Should my 27 month old remember the rules?

Question

Every day I need to reminde my 2 year old not to close the doors, no fridge, don't touch the babies head, and the list goes on. Should she be able to remember these rules or should I lighten up?

Answer 1

I don't mean to burst your bubble, but she isn't going to remember them.
At that age, toddlers have a short memory span, so they need to be told over and over for them to remember.
My son is three-and-a-half now, and I still have to remind him of things, only not as much because he's starting to remember a lot of things now.
Your baby probably understands that she is doing something that doesn't make you happy, and will stop for the moment, but she'll forget not long after because she wasn't sure exactly what it was that displeased you.
Remember, experts say a child doesn't begin to really remember things until about age three, so do lighten up a bit, OK? Toddlers are naturally curious people and want to explore EVERYTHING around them.
Try just reminding her whenever you see her do it, and praise her when she remembers on her own. They love being spoken to even if they only speak gibberish for now. You'll be surprised how quick she'll pick up, though.
Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Some rules she should be able to remeber. AS far as closing the door, not sure she would get that one. not touching the hot stove, she should get. but sometime may need some reminding. Also, is she forgeting the rules or things like no shutting the door and fridge thing could be definance, esp w./ new baby around.

Answer 3

A small child such as yours has a fewer short term memories than they have long term memories. Do you remember anything when you were 27 months old? I sure do not.

Every child grows different than the next. I started a time out session for our daughter when a rule is broken. For example, if she throws a toy, I ask her to go to time out. If she says no, I take her to her time out spot, which is at the staircase. She is not allowed any toys, especially her baby doll. I tell her she cannot throw toys as she may accidentally hit her baby sister. My oldest daughter is 3 1/2, her time out is 3 1/2 minutes. After the time out is over I repeat the reason why she was in time out. I make sure she understands, give her a hug, tell her I love her and send her on her way.

On the flip side, my daughter sent me to time out when I tossed the newspaper in the recycle bin. "No throwing, pappa" she said. I thought I would get 41 glorious minutes to myself, she left me alone for 4 minutes before she said she forgave me and that I had to play with her.

You will have to repeat yourself. With time it will get better. I know it is getting better all the time.

Good luck and I hope it helps.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

In a parenting class I was told that a child has to be told 500 times before remembering something. However, she will not remember at all if there is no reason to do so. For instance, if she gets a hug for remembering or a slap on the hand for not remembering then you will get better results.

Answer 6

At this age, she is just getting an idea of rules... she won't be able to remember them all yet. If she can't follow a two-part command (such as: go put this in the trash, and then take your toy to your room), then she isn't cognitively ready to remember rules. For two and three year olds, rules have to be few and simple. "Walking feet", "quiet voices" and "hands to yourself" are about all you'll need at this stage, and about all she can remember. You will spend a majority of your time repeating yourself... repetition is how toddlers learn. Here's an idea of making a "rule" chart for your toddler:
- take digital (or regular) photos of your child exhibiting the rules you want her to follow (such as finger to her lips in a "shhh" manner for "quiet voices" or a picture of her feet for "walking feet")
- mount these pictures with the words that go with them (walking feet with the pic of feet) in a list on a large sheet of construction paper.
-laminate or cover with contact paper to make it "toddler friendly"
-she can look at it and refer to it when you are talking about the rules. Tell her: "We are inside, we use quiet voices" and point to the picture depicting that action.
- You can make little handprints (you can use hers if you want) and put the traditional circle with a line through it indicating "don't", and put them on anything you don't want her to touch. This will be a visual reminder for her, and you won't spend all your time telling her not to do or touch something.

Answer 7

I have a 21 month old daughter and i know it sounds like you are repeating yourself over and over again but at this age they are smart but their memory is still getting there. I have the some problem with my daughter keep doing what you are doing and you toddler will slowly get the hang of things. Oh and sometimes they just do it to test you so just keep doing what your doing and you will be fine

Answer 8

If you have to remind her then she cannot remember them. Toddlers live in the moment. Yes, she can remember certain things, and she can certainly be held accountable for not obeying certain things, but you'll still have to remind her.

You'll still be doing this when she's 16, so hunker down for the ride.

Answer 9

um lighten up plz sounds like she may be trying to get some one on one time and thats the only way she knows how allow her to interact with the baby and tell her how much you love her too dont forget when telling her something like dont touch the baby head explaine why one on one time is important to her because she still needs it

Answer 10

u bet
but remember that attention span is 1 minute per year

so they will remember for 2 minutes

lighten up - but remind them, patiently & lovingly

u can du it