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Is there a nice way to out right ask someone to move? A family member (single, and making 75k or more a year) is living rent free in a house and won't get the hint from his parents that another family needs to use the house (family of four, dealing with a bit of finacial problems/military disability). He is bragging about getting ready to buy a huge tv and surround system (6k-cash) and this other family can't even put food on the table. Parents have hinted to move out and so has family. The guy is trashing the place, and not keeping the long standing tradition of the house, improve, fix, and renew. (The house belonged to the great grandfather who has passed)

Any suggestions as to how to ask this guy to leave without making him mad, and still make him see that he would be helping a family get back on their feet. Without being tacky.

The single guy and the family do not live in the same house. They live nearly an hour apart.

After Leon died (great grandfather) it became the responsiblity of Chester (grandfather to the family, father to the single guy) Leon said that the house should be for who ever needs it. So it went to one of Chesters sons, who bought a house two years ago. That is when M (single guy) moved in. At the time the other family was military so it wasn't offered to them. No one but M lives in the house and only house sustaining bill he has is property tax due twice yearly and utilities which are still in Leons name. Hope that didn't confuse anyone and shed a little light on the subject. There was no will and nothing in paper to say this is how I want it. And Chester has sole responsiblity on the house (only child of Leon)

Answer 1

DEAR THAT WHAT WE ALL FACE IN LIFE,A TEST TO SEE WHO'S THE BEST/IN SPIRIT YOU SEE/GIVE THEM LOVE NOT ANGER AND HATE.FOR THIS IS WHAT THEY LIVE ON AND NOT LOVE THE SPIRIT OF GIVING/GIVE NOT WHAT THEY WANT,THEY WILL SEE THE LIGHT AND MOVE ON.UNTIL THEN JUST LAUGH AT THEM ,AND LIVE WITH IT AND GIVE IT ALL TO THEM AND YOU BECOME BLESSED AND WIN IN THE END

Answer 2

So who inherited the house? Is it split among all family members equally? If he has so much money he should be more than willing to help his family members in any possible way he can. However, selfish people like Scruge, never cared about other people's problems. So this guy is not going to take a hint. You need to be straightforward. Say it like it is. Be straight on all of the above subjects. SAY IT LIKE IT IS. It's time for him to go! Rent a UHaul truck and bring it over. lol
Don't be rude.
Secondly whomever inherited the house has rights to the house completely.
Also, where do the parents fit in to this picture? They live in the house? They own the house? They inherited the house? Are they responsible for the house? If none of the above then he is not going to listen to them. Trying to reason with this guy may be a challenge. Everyone needs to sit down with him and start a family meeting.

Answer 3

Well, that would be like asking him to buy the cow when he gets the milk for free. KWIM????
You have to motivate him to buy that cow. What would be a good motivation???? Being single and able to be loud and obnoxious in his own place??? More closet space??

And being a little subvertive, and doing little things to make it less inviting to stay is not out of the question. Don't do his laundry or cook with cheese, maybe let the kids be a little more annoying sometimes, not evil things, but you certainly want to provide a little motivation to make that decision for himself, and then he will think it is a great idea!

Answer 4

it would seem that Chester is the only one who can make this decision, because residency has been established the boorish mister m will have to be given a 30 day notice to vacate, then the other family can move in

Answer 5

Give him 30 days written notice that the house is being sold to a family. They will be moving in on ________, 2007. You must vacate the premises prior to that date.

Answer 6

his parents should tell him to move..........