I live in TX and i recently went to Pheonix AZ to meet a guy that I already knew I was in love with. There are a few things that im worried about though. 1.) the age difference.... he's 32 and I'm 19, could that cause an unforseen problem later on? 2.) He has an 8 yr old daughter, how do i bond with her and how will she affect our relationship? 3.) he wants me to move to Pheonix, and I want to... How do I tell my family? Any help is with those questions is appriciated... along with any answers to questions i havent thought of yet lol. Thank you...
2006-12-06 11:53:07 · 17 answers · asked by asking4faith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can empathize with u girl...I'm 24 and was 23 when I met my fiance. He was 42 at the time!! Now he's 43. He has a 17 year old son. I have a 4 year old and together we have a 3 month old but he's far from old physcal...looks...and sex wise. If he makes u happy then that's who u need to be with. As for me and his son...we get along and he knows that I'm not tryng to be his mom but am just tryng to get along with him and be there for him and and his father because I love his father. we're really cool. Just let the girl know that ur not tryng to replace her mom but u just want to be there for her and her Dad.. We are a happy family and our age does not affect that. LOVE HAS NO BOUNDARIES!!!
2006-12-06 12:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by *SexXyLuV* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age previous rule: If a relationship must be a secret, then you may want to not be in it. And from own adventure, at the same time as i became 20 I dated a guy who became 32 and became the international to me. you imagine on the time that the age doesn't matter, even with the undeniable fact that it quite does interior the end. there are such quite some issues that you won't be able to provide him and such quite some issues he won't be able to anticipate you to appreciate. it really is about life adventure. i'm no longer announcing you do not have any, yet only that you do not have sufficient at this aspect and that is probable area of the problem. both that, or you're embarrassed by him for some reason. evaluate the reason, or perhaps if it truly is smart to enable it bypass, then achieve this. If he's the daddy of your baby, then you may want to not be retaining him out of your life/kinfolk's life. They need to carry close him and in case you quite love him, i'm confident they'll love him too. i imagine that they had a minimum of provide him a probability, precise?
2016-11-24 19:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you really listen to someone here if they said "Don't do it?"
Well...I'll say it anyways...Don't do it!!
You still have a lot of growing to do. There's still lots of things you haven't experienced yet that can affect how you feel.
1) Age - (sex) You are at your prime, he's just about out of drive. BIG issues.
2) HIS daughter - Bonding with her would only cause her pain later when you realize that he's too old for you.
3) Once you move - You will feel trapped.
Telling the family? Well, bottom line, you are over 18, you can do what you want.
2006-12-06 12:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin, he is too old 4 u - and he has a daughter - he's done a lot more living than you have and a different type of living - his 8yr daughter is that from a marriage or from a relationship? What is the relationship between your bf and his daughter's mother? Will u have to deal with the daughter's mother? Or will you have to end up being the daughter's mother.
A lot to consider.... take it slow.... especially about moving out of state
Good Luck
2006-12-06 12:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lolitta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure if this relationship is a good
idea, the age difference really doesn't matter,
UNLESS, he has a daughter.
I have a friend who is 13, her very young
mother fell in love with an older man
and her hate for him is never ending.
Im also not sure if your family would appreciate
you moving all the way from texas to arizona
for a guy whos much older than you.
I hope I kind of help.
2006-12-06 11:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by Monica R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference might be a problem because you're still young and he's approaching middle-aged adulthood. But if you really want it to work, you could bond with his daughter by playing games and watching movies with her, doing what she likes to do. And you're 19, an adult legally, therefore your parents have no say in where you move. Tell them its for the best.
2006-12-06 11:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by happy311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my dear age is only a number, but that is a big difference and you are still young and just started to live your life so before I tie myself down with any one I would see what else life have to offer, and it may be hard for you and the daughter to get alone cause she may not respect you as her mother being you are so young and why raise someone else kid and you are really just a kid your self and I must tell you I'm 40 and I do know that it is hard to raise someone else child, the baby momma drama and all that will come as well,and before I moved to another state with A man he would have to be my husband before I move. And what are you planning to do about college and schooling in order to better and be able to take care of your self or even foot your half of the bills, and the big question to you is do he really want you for you are is he looking for a mother for his kid?
2006-12-06 12:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by MsThang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-06 11:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet there will be some problems. You need to find someone your own age. Trust me on this. I know and speak from experience. This will no last and yo need to make your own life first. You need to finish your teens and act your age. You are too young to fall in a trap like that and you will end up getting hurt. I know age aint nothing but a number, but that is a big difference. Are you sure you want to center your life around his. That is not fair. You need to attain your goals and carreer first.
2006-12-06 11:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the whole realtionship slow. when children are involed you need to go slow because if you break up the two of you won't be the only one's hurting she will think that you just didn't like her and that is why you left. You also shouldn't move there until you are sure that the two of you are going to be able to be in love in the same state.
2006-12-06 11:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by D-Xgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋