we would exchange gifts during birthdays and holidays. This person moved away and I continued to send gifts. This person hasn't given me any gifts for over a year, including for my graduation from university and my birthday. Should I stop sending gifts?
I don't want to be a jerk about it, but I feel weird about not giving a gift...I don't want to appear stingy. I do need to say that I feel kind of annoyed that my graduation was acknowledged, at least with a card or something. So how do you gracefull stop mutual gift exchange?
2006-12-06 11:53:57 · 12 answers · asked by Myra 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I meant to say that my graduation was not acknowledged...
2006-12-06 12:08:36 · update #1
You sound like a most gracious person... However your kindness is not being returned. I would just send cards now for all occasions to this person. I would not under any circumstances mention that you want to stop the gift giving. They are already aware that they do not send to you so you will not gain anything.
I do not believe they will approach you about not gifting them...perhaps however rude it was of them to stop sending you gifts maybe it was their way trying to end that part of your relationship.
2006-12-06 12:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wake up, your family member has already stopped. Whether you think it was graceful or not, the fact remains that you are off the hook. Just stop, to continue will be embarrassing to the family member and probably not appreciated. If you feel inclined, send gifts occasionally for NO REASON, other than "thinking of you".
As an afterthought, I also realized that this is part of growing up when we stop being treated as youngsters who need gifts, and have matured into adults. Families grow, it may be time now for the younger set to get the gifts and acknowledgments.
2006-12-06 12:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be frank and tell that person that its time to stop exchanging gifts. But that you would like to still send a card.
This has worked for me.
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2006-12-06 11:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to say, I'd have stopped after the first gift got no acknowledgement. I think the other person 'has' stopped. You should also. Send them a card if you think they're worth the postage...it doesn't sound like they think you are. Don't worry about being graceful about it, they sure weren't.
2006-12-06 13:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-14 04:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't give a gift with an expectation of reciprocation. If you want to send a gift because you care about them, send one.
2006-12-06 17:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop sending them one. This person probably thinks it's too much trouble or too expensive to send presents now that you no longer live so close by. If it's too much trouble for this person, then it's too much trouble for you too.
2006-12-08 03:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kaonashi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple weeks before the present is due, just mail a card, saying happy blah blah blah
2006-12-06 12:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by fifi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your not getting anything in return doesn't mean you should stop giving.
Givings about giving.... not receiving!! Should be doing it regardless of what you get out of it.
Keep sending gifts!
2006-12-06 12:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm mean...So I'd just stop.
If you want to know why, just ask politely, "...Did you not remember my graduation or my birthday? I feel like you've forgotten about me" or something of the sort.
...Or just stop. It all works the same.
:D
2006-12-06 12:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by The Martyr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋