i have a boyfriend and i never see him cuz he has a screwed up family. he is now living with his dad's girlfriend who has a daughter that is his age, and i keep wondering what is going on over there??? we live very far away now... we used to see eachother every saturday and sunday, and now we only see eachother like once a month. should i break up with him???
2006-12-06 11:33:18 · 55 answers · asked by Erica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes
2006-12-06 11:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
right off the back you dont want to leave him cuz of his dad has a girlfriend that is his age cuz ur gonna get blammed for being weird and thinkin that way... so what you do is since u are thinkin about breaking up with him.. you must not really like this fellow... so you tell him once a month is okay but you really miss the weeknd deal you had and you just dont see the both of you focusing on relationship and you have seen and heard that long distance is hard and that right now with what you have going whatever that may be school... work.. let that be what u gotta do and let him know that being so far distance wise just doesnt sound like a good idea anymore..
2006-12-06 11:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by burnin_inphx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Just 'cause circumstances aren't the best, doesn't mean you should jump ship. Trials come, be there for him. Don't suspect him of doing anything with the girl, unless he's given you cause before to suspect. Be trusting. I once had a long distance relationship and he lived three hours away. However when he came down he would stay with his brother, who was living at his in-laws house. Well also living at this in-laws house was a pretty girl our age. But he never did anything other than talk and become friends with her, and I always completely trusted both of them. Plus we were both busy students, so we'd only see each other once a month, and call each other once a week. But if you care for him enough, and you're willing to put forth the effort you can make it work.
Also, just shill out and stop being so jealous/possessive/clingy.
2006-12-06 11:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kali A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like now u have a long distance relationship wit him, these kind if relationships usually do not work out b/c u never see eachother enough and trust is put on the line, before all of this, did u 2 have complete trust in eachother, is u have suspisions ask him abotu them and if he doesnt answer ur questions or gets an attitude about it, most likely somethin is goin on, then again b/c of all the problems in his family he would really need someone in his life that loves him.......all in all if u have too many unanswered suspisons and just dont feel the same about him the way u used to, its best to let go....
2006-12-06 11:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your boyfriend is in the most difficult situation right now. The last thing he needs is you breaking up with him. Spend more time with him and talk to him. You talked about his screwed up family. Look, if you had a screwed up family and you ended up living with your mom's boyfriend with a son of your age, do you think you'll feel really comfortable? Do you think that having your boyfriend breaking up with you would make your life any easier?
Put thoughts into it from both sides, cuz your job as his girlfriend is to be there when he needs you. And i know it's gonna be hard seeing him but i think it'd be good for both of you
2006-12-06 11:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i have lived with 2 girls for about 5 years now. What i have learned is, if you love him you would do anything for him. So if you can call him, call him as much as possible. And if at all you get jealous or curious, simply ask him, he might lie (if something really is going on) but it will let him know that you think about it, and might change his perspective on the situation. Do what you think is best and try to make it work out.
Good Luck,
Hope all goes well.
2006-12-06 11:38:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kyle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. i would. it's gunna be hard, but long distance relationships are harder. There is no point of going out with someone who you only see once a month. sorry. if you really love him you would talk to him about visiting eachother more often if he really loved you he would try his best to do that, if not break up on the dot. just say it isn't working.
2006-12-06 11:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what can be going on over there?
they are brothers, aren't they. are you jealous. being jealous is not a reason to break up. neither distance. if there is no "systemic" problem in the relationship, don't break up.
I wouldn't break up with a guy just because of his family. all that matters is how HIS character is. if he has a screwed up family, he can still be a good guy, can't he.
but of course, you also need to know what you want. do you want this relationship at all?????
2006-12-06 11:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by warm candlelight and tea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would have to ask do u love him? have u talked to him about your feelings?
i think u already know the answer...which is probably yes, there is something going on...
how old are u and how old is he? can u all get a place together? or can he come live with you ?
if u really love him, and he loves u ...u can find a solution...but if your not seeing him just because hes cheating ...your better off with out him...
2006-12-06 11:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-12-06 11:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like somebody else then of course, but if you still like him try a little longer to get the long term thing going, but if it doesn't work then yeah you should break up with him, its not fair to you or him you could both be seeing other people that live closer to you and you can spend more time with
2006-12-06 11:35:29 · answer #11 · answered by Shira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋