Double whammy:
First of all, the guy I like thinks I'm a stalker.
There are rumors going around that I like him.
I seriously am crying and so pissed off. I just want it to stop. I want it to all go away. I want to go away. Dissapear. My self esteem always plays a part and I blame my looks. I'm just ... it's building up and I feel like I'm going to explode and do something I'll regret. I want the rumors to stop. I want him to stop thinking of me as a stalker. God, for Chanukkah, give me this!!! Please, anyone, advice? Please.
P.s.
I seriously want to date a guy just to piss him off and stop the rumours!!!
2006-12-06 11:52:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ignore him and do your own thing. Dont talk about him to anyone. Find something else to wrap you mind around.
2006-12-06 11:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by FJ84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. There was this guy that I really liked, but I... oh god... well, it was the most HORRIBLE experience ever. Anyways, why does the guy think you're a stalker? Do you look at him alot? Well, since you're self esteem is falling apart, you have to become stronger. Don't let the rumors affect you, and ignore comments that people make. Pretend to not knoe what they're talking about, and when people ask you, say something like, "What are you talking about?" or, "Why would I ever like him..." Or you can confess to him, and wait for the results. I think it's a good idea to date a guy (maybe a guy friend that you can ask to cover for you, so that the rumors will stop) becuz it will stop the rumors (probably). Well, good luck.
2006-12-06 19:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by Bubble T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you like the guy, try your hardest to avoid him for a couple of weeks, don't look at him, don't talk to him (except if it has to do with school) and don't try to make contact with him, I know it may sound crazy, but then he won't think of you as a stalker anymore.
As for the rumors try to ingore them as much as possible, you can't do anything about, it is a thing. It happens to all.
Then best likely to do next is wait for the rumors to die down, and make she he thinks your not a stalker anymore. Then you can ask around (your friends, get connections) to see if he likes anyone or not. If so, and it is you.
GO FOR IT!
Good luck!
2006-12-06 20:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by I like cheese girl XP™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is why are you liking a guy who is such a jerk that he is making you feel BAD for liking him. That's crazy!!! Your better than that no matter what your personality is or what you look like. Everyone is better than that. Forget him. Find someone who is actually nice and ignore the stupid rumors. I don't know if you became fixated on this guy because he was hot, but hotness isn't going to make him fun to go on dates with if he is totally cruel to you.
I know you have your heart set on this guy but why is he more important to you than you are important to yourself?? I think your making a mistake with this interest. I'd hate to think that you might let him define how you see yourself when it's obvious that your worth much more than that. Think of all the stuff thatsgreat about yourself and realize that it is his loss for not being able to think for himself instead of being a sheep with a sheep's mentality.
Good Luck
2006-12-06 19:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How well do u know this guy? If u guys are in the same circle of friends and ur close enough that u talk alot.. talk to him about it say hey I have been hearing alot of stuff and I wanted to just tell u its not try...ur a great guy and all but I dont like u like that...If u guys are not close u could do the same thing talk to him if u have the courage to... just say hey can we talk and pull him aside and say I know what ppl have been saying about me and idk if u believe it or not but I dont like ya like that and I just wanted to let ya know...be like I dont care wat other ppl think but I just wanted u to know....If he is the jerk behind the rumors I would not confront him b/c he is a jerk and will only make things worse... I would say avoid him and try to find another guy... trust me something else will happen in like a week and there will be a whole aother thing the guys will be talking about... try to move on and have fun!!! Hope this helps!!
2006-12-06 20:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by sporty19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-06 19:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me u have a serious problem but there has 2 b a way to rezolve it. u no da world iz cold nowadays so any one will do anything 2 hurt u, but its not really a rumor if u do like him. if peeps goin' 'round saying u like him, den itz not a rumor actually. becuz itz true. maybe u should talk 2 him first den make yo' 1st move. i know how u feel 'bout yo' self esteem and u can like worry about how u look and jank, but itz okay. u r beautiful in yo' own way, u don't need no body telling u r beautiful and u defintly don't need no boy 2 tell u u r. Just let yo' feelings out . it's unhealthy fo it to build inside, i haz 2 learn dat 2 about me. u haz 2 letz go da selfesteem problem and let yo feelings out! SAY IT WIT' ME.......U R BEAUTIFUL IN EVERY SINGLE WAY, like Christina Aguilera said.
2006-12-06 20:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore him for now and give him some space. then later on u can try to talk to him and move things foward. good luck
2006-12-06 20:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋