I am a male and can't have an ORGASM. Is it really a big deal?

Question

Yes, most women would love a man that can last long in the sack, but when my gf and I have sex, there is nothing she can do to bring me to orgasm. She tries hand jobs, bj's don't work, and sex doesn't work. It feels great, but nothing! What the heck is my problem. She thinks it's her, but I've had this problem in the past. I like focusing on her rather than her on me. I want her to have pleasure. I like to give oral. I really can care less if I have an orgasm. Ladies, if your man never had an orgasm, but he told you that he loved you and it didn't matter to him, would you believe him? Would you think you were doing something wrong if he told you that it truly wasn't you? Would it hurt your relationship?

I am able to orgasm on my own, so I don't need a urologist. In the past, I have orgasmed with other women, but it's always taken me a very, very long time (2 hrs +). Also, I don't whack off 10 times. My buddies give me crap and tell me to stop whacking off so much, but I really don't do that very often. Maybe once a week.

Answer 1

actually i know someone that has to have lots of protein in order to orgasm. that could be the problem. try eating a large amount of protein right before sex and see what happens. if that doesn't work, then perhaps go see a doctor.

if i were in your gf's shoes...i would at least take into account that you get excited for me. even if you don't orgasm...you are at least hard. so you gotta be attracted somewhat.

Answer 2

whoa! honestly a lengthy ramble and that i'd be worry-free i did not study 3/4 of it cyber web porn can honestly preclude your overall performance even with the truth that because it provides unrealistic portrayals of ladies human beings interpreting your precis paragraph each and every thing sounds common... ditch the dry humping in case you want an orgasm... yet in all truth only concentration on the excitement and talk with your better 0.5 once you're stressful even if she's taking area in herself. ask her what she likes, concentration on her

Answer 3

sounds like your problem is medical. i'd check with a doctor.. that doesn't sound right at all.

as far as your sex life, as long as you are able to keep it hard, then you should be able to satisfy your girlfriend.. but if you aren't able to come, no matter how long you do it, then that sounds like a medical problem.

as far as not being able to orgasm, yes it is a big deal.. you are missing out on the best physical part of sexuality!

Answer 4

A thing like that could only be good for a relationship.... heh what kinda woman wouldn't want a man that pleases her before himself?? If you still get enjoyment out of it, then there's no problem. If its happened in the past 2 than its obviously not her.. so she should be happy that you do so much to please her

Answer 5

Nothing like a man with alot of stamina, but sorry to hear that you can't orgasm. Maybe you should try a lube.

Answer 6

Have you ever had one? Or is it just this girl? Can you achieve one with manual stimulation? If you answered no to all of these questions,I would say,seek professional help,you obviously have a problem! Maybe your gay and don't want to admit it to yourself.Your kidding yourself if you think that she isn't going to think it's her fault,she will.I mean come on,yours is a rare problem indeed,to say the least!

Answer 7

nah your missing out you probably do have issues .some mental block maybe insecurity try smoking weed and to totally relax.she probably would like u to once

Answer 8

i would think there was something wroung and keep trying other things. so let her try other things. she might be the one to make u realy happy if u know what i mean.

Answer 9

LOL that's hilarious.

At least there's no mess to clean up.

Answer 10

just be patient until you reach puberty