2

I gave this advise to a girl a few weeks ago and she said it worked.
Our church has a lot of young people that attend, they go over to the rectory for the coffee and donuts the Knights Of Columbus serve there on Saturdays for everyone. The young people go there to meet each other. There's the order of the Moose Lodge, they serve drinks there but it's a controlled situation and the American Legion where there tons of young people from both places, from the Iraqi campaign and others all around there late teens and early twenties.
Plenty of people to met Honey, you have to try to you know, you just can't sit there and wait, they call them spinsters.