I think your mom is insecure and wants more attention than she deserves. Mothers that pull this kind of crap are the ones that need help. Seriously, go put her on Prozac or something. Because if she keeps doing this to you, you are going to end up taking Prozac.
2006-12-06 11:30:53
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answered by jderk77 3
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There's no telling what I would say to my child if I was mad enough. I will say, though, that my grandma used to use a similar guilt trip on me and it made me feel really awful, especially since she was already so old by that point, and who knew how long she'd really be alive for? It's not fair, especially when you've already told her how it makes you feel. The best you can do is try to ignore her when she starts saying things like that, because she's being really unfair to you, and also because you know deep down that she never really means that and that she loves you.
2006-12-06 18:44:20
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answered by fizzygurrl1980 7
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I would never say that to my child. It's never a good idea to send your kids on a guilt trip especially something like that. I really can think of no defense against that, except to apologize, even if you weren't really the one to blame. It would be easiest to just avoid the confrontational situations altogether, but I know that's insanely difficult (I'm really stubborn, and my mom and I get into arguments every so often). I really hope that everything goes well and turns out okay!
2006-12-06 18:33:01
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answered by Abbey 3
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I would never say this to my child, honestly. But of coarse if I was sick like that I wouldn't tell my child because I couldn't stand causing her or him so much pain. But I know in my heart that I would have to at some point. I hope it's not anything too deadly. And i'm so sorry. I hope all goes well, try to talk to her calmly and be there for her.
2006-12-06 18:31:11
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answered by SweetCocoaAngel 1
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My mom says that (exact words!) to me all the time. She also calls my 3 sisters and i and complains that we never go see her, she's all alone, etc. My little sister is 18 and left for college in Sept. Its amusing to us, because her mom is the same way, and she's always complaining about her mom. And telling us that if we ever see her acting like that, to stop her.
Basically, Moms want to be loved and appreciated, and they sometimes have a hard time letting go. My mom is a huge part of my life, and she knows i love her. When your mom says that next, look at her and say, "i wont have to worry...because i'll probably die first, just from your nagging!" or something like that to lighten the mood and tell mom that you still love her, but she's acting like a child. Hope that helps, good luck!!
2006-12-06 18:36:34
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answered by kissamoose217 3
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No way. She is trying to manipulate you. She knows how bad it makes you feel. My mom does that too.
Stop reacting to it and she'll stop saying it. It is a game some parents play with their kids.
If you really care about her then try and find out about her health from either her or the doctors themselves.
You can also go to the doctors with her so you know what they are telling her.
2006-12-06 18:31:24
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answered by Sunrise 5
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your mother is wrong for using this to affect you.you need to tell her that you love her but she needs to quit putting this guilt trip on you.i would have a heart to heart talk with her and explain that it hurts and worries you when she talks like that.maybe your brothers dont listen to her thats why she doesnt go there with them. maybe use reverse physiciatry on her. tell her that she wont have to worry if something ever happens to you.that she will have to depend on your brothers and that she will have to put the guilt trip on them.it sounds like she wants you to feel sorry for her.she really is craving attention. do you and your mom go shopping or do anything as a family?is ther something that she likes to do? get her involved with some activities and try and get her motivated with something she likes. take her to church and see if she would like to get involved with the senoir citizens activities. she is also bored and this can cause problems with families as well. find out what interests her.
2006-12-06 18:51:17
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answered by jbearbooboo 3
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Hah! My mother and my deceased grandmother both said that to each other and now my mom say's it to my sister and I. Yes, it's a horrible, terrible thing to say to a child no matter how old we get. (I'm over 40), but they say it exactly so you will feel terrible! It's called passive/agressive behavior. Some mom's don't play fair and they use your love for them as a weapon. No, I will never say that to my daughters.
2006-12-06 18:34:44
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answered by karen W 4
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I feel for you! Your mother should not say this to you. It is wrong and you should not feel guilty. Whatever it is that is wrong with her you didn't do it! Even if she is mad at the world it is not your fault!! Don't feel bad anymore. She likes to do this because it makes her feel as if she has power of you and it makes her feel loved. Wrong way, but that is the way she is. You need to free yourself from this and make sure that you don't fall pray to this behavior. She is nasty about this. Remember her illness is not your fault!
2006-12-06 18:40:26
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answered by lot2talkabt 2
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it is a mother controling her daughter scenario using guilt. alot of families go through the same thing. try not to let it get to you tell her you love her and leave it at that.
2006-12-06 18:29:59
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answered by blue_eyed_woman_23 3
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