we r in luv with each other and he's been married for 8yrs. what should i do abot his wife i want him to myself. she just had one of his babies last months and im due this month, i dont want to hurt her but i feel she needs to know about me and the baby or at least the baby. everytime i try to talk about it with him he gets mad but hes a good father to his kids and buys everything. he's a man. what should i do i dont want him to be mad butt i do need her to know?
2006-12-06 10:44:36 · 30 answers · asked by Gaudrielle W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If you tell his wife and he doesn't want you to well you can kiss him goodbye no matter how much you love him and he and his wife could fight for custody of your child and leave you with nothing. now think do you really need her to know you knew he was married that was the risk you took so good luck. sounds like he would pick his wife over you.
2006-12-06 11:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by what gives 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have been doing more than just 'talking' to this married man .What a scum ball he is . He will do you exactly like he is doing his wife . Dump you for the next dummy that satisfies his ego . Now be smart and get a DNA test from him because he will say he is not the father . So, before you let on see to it that you get something from him that he does not know about, like a cigarette but or a glass he drank out off . Make sure you get child support because honey you are gonna need it .
As far as the wife is concerned, mind your own business and do nothing . The poor women has a cross to bear . Eventually she'll find out when you slap him with a paternity suit . Let it be a lesson and never fool around with married men .
Good Luck .
2006-12-06 10:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean what should you do with his wife??? You’re the third party here. Remember that you were sleeping with someone else’s husband, no matter how he or you tried to justified it. If he really wanted to be with you he would have left his wife already and the reason why he hasn’t told his wife about you and doesn’t want to is because he doesn’t want to leave his wife for you—you’re dealing with a man who “ALREADY” had a family. I’m sorry to say all of this to you especially since you are carrying the man’s baby, but there really isn’t anything you can do besides collecting child support. Let’s get real here okay, he gets mad whenever you bring up the subject obviously he still wants to be with his wife, you were just someone he was stupid enough to mess with.
Don’t be so anxious to tell his wife, she’ll find out sooner than later and you might be sorry for it too! But whatever the outcome your main focus should be on your baby. I think you know and I know that he isn't going to leave her for you. So, take care of your baby and collect child support!!!
2006-12-06 11:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by UnknownJaneDoe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it kind of late for this? You're almost due.
I don't kow the situation fully, but he's been married for 8 years already. A lot of men ditch the side woman and stick with their wife. After all, she already knows how ugly he is in the morning, and stuck with him.
If he hasn't told her now, he probably isn't going to mention it to her unitl there's a paternity suit. Afetr all, he had 9 months to do it. And you say their baby together is about a month old? He's definitely going to pay attention to the newborn and accuse you of sleping around ('cos that's how men are). Sorry, honey, you're in for a long ride. Just hang on tight, and don't give up.
2006-12-06 11:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by blue-angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... so many misconceptions in one question! First of all, no-one can be forced to go through a bar mitzvah ceremony. All you had to to was have a serious talk with your rabbi and share your views. Did you ever honestly do that? If not, why ever not? Second, you say you "do not believe in any of that crap," well.. I have to wonder about your Christian religious convictions if you are choosing to believe the G-d of Abraham and the scriptures which are the basis of your "Old Testament" are so much "crap." Third, I presume your mother is over the age of 12, yes? That's when she became a bat mitzvah. She may never have had a ceremony, but that doesn't mean she never became a daughter of the commandments... that happens automatically when a Jewish girl turns 12 (age 13 for boys). That she believes in Jesus, as do you, make you both apostates to the faith of Judaism, but since you seem to think of it as so much balderdash, that shouldn't bother you. Fourth, your friends are incorrect. If you believe in Jesus, you are Christian, not Jewish. And anyone can say "Merry Christmas!" since the wish is usually for the person you are greeting. That's like saying an Italian person can't wish an American a "Good Independence Day!" just because the Italian isn't American. Fifth, technically, all religious Jews are "messianic," since we are waiting for the messiah. If you believe in Jesus as the messiah, you are Christian. Neither Passover or Yom Kippur are traditions, they are important religious holidays; yes, there is a difference. Is there something wrong with you? As far as I can tell, you have some issues with your father and have turned upon the faith of your birth. If your belief in Jesus brings you spiritual joy, that's fine, but please remember his commandments to love G-d and love others. It's not exactly love to describe Judaism as "any of that crap." You should also learn to be more assertive. To go through with a bar mitzvah ceremony when you don't believe in the very precepts of Judaism, and to let your friends bully you about your beliefs... both are very, very wrong. Is it just me, or does someone else smell a troll here?
2016-05-23 02:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even get involved with a married man? It's not your place to tell her anything. You are the other woman, if he wanted to leave his wife, he would. You say the two of you are in love, but think about it...he's still with his wife. You knew what you were getting into when you started dating him. Leave the wife alone, she's done nothing to you...
You on the other hand, have knowingly been sleeping with her husband.
2006-12-07 02:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about this before you do anything. Your the other woman for a reason. Karma is a true *****!!! And when it comes back to you don't be surprised you said he's a man. A real MAN wouldn't **** around on his wife w/ anyone. And you can't be real a woman if you continued to lay w/ him when you found out he was married. Even if he told you from the beginning. You both will burn for this one. My advice I hope the wife don't beat your ass because u damn sure deserve it.
2006-12-06 10:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by DADDYS' GIRL 4LF 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing as he is the boss and is getting best of both worlds a girl friend and a wife but watch out you have now because a burden as you are pg and I am afraid his wife wins ,,,,So make sure he supports the baby the law is on your side there since it is his.
2006-12-06 12:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really wanted to leave her he would have done it ahwile ago besides you might not see it this way but if her really loves you then why is he going back to his wife? Your getting the short end of the stick and you need to start concentrating on making a good life with your child and you and get him out of the picture. He will do them same to you if you guys stay together.
2006-12-06 10:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by fyrechick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yah, he doesnt want her to know because then she will leave him. Of course, he will not go with you after she leaves him because you told her. However, he is NEVER going to leave his wife for you. They never do!!!
He wants to have his cake & eat it too. You are the mistress...
nothing more. Sorry to be so cruel, but its the cold, hard truth.
He does not love you because if he did.......he would not be with his wife anymore. He would have already told her about you.
He would be divorced and married to you.
I say do what is right for your baby. Walk away from this man.
Once his wife knows about you he is going to walk away from you. He is going to deny that you were ever an item.... he will deny that the baby you are carrying is his.
He is only with you because you let him have you & his wife too.
Have more respect for yourself & your child......walk away and find a REAL MAN!!! One that isnt a cheater.
2006-12-06 11:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋