My dad (whom i would probably get contact info from) had a fling with, lets call her Belle, about 10 or 12 years ago. A son resulted. My dad has never been a good father, and Belle told him he was not going to be in touch with the son, and that she would let him know how he was doing, but the son would be raised by her husband, as his. When he turns 18, or before if Belle allows it, I would love to get a hold of him and get to know him. I have 3 sisters, and no brothers. I would like for this guy to know he has two half sisters, and be able to see him...does he look like me and my little sister? Does he look alot like my dad? Either way i would definetly go through Belle first, and have her permission. If you were my half brother, do you think you would appreciate knowing your half-sisters existed, or not? Family is the very important to me, and being estranged from a sibling is killing me. Advice, opinions???
2006-12-06 10:47:17 · 8 answers · asked by kissamoose217 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh my same situation here - but only i was an only child or at least i thought so, lol. Got in touch with my little brother , I am nine years older than him, I am just flipping elated that this guy is a part of my life. I met him once when we were 13 and 4, saw him again when we were 34 and 29. Our relationship is great, he loves the idea of having a big sister and I love my lil bro - it's great. Screw the idiots that caused this dilemma, his mom and the two of use' father, call your brother tell him the truth and be patient with the development of your relationship, my brother and I also had some bumpy roads and hurt feelings especially after daddy died. Overall go get your brother girl and love him unconditionally........
2006-12-06 11:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach Belle in a respectful manner and ask if this is possible. Your half brother may not have been told that her husband isn't his biological father, and to find out at his young age could cause some problems for him and his mother and her husband. You don't want to cause any hard feelings between your brother and his mother or the man who has been his dad since birth. It is up to his mother to let him know not anyone else.
2006-12-06 18:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Country girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should keep track of him and ask to get to know him. He will appreciate it. I have a niece who does not know she has aunts or even that my brother is her dad i ran in to her and her mom and she introduced me as a friend you don't know how awful i felt she is only 8 i didn't know what to say. So i jsut said bye and walk away. The only confort i have is that she will not be little for ever and when she finds out she will resent her mom for lying and maybe even hate her. If they don't let you just keep as much info on him as possible and keep track of him and when he is older tell him yourself. He may or may not want to have anything to do with you but hey at least you will know you tried.
2006-12-06 18:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by flower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was about 17 i found out my dad had another daughter... he said he didn't know, but this happened ages ago and she was about 4 yrs older than my eldest brother.
I contacted her and so did my mother (my mother and father were split up, but my mum still went to the trouble of making her welcome) And then my half sister said that it was my mums fault that her father (and mine) didn't want to talk to her. My dad's an a** so its no ones fault but his own.
I was really angry at that, and seeing as i dont like my dad (bcuz of what he's done to everyone) i figure... she's not even related to me
:) happy story isn't it.. but good luck, just dont be too dissapointed if it turns out badly... which i really really hope it doesn't. If u really want to know him... go find him!
2006-12-06 18:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally i think you should go for it!Having a half-brother still counts as having another family member. Wishing you the very BEST!
2006-12-06 20:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by hana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go find your half brother, i would want to know if i had a brother or sister out there. you are going about it the right way asking his mother's permission, you have every right to know him.
2006-12-06 18:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know if I were him.
But I have a friend that never knew her real father and was never interested in finding him. I guess he wasn't interested either.
Guess it depends on the person, but I would!
2006-12-06 18:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by rugbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do this without a doubt. You all deserve to know who you are and who you belong to--it may be quite a nice get together.
2006-12-06 19:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋